Oh FFS.
This is NOT a feminist issue...that Handmaid's Tale analogy is ridiculous.
Some women (and men) when they go out for dinner, can be loud, obnoxious show offs and shriek, yell, CACKLE (yes) and make absolute ear splitting noise that makes it impossible for other people to enjoy themselves.
My last birthday meal was ruined by a group of women celebrating a retirement, mainly one drunk woman in her 60s who decided to "entertain" everyone by screaming laughter, getting up and showing off on her chair while the whole table laughed at her, banging on the table demanding more booze, trying to grab the teenage boy servings bum, shrieking about vibrators and dildos, F this B that, screaming that people leaving because of her hideous behavior were miserable c-nts and "posh stuck up bitches".
Two of my friends were new mums on their first child free night out in ages and one of them who was suffering from PND and just wanted a nice night out to dress up and have a nice meal with her girlfriends actually cried at how miserable a night it was. She was called a "miserable snobby bitch who needed to learn how to have a good time", by a woman double her age from that table when they overheard us asking to move.
This was a michelin starred restaurant, in the countryside on a Tuesday. We could not talk to each other at all. The sound went right through us. I am neurodiverse and was in physical pain. If I hadn't have been on Methylphenidate at that point I would have had a meltdown and I have a meltdown about once every 3 years, so rarely.
She was fully aware of her behavior and complaints were only egging her on. Only two women she was with seemed embarrassed and tried to tell her she was being too loud. This only made her worse. And her friends did what many on here have...excused her vile, anti social behaviour by saying, "she's only having a laugh, if people don't like it they should have stayed home being fucking miserable".
Every single table around them in the same section asked to move. 6 tables in total. The staff kept apologising profusely but there were no other tables free. They weren't enjoying serving these women but junior staff admitted that, as there were twenty of them and the rest of us were tables of 3-8 people, the management would rather the rest of us left before desert than the larger table. The young lad who had been harassed said, "count the bottles on that table, bear in mind they're still ordering and you'll figure out how much money they've brought in before they've even bought food. No,
it's not right but it's business and I need this job so I have to put up with this most nights." And he encouraged us to vote with our feet and leave a Trip Advisor review.
So obviously we won't be back but, if a "quiet" michelin starred restaurant in the middle of nowhere on a Tuesday in January wasn't safe from this anti-social behaviour, where is?
Look at the rise in people being thrown out of theatres for their obnoxious behaviour and the associated videos on social media...I've never seen one of them that wasn't a foul mouthed, shrieking, drunk, middle aged woman (and I am a middle aged woman).
Our sex doesn't absolve us from shitty behaviour.
There is a huge difference between a genuine laugh and a normal level of conversation and what OP is talking about and what many of us have experienced being on the receiving end of.