To be pissed off the cake was cut before DE saw it?

[Ruinedcake]

DSrecently turned 3, and I had a party for him. I’m not very good at baking so paid for a local cake maker to bake a cake which tied in with his favourite colours and interests. As you can imagine, it wasn’t cheap.

The actual party went well but as the children were sitting eating DH and FIL started flapping around saying that they needed to cut the cake. I was trying to stop them but both are very difficult to distract when they get an idea in their heads, and I was also contending with various other things. So to cut a long story short they both cut it before DS has a chance to look at it.

I know it doesn’t ’matter’ really but I am annoyed.

Ugh so annoying that they cut it before the reveal/happy birthday/taking of photos with ds and cake. Are they normally so anxious about stuff?

Next year I'd get your husband and FIL a separate cake for them to cut since they have the self control of a toddler.

I'm not sure what's odder.

Them having no self control or you not putting candles on the cake.

You're all bonkers.

no candles for spit safety or fire safety?
if spit safety, posh/garish individual muffin with candles
big cake no candles

I know in the grand scheme of things there are much worse things to happen, but yeah, I'd be mega pissed off with them.

Bloody idiots!

Better than being needlessly rude though eh @DinaofCloud9 ?

I couldn’t care less about spit - just was a little dubious about fire and three year olds! I concede it probably was over cautious. But I don’t think it warrants that response to be honest.

@DinaofCloud9 i completely agree!

Two grown men got into a flap about a 3 year olds birthday cake? How do you put up with such a pathetic family?

You’re focusing on the wrong things. Three yr olds couldn’t give a stuff about a fancy cake or it being cut too soon.

They want singing, and candles and the buzz of danger when blowing them out. 😂😂

Buy a Colin Caterpillar cake next time as it’s a good size for candles.

No candles though! 😮

Have you asked these 2 clowns why they did it despite you asking them not to?

Why were they in such a flap over cutting a birthday cake?! Surely it's hardly a matter of major urgency. I do think it's a bit rubbish not having candles - for a 3 year old that's the most special part. But that aside, yeah - I'd be really annoyed at them cutting the cake.

You banned the candle-blowing?! But that's the best bit for kids! PFB-ing to the extreme. I don't therefore blame your DH and FIL for getting on with cutting it. Bit pointless it just sitting there not being eaten if you're not going to do candles.

I just don’t get it? If you said no don’t cut it because we haven’t sung yet why didn’t they listen you. Does your husband usually ignore you?

Probably because I’m a pathetic odd sort myself?

Seriously, I hate MN for this! I’m now wondering if all my guests were whispering about my weirdness. Oh, well <shrug> At least I’m not rude!

They probably jumped in to cover up the bizarre candle ban before the other parents remarked on it.

Oh come on OP. She wasn’t needlessly rude. You were being extremely PFB and have asked for opinions on if you are BU on mumsnet, this is online internet forums. I’m surprised nobody in real life has told you your no candle rule is a bit bonkers though.

I mean, he's 3. He's not going to remember and probably didn't give a single toss that his cake had been cut as long as he got to eat cake.

Your husband and FIL are right weirdos though.

What don’t you get @MintTwirl ?

How old are you? I’m sorry if I sound condescending but surely you’re at LEAST in your twenties and you’ve never, ever, not even once, had someone ignore you?

Are you using MN in a way that allows the quote function to save us having to scroll back to see what you're replying to?

Have candles next time. Ask DH to find DC, lead the singing and light the candles as one of his jobs.
Did the cake taste delicious?

I'd be fuming.

Oh, I disagree. I think some of the comments here are really rude and quite upsetting.

Of course none of you will give a hoot but I’ll let you know anyway. Weirdo, odd, are upsetting.

No candles sounds a bit sad, however overall as long as your ds had a lovely party I don't think you need to worry about any of it.

I’m in my 40’s and no my husband doesn’t ignore me because he respects me.

And yes you are coming across as condescending but tbh I’m just sad for you if you think it’s normal to be ignored by your husband.

How's he going to multi task three jobs when cake management is too much 😂