Thinking this is an over-reaction to my thoughtless comment

[Clemcy]

Today at work I spent lunch with some colleagues who have children a similar age to my eldest, 16-18 sort of age. We were talking about uni/fees/tech/accomodation etc.
One colleagues wife passed away when their child was younger, he sold the house, moved away to somewhere much cheaper mortgage free etc. and put the rest of the money from the sale away for his daughter.
He was explaining he's not worried as he has enough to buy her a flat/house when she's in second year, pay her fees and keep some back for wedding/emergencies. He quite causally said "yeah there is about £800,000 waiting for her."
This is insane to me, my house is worth a quarter of that, while I appreciate the circumstances that have allowed them to accumulate that money are awful it is a large sum!!
I thoughtlessly said "oh wow lucky girl" and everyone sort of looked at me, I realised and apologised.
Since I've gotten home 3 separate people have messaged me to let me know said colleague is quite upset at my insensitive comment, and there is nothing lucky about your mum dying - I never said there was!!
I messaged him to apologise but he just replied with "no amount of money will bring her mum back, be careful what you say"

I'm now sat quite upset, I genuinely wasn't thinking, heard the amount and thought wow!
AIBU to think this is an overreaction to a thoughtless comment?

Thank you and good to see honesty here. As I said I lost both my parents when I was still a child. Yes I'd love them back but death is an inevitable part of life and most of us will experience the loss of parents sooner or later.

Would money left to me have been great when they died? Of course it would have been but I never had that privilege and my life has been much harder without it.

I don't get why people are so quick to rebuke that on mn when it's the truth.

Have you read the previous comments by the person I was replying to? Actually used the phrase "boo hoo" about the kid who lost their mother Her numerous bitter, nasty comments were absolutely uncalled for, hence my reply

People get twitchy when they know they are lucky to have been born into wealth on here and instead of being gracious and empathetic towards those less fortunate they claim they are bitter and should be happy with what they have. It sickens me to be honest.

I’ve reported her personal attack on you,

I find her previous comments which I was replying to vile and uncalled for so we have that in common

So report them, don’t be nasty in return.

I didn’t see bitterness, just disbelief on those people who won’t accept that having £800K is a fortunate position to be in, many of us have lost parents and are not in that position

Look back at my comments, I said nothing vile. The girl has 800k plus a flat and it is a highly fortunate position financially. The wife's death is not really relevant.

He choose to sell his own assets and give the daughter the cash. Many of us lose parents at a young age, we aren't handed a million quid years after...

I do feel pity for her losing her mum but her getting the massive windfall as a young adult which really isn't related to her mum's death then boohoo, poor her. My heart bleeds....

A sarcastic boo hoo about a child who lost their father because she's jealous of their money among other disgusting comments. If she can give the sarcasm out she can also take it in return

Yes your sarcastic "boo hoo" about the dead mother REALLY conveyed your pity

my boohoo was about their financial set up, nothing to do with the mum as the mum didn't leave it to the daughter. I already said the 2 aren't really related.

Julia Roberts and Paul Mc Cartney both lost parents as kids which is sad but they still had great lives of privilege in the years after. So yea sad they lost parents early but not sad they had massive fame and fortune on the years after....and that fame and fortune can't be written off just because they lost their parents young. And their privilege can't be denied, it doesn't work like that.

Well that’s mature isn’t it. Were there any personal attacks or was that just you giving them out?

Personal attacks are used when somebody is losing an argument or has been defeated in a debate.