To think we should get the double room?

[Bibbidybobbidyroo]

We gave a family holiday booked this year - 2 adults in family 1 (my parents), two adults one child in family 2 (us).

My parents offered to pay for the cost of the accommodation as a kind gesture (they are financially better off). The accommodation has one master bedroom with a double bed, and three other twin bedrooms.

Our child has ASD and cosleeps as it’s the only way to guarantee any sort of sleep on what I fear is already going to be a trying week - first time abroad and a big routine change. I asked if we could the the double bed otherwise I’m going to end up squashed in a single with DD. They aren’t keen at ALL. Should probably mention my dad ends up falling asleep on the sofa and staying there all night anyway so my mum will mostly have the double bed to herself.

Im grateful that they paid for the villa but I feel like it’s coming with conditions that aren’t going to be very relaxing for us at all. I would have rather just paid our share and the felt like I could push for the bigger room more.

would you raise this again or just put up and shut up and accept the financial saving?

A 4 year old is unlikely to fall in between the beds. If it’s that much of an issue, you can try to stack the bed bases and sleep on the mattresses on the floor. There’s always a solution.

Your mum wants the double bed. She is paying for it. She gets it.

Totally agree, it's going to be the least of the problems.

Went away recently and there was an extended family next to us in the bar having a big argument with some in tears because they'd found their trip so stressful about choosing where to eat 😳

Next time, if you do want to holiday with your parents (and it doesn't sound much like you do!) then book two neighbouring villas and you can have things your way in your villa. As it is, they've paid and you're now shouting the odds, delighting in the fact that you'll be able to manipulate the situation to get the main bedroom once they've suffered with your DD screaming the place down. If I was you parent I don't think I'd want to share a villa with you.

Might your daughter sleep in a single? In the same room as you? Then your husband takes the other room?

I mean there absolutely will be arguments - well prepared for that!

why have they booked a four-bedroom villa with enough beds for 8 people when there are only 5 of you?! (one of whom is planning to sleep on a sofa anyway)
if your daughter can't manage to sleep alone, encourage her to visit her granny!

When she inevitably wakes in the night, take her into the living room if you need to.

Either they'll relent and accept a twin together or your dad will realise he needs to cart himself off to bed before you get woken.

They paid, they get the say, but when they realise the realities of it all they may switch.

So is it one room with a double bed and another with 3 single beds? It’s unclear what the second room is. And it does matter.

Can’t you push 2 singles together in one of the other rooms?

To whip out a mumsnet cliche, you sound hard work OP. Maybe your family think that as well?

why don’t you either stay home OR book your own accommodation? Going on holiday with people who you clearly resent is not going to be fun for anyone. Give it up now.

Because that’s the one they liked and wanted….

We have stayed in many, many hotels where our double bed has been 2 singles pushed together. We've never fallen down the gap. Unless 2 single beds can't be pushed for any reason I think you're making a drama out of nothing.

One room with a double bed, three other rooms with twin singles in each room.

My suggestion is the same as greywolfie
DH in one room on his own, and you and DC in a different room, with a bed each, but next to each other.
Does the accommodation even have a sofa that you could sleep on anyway? They're often too small, so DF may end up having to go to bed.

If we decided to stay home or get our own accommodation they would go bananas. I hold my hands up here because I should have just been firm from the start with what works for us and what doesn’t.

For everyone falling between pushed together beds, you push the beds together then arrange the mattresses lengthways across so there is no gap to fall down. Did this all the time when backpacking.

Regardless of who is paying I would expect you of all to got together prior to booking to ensure the place was suitable for all of you.
I'm sure it will work out fine, just let them have the bed and enjoy the holiday

The villa has a living room so DF will def be asleep in there.

we will def pack the king sheet of the villa can’t push the bed together, it just feels like an annoying makeshift solution when there’s a more obvious answer

Mum of ND child here.

What you need to do is try and start to wean your child off the cosleeping now because it isn’t good for their development, or get them used to you being with them and settling until they go to sleep and then you leave.

Check the photos of the place you are going, if they are divan beds you can push them together anyway which means you have no problem.

Seriously though, if this is an Easter or summer holiday you have a pile of time to try and wean child off and it will be better for them.

As a mother of an ND child you should know better than to give unsolicited parenting advice

This for me I’m afraid. We’ve often rejigged room configuration in holiday accommodation. Just push the singles together, against the wall if you’re worried about movement or put the mattresses on the floor. You do sound rather entitled OP when there are options to make it work for you.

Sounds like there is plenty of room. I can’t see the problem as you can use three rooms between your family , pushing two singles together and taking a super king sheet ( or asking the owners if they are able to set up one twin room as a super king room. We do this but choice in our holiday home and sleep very comfortably , sometimes with two adults and a child.

But the real problem is your parents issue. I would not choose to holiday with them again as clearly they are in charge and your views don’t matter.

I think you’ve nailed the nuances here. I will just sort the twin rooms out but there’s clearly an underlying issue here

Hahahaha

oh come on op you literally opened the floodgates for unsolicited advice in your first post

Not about parenting?