To think we should get the double room?

[Bibbidybobbidyroo]

We gave a family holiday booked this year - 2 adults in family 1 (my parents), two adults one child in family 2 (us).

My parents offered to pay for the cost of the accommodation as a kind gesture (they are financially better off). The accommodation has one master bedroom with a double bed, and three other twin bedrooms.

Our child has ASD and cosleeps as it’s the only way to guarantee any sort of sleep on what I fear is already going to be a trying week - first time abroad and a big routine change. I asked if we could the the double bed otherwise I’m going to end up squashed in a single with DD. They aren’t keen at ALL. Should probably mention my dad ends up falling asleep on the sofa and staying there all night anyway so my mum will mostly have the double bed to herself.

Im grateful that they paid for the villa but I feel like it’s coming with conditions that aren’t going to be very relaxing for us at all. I would have rather just paid our share and the felt like I could push for the bigger room more.

would you raise this again or just put up and shut up and accept the financial saving?

Why would them being my parents result in them getting that bedroom?

to add again, it will be my mum alone in the double bed.

Most holiday accommodation in Europe are 2 beds pushed together with a sheet over the gap if you're lucky. In Germany they give you 2 single duvets typically even with a double bed which I find odd. Honestly just make do

They paid ! I'd be pretty annoyed to pay for a holiday and then end up in a single bed. Sorry but yabu

I’m not sure why you have posted here. The response is pretty unanimous and you have no interest in peoples opinions.

I think it's quite a clear binary choice: do you want to go on holiday that they pay for and make do with a twin room, or do you absolutely need a double and therefore can't go on this holiday? Because when they are the couple who are paying AND the older couple, they get the double.

Why post?

I agree we should have discussed and agreed this in the first place before booking. I also asked we looked at other villas but they really liked this one the most. thus is my own fault for not being clear at the start.

perhaps it’s because if it was me I would feel weird sleeping alone in a double bed while my own child was squashed in a single with a 4 year old and offer to you know…. Be nice.

especially as when said granddaughter inevitably wakes up at 2am we also won’t be allowed into the living room as that’s where my dad will be sleeping.

Don't go then.

What's their reason for saying no? Is one an en-suite or anything? My dad needs to be closer to a toilet than most people for example.

I mean if I threaten not to go they will cave and give us the master. I don’t want to push it like that.

dad sleeps in the living room.

honestly it just feels very “we are the oldest so we are in charge”. Still very much in “we are the parents” despite us being in our 40s and very much not children ourselves!

we used to do this holiday pretty regularly pre covid and they always got the master bedroom on the basis they were the oldest. Didn’t really care then - happy to have slept wherever.

I think you've asked and they've said no, so you can't push it. They probably believe that they've 'been nice' by y'know, paying for the villa.

When the time comes, they might actually decide it's easier all round for you to swap, but regardless- lesson learned for next time, make sure you're happy with the arrangement before anyone books!

The beauty of hindsight! I absolutely should have put my big girl pants on and insisted we pay equal and agree who takes the double or insist we look elsewhere.

I think I’m just going to leave it because I reckon after one night of DD shenanigans they would prefer the full nights sleep in a single.

I mean, judging by your posts on this thread you don’t like your parents much anyway, so I’d suggest not going.

Or just push two beds together like anyone else would and get on with it.

Is it your mum?

Can you not explain again why you would like the double bed, and offer to pay them back for your share of the accommodation if it is the money that is the issue?

Just because they've paid, doesn't mean you can't still pay them for your share.

If they want the double bedroom just because they want the double bedroom then you're at a stalemate and you'll have to decide whether you really want to go, or you could try and push the beds together as others have said?

They are paying they want to have the double bed. Get over your entitlement. They raised you, Why wouldnt you want them to have nice things?

Why wouldn’t they want their disabled grandchild to be able to sleep properly?

TBH I would always offer my parents the best bed/room even if I was paying - they're older than me and are in more need of having a comfortable place to sleep.

Your DD is four - just push the beds together. Bring a big fitted sheet to keep the mattresses from pulling apart in the night if you're worried.

Just push the two beds together and bring a king size fitted sheet to hold them together. Then you and DD will have plenty of space.

Or if you want to be really precious, then bring a king size mattress topper to put on top of the two singles.

This is not a big deal.

zip ties are your friend. After a memorable holiday where the twin beds we had pushed together , seperated and I ended up down the middle, We now always have zip ties in our suitcase just incase! ziptie the legs of both beds together! https://www.amazon.com/HS-Premium-Outdoor-Strength-Plastic/dp/B07DWXHDSK?th=1

This holiday has disaster written all over it regardless of who sleeps in which bed.

This. We’ve done this this on holiday before. Two singles is generally bigger than a double anyway.

The king sheet is a good idea. I might also just message the villa company.

i guess the bigger picture here is more the principle of it. We’ve always let them have the master bedroom but I think given the circumstances I guess I’m just annoyed they are putting their own needs above others. The more I think about it the more i am confident I would still have to work hard to get them to agree to give us the master bedroom even if we had paid for the villa. So perhaps this is just a symptom of a larger issue in our relationship.

have her go into your mum if she's sleeping on her own in the double bed anyway 😉