To think this is probably the worst mistake ever

[Justbreakingnow]

I know, it’s not forever, but does anyone enjoy this? Memories become hazy over the years and it’s easy to remember the baby days as this lovely simple time. Mine just cries and cries relentlessly. Won’t feed and won’t really interact with anything.

So I’ve just lost it. I’ve screamed and screamed and put the baby somewhere I can’t hear and I don’t care. It feels a bit like -
well, I’ve tried all day to comfort and got nowhere so is there actually any point? I’m miserable and I can’t see forwards.

it is! Thank you for recommending it, and I’m glad it helped you too x

I remember the baby days with my first, it was hard. Husband was doing 12 hour shifts and I had no one, no friends and no family to help. I felt so alone. You need to take a break. Don't wait til you are at breaking point. Put the baby somewhere safe and get a few minutes peace, as often as you need. Try and make some friendships , someone you can rely on and to lend a hand to each other. Big hugs and hope it gets better soon xx

The twisting and squirming does sound like colic/tummy pains. There’s a lot in this thread so I’ve missed if she’s been checked over by a doc. Colic is the worst. Hang in there op, it absolutely does get better xxxx

I’d second maybe to either ask the GP or health visitor to check baby over.

First one wasn’t feeding well odd the breast. At her 10 day check she had lost 8oz. HV suggested I express so tried that and she committed it all back. That was the reflux sign. It also took me an hour to express and then an hour for her to take the milk as we had baby gaviscon to thicken. She was on 2 hourly feeds too as she was born 5lb 8oz.

Both mine had reflux. Wasn’t really taken seriously for a while. They also both had a cows milk allergy. Again not taken seriously. First time was a minefield. I suspected the allergy as I’ve a lactose intolerance and my mum said o struggled with regular formula. My GP tried soya first but that made her worse and then gave us hypoallergenic. Also gave use meds for reflux. Reflux was obvious as she literally brought up what felt like most of every bottle. once settled on the right formula she was a different child. Second child came and we had the same. Wouldn’t give me the same formula. Tried lacto free first. She also had a permanent rah. HV came during a scream fest and rang GP to demand the hypo allergenic milk. A couple of days later she was a different child. I’d also tried A&E as well for the screaming as it did continue after the milk was sorted, just less, and she also had reflux but the silent type.

If all that is not the issue then there’s other things that can helps. White noise can help some. Or playing music quietly.

Getting out to baby groups saved my sanity.

I think lots of us have had days like these. Some people won’t admit it. My first born was like this. Turned out to be a lactose intolerance - eventually prescribed drops to add to milk. Can you talk to your health visitor or GP see if there’s an underlying cause? There were days I hated having a baby but those days got fewer and further apart as time went on. Good luck. You’re not alone x

If you’re just chucking her on a mat or in the pram she probably wants to be upright.

have you tried a pushchair, a bumbo, a high chair, a bouncer thing you hang in doorways?

also are you weaning? At six months she’s probably hungry & if she’s teething wanting something to chew

yes teething goes on FOREVER …. Like the next 12+ years!

sounds to me like your baby is ready for the next stage and your still treating her like a three month old. They grow fast! Don’t let it be painful for you both.

@Justbreakingnow how are you and baby today?

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I just used to sing all the time: great exercise, kept me calm, helped soothe baby,

I really feel for you. My oldest was like that- sometimes I just had to put her down, close the door and have a cup of tea. The first two years was a nightmare and I was living abroad and knew no one.I did eventually go to the British consulate and they put me in touch with some ex pat mother and baby groups and life got slightly better. I also had a 2nd baby and she was a breeze!. Dd1 is currently expecting her first baby and I hope it's not like her.
Going for long works and meeting up with other mothers saved me - but it was like she could sense we were near home and she'd start screaming again. Even my neighbours-we lived in a flat used to ask how's the big cryer (translation). It did get a bit easier when she could play with toys .

I had planned on exclusively bf dd1 but she was such a nightmare that I started mixed feeding at 6 weeks and by 3 months she was bottlefed. She seemed to prefer the bottle and at least dh could feed her and give me a break.