To be pissed off the cake was cut before DE saw it?

[Ruinedcake]

DSrecently turned 3, and I had a party for him. I’m not very good at baking so paid for a local cake maker to bake a cake which tied in with his favourite colours and interests. As you can imagine, it wasn’t cheap.

The actual party went well but as the children were sitting eating DH and FIL started flapping around saying that they needed to cut the cake. I was trying to stop them but both are very difficult to distract when they get an idea in their heads, and I was also contending with various other things. So to cut a long story short they both cut it before DS has a chance to look at it.

I know it doesn’t ’matter’ really but I am annoyed.

So none of the parents were supervising the younger children then?! We also had younger children there starting from 10 months old…guess what?! they were supervised around the lit candles!

The post has dwelled on the lack of candles because you’re just as unreasonable as
you cake cutting husband…your kid would not have cared what the cake looked like…as there were no candles for him to blow out

The times I've spent ages planning and organising something only to have somebody 'helpful' cock it up!

I feel for you OP and I would have been furious.

No, cutting the cake at a birthday party isn't a thing, but looking at the cake before it is cut is a thing.

How on earth have you missed this crucial detail????

Not having candles may be a bit precious but it in no way compares to prematurely mutilating an object made to be admired and enjoyed.

Your post would make perfect sense of it weren't for one important detail - it was not the "precise timing" of the cake being sliced, but the fact that the birthday boy and guests hadn't had a chance to see the bloody thing.

I think you know this, so why are you pretending otherwise?

Having always made an effort to make my children’s birthday cakes visually appealing I’d have been very pissed off if anyone had cut one up before it had been seen in its full glory (candles or not). I totally see why you were annoyed.

Why are posters being such dicks on this thread? Over candles?

YANBU OP.

This happened at a wedding I went to. The cake was delivered and instead of putting it out on display for guests to look at, the kitchen staff cut it up! Even the bride and groom never saw it or got a picture with it!

Are you serious

You're not

1. Hide the knife
2. Buy an extra cake, the cheap traybake style. Pre-cut that and have it ready to distribute when required. Saves times and means you can take the majority of the fancy cake home with you
3. He'll never remember anyway
4. Three small candies aren't a massive fire hazard.

Your indignant ire doesn’t change my post. It doesn’t matter when the cake got cut,it didn’t detrimentally impact the day . Or the guests enjoyment or the main purpose of the party, eg birthday celebrations . Children as participants were fed,partied and given a gift bag. Birthday boy was the main deal. Minuatie. about when the cake was cut is inconsequential

unless of course you’re aligned with the candle withholding and denial is a deeply scarring trauma in which case,,,,Tavistock is that way ➡️

No, it'd be candles a go-go with me.

What you took to be indignant ire was in fact bemused irritation, but hey - it passed! And now I don't give a fuck 😁

Ohhh I misunderstood your update where you said dang happy birthday and the cake was cut. So they cut it before you sang?? That is batshit and I’d get DH to reimburse you the cost of the cake. How horrible of them.

YABU for not having candles on a 3 year olds cake. The Tomfoolery that followed with the cake getting cut is secondary.

We know they're first world problems.
But it's OK, as we live in the first world. 👍

And I hope it was your house, so he never got to see "how much it was worth".

You are well rid, and I hope the trash took itself out.

@Nanaof1 yes, my house, nothing to do with him at all! CF indeed he was.

There is nothing at all odd, weird or any such thing about you, the party, the lack of candles or anything else.

Since some posters "know" it never happens, the 3rd BD party of my son, where, during the singing of "Happy Birthday", he, quick as a goalie, used his punch to put out the candles didn't actually happen. Oh, as an aside, don't ever use real sparklers on a cake either. First, smoke detectors don't like it and second, the ash gets all over the top of the cake and it tastes really, REALLY bad. But, that never happened either, I guess. 😉

I would be having a talk with him, so that he totally has the plan done. As soon as you get the cake, take pictures, several, to be safe.

I hope your little one has an amazing 3rd BD in April. 💖

Try not to worry, DS was happy. It sounds a bit like the whole build up is to the cake bit - and they pulled the rug from under your feet. You didn’t get to enjoy that moment. Sounds like a good party though, so well done!

Maybe ger a solicitor to draw a contract up for next year, it was a 3 year olds birthday the sun will still come up tomorrow well without candles perhaps or less a nuclear war

Filling some gaping void in their life, presumably.

That’s a novel take, nobody has said anything like that on this thread. You have incredible insight.

Because some posters live for the chance to be dicks on any thread they can find?

For me, I never knew that a child's life can be completely and utterly destroyed by not blowing out candles. I have a LOT of apologizing to do. 😆😉