Assistant changed Dds hairstyle

[Todolististoolong]

Not angry or upset 😂just curious.
Today I sent my 5 year old into school with her hair in two high bunches, with the rest of her hair down. She’s not had it like this before and saw a girl on the tv at the weekend with similar hair to hers put in this style and asked for it. It actually looked v cute. DD’s fair is getting longer now, past her shoulders and thick and wavy/curly.
When I picked her up from school, she had two low plaits in, I didn’t notice for ages and until she was in the car and only then as it was different to how I do it and then I remembered her hair in the morning.
I asked Dd why her hair had changed and she said the assistant called her over after lunch when she was playing with her friend and took her hair out and put two plaits in 🤷🏻‍♀️
My first thought was nits maybe, but we always get informed by the teacher that day, plus an email goes out.
Did she just not like the style 😅

Honestly, who cares?

A 5yo is not a reliable narrator. And again, this is a non-issue.

My daughter stays on extra time, for about 40 minutes until I pick her up and she usually comes back with gorgeous plaits. The T.A. is really good at this and while they are waiting to be picked up some of the girls love to try new hairstyles. It never occured to me that it could be weird.

In my many years in schools, the only times I've done this is when the hair has fallen out of the style or the children have removed hairbands or if it's down as nits it's too common. Then it's been a low pony or plait just to keep out of their face and up.

Simple answer is your not allowed to have your hair down, your DD hair was over half down by your description.

I don't know any school that doesn't require all long hair tied up, its in the uniform code alongside things like no earrings etc...

Even my youngest son (with longish hair that tends to get in his face) has come home from nursery with clips and hair ties in that he didn’t go in with, or different clips and hair ties to the ones he went in with. And my niece has gorgeous long blonde hair and almost always goes home with a different hairstyle.

I think it was likely falling out a bit, or the teacher noticed it was getting in her way while she was playing.

I wouldn't be bothered by this at all. What does it matter?

Both of my girls (age 5 and 7) have very long and thick hair and I always put it in a plait, pony tail or bun every day to keep it out of their faces and out of the way for PE. It will inevitably fall out occasionally though, especially with them pulling snoods on and off when it's cold and more so the 5 year old as they do a lot of outdoor play in reception.

The teachers and TAs often stick it back up for them. Most of them are mums, grans or aunties themselves (we have no male staff), it's just a caring thing for them to do. Practically speaking it must also be very annoying trying to teach a child to write or something when their hair is everywhere on the desk or in their face.

The older one this doesn't happen so much as the little girls all now tend to do it for each other at lunchtimes as play. The younger one has come home with different hair on a number of occasions though and an adult must've done it for her as there's no way she'd get it that neat!

I think it's really lovely of the staff bother, especially given how much else they do for the children. It's no different really to staff helping them on with their shoes, or helping them learn to tuck their tops in when they're little, is it? It's non-intimate personal care.

I would imagine the TA noticed that one of the bunches was coming loose or that your DD's hair was bothering her. Sometimes children are engrossed in play and don't notice, but the TA could have seen the ponytail coming loose or notice the fact that your DD was pushing her hair away from her face a lot, for example.

100% hair was falling out of bunches & TA helped so she didn't lose the hair bobbles. I was always amazed when girls came out looking pristine at the end of the day, as my DD used to come out, after a hard day of play, looking like Worzel Gummidge!

@Doireallyhavetopeopletoday Someone looking after a child (along with 29 others) who has managed to get blu-tack stuck in their hair?

I loved it when the women in the nursery French plaited my daughters hair, wish I could do some of the hairstyles they did

Who does that?

The person raising your child for you. It sounds like they're doing a good job!

I often did my daughter's hair like this, we called it "doggy" style as it reminded us of dog's ears.

@nannyMoMo 😬

This sounds like a teacher/TA that is also a mum of a five year old girl.

Five year old girls who are busy playing don’t notice their hair falling out until it has really pissed them off and a melt down ensues.

Be pleased that they have fixed her hair and kept her happy and playing all day.

@Doireallyhavetopeopletoday was it noticeable that your child’s hair had been cut?

Was it a couple of wispy strands or a chunk?

Whilst it is not ideal, if it was taking out a couple of non-noticeable strands to save a whole head getting caught, I would thank the staff member and buy them chocolates! I would expect to be spoken to at pick up though

It was probably badly disheveled and falling out. I’m not sure it’s something to be worried about. I love it when staff care for the kids enough to do lovely little things like this

“Doggy style” 😂

It used to happen to DD all the time at nursery, they liked practicing hairstyles on her hair. At school when it's come out they've done something else to it before. Especially at the beginning of term. Don't leave hair hanging down at that age after a half term/summer holiday, for some reason nits come out to play then. Plaits or up for a little while and as a sidenote, coconut oil is your friend!

Oh, lighten up! A girl had her hair put in plaits. Do you usually take offence over trivialities?

My daughter just left primary in the summer. There was a particular TA who ask did wrap around who loved doing the girls hair. DD would often come home with new styles from her. I had to learn to French plait eventually as she would come home on a lovely plait that would need re doing by morning (very frizzy curly hair that would need a tonne of hair spray to stay overnight).

Why don’t you just ask at school drop off or collection or via the school communication app?? “Hi, just wondered if there was a reason why DD came home with a different hair style to the one she was sent in? Her recollection wasn’t clear and I’m curious. “. Bright and breezy.

Our primary school never ever stipulated a policy over hair. A lot of the older girls would often wear it down. As a teacher myself this is a big no so I’ve always done bunches or plaits or pony tails. Secondary are the ones who make a point of saying hair up for PE, food tech and science experiments. My kids managed to both get through primary school without ever getting nits. We had many warning letter for their classes though.

Not a rule at our primary. Xx

My dd’s primary school needs long hair up for certain classes like science, art, food tech etc depending on what they’re doing that day. I tie her hair up every day anyways just to be safe cause she’s not the best at putting her own bobble in. It’s just a health and safety thing

ditto

I think you absolutely should!!
you can do the chicken dance for the parent dances!!