What's your timeline for throwing away wedding invitations?

[sockmuncher]

A relative dropped off her wedding invitation on Saturday morning.

I complimented the beautiful invitation. Then I copied the important details into my calendar and set the invitation on the side with the recycling.

We chatted on for a few hours & had a lovely catch up.

She has text me today to say she's been wondering whether to say anything or not but shes hurt the invitation was 'dumped' so quickly. It's got my back up, I appreciated the invitation and how beautiful it was but how long should I keep it for so it's been appreciated enough?

I'm not going to send anything back other than to apologise for hurting her feelings, but i have done this with every wedding / party invitation. Am I in the minority?

I keep all of mine along with the thank you cards.

I don’t think I would have done it in front of her, seems a bit harsh, probably waited until she’d gone.

I keep mine on noticeboard until the day of the wedding, I think they are pretty. But I understand why you would chuck it if you don’t like clutter. Bit odd of your friend to mention it tbh.

I generally kept mine on a shelf until the wedding had happened (usually c. 6 weeks) , then recycled it.

You’re not wrong to recycle it after putting the details in your calendar - but I would wait until she’s left your home!

It was insensitive to actually discard it in front of her... But how long you keep things in reality is up to you.

I think putting it in the recycling in front of her was a bit mean!

This! Would you have done the same if she'd given you a birthday card or thank you card???

I think it was a bit brutal to throw it out in front of her.

I keep them until the wedding has passed. And agree with others that dumping it while she was still there was rather harsh.

Wedding invitations can cost a fortune (wedding anythings can cost a fortune!), and she's probably put a lot of time, thought, effort and money into them. Definitely rude to throw it away before she'd even left the house! I tend to keep them until the wedding has happened, but I don't keep any as mementos (although I think we've kept a copy of our own)

I can't believe you binned it right in front of her! You could have at least waited til she'd gone.

I keep them until the event has happened. It was rude to basically cast it aside in front of her.

Wow you are rude doing it in front of her and I would be pissed at you as well

Fair enough if you want to throw it out straight away, personally I wouldn’t and would definitely keep until after the wedding, but you don’t do it in front of the person

Yeah, very rude to do it in front of her

Until the wedding then decide if keeping. I can't believe you discarded it as soon as she gave it to you! She might as well have invited you by WhatsApp

YABU to throw it away in front of her - that's odd behaviour!

Why would you effectively bin it in front of her?!
It would have been obvious she'd spent time and money on it.

I would have binned it straight away too, i chuck all cards straight into the recycling because I hate the clutter (most people who know me well enough to send a card know not to bother!), but I wouldn't have done it right in front of her face! That's just rude

We still have invites on our fridge from 2020 (that were cancelled due to Covid). They are nice memories to have?

YABVU- you binned it in front of her?! Good grief, height of rudeness.
I usually pin them up somewhere until the wedding, then recycle them afterwards (not in front of the person who gave it to me!)

I tend to put them on the fridge until the wedding then bin after the day, albeit this can lead to a bit of a chaotic fridge sometimes.
I think it was pretty rude to discard the invitation right in front of her. Fair enough to not want to keep it once you have the details required but it was very shabby and lacking in niceties to chuck it right there and then.

If it’s an invite you take it with you to the the wedding and definitely keep it until just after at the very least

Wow that was harsh. Invitations are expensive and people put a lot of effort into them, you basically just likened them to rubbish right in front of her. I appreciate it doesn't mean as much to you as it does to her, but that was shitty behaviour.

To answer your question, I usually keep them until after the wedding has passed to refer to for details.

Why do you take the invitation to the wedding?