Assistant changed Dds hairstyle

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Not angry or upset 😂just curious.
Today I sent my 5 year old into school with her hair in two high bunches, with the rest of her hair down. She’s not had it like this before and saw a girl on the tv at the weekend with similar hair to hers put in this style and asked for it. It actually looked v cute. DD’s fair is getting longer now, past her shoulders and thick and wavy/curly.
When I picked her up from school, she had two low plaits in, I didn’t notice for ages and until she was in the car and only then as it was different to how I do it and then I remembered her hair in the morning.
I asked Dd why her hair had changed and she said the assistant called her over after lunch when she was playing with her friend and took her hair out and put two plaits in 🤷🏻‍♀️
My first thought was nits maybe, but we always get informed by the teacher that day, plus an email goes out.
Did she just not like the style 😅

The photo you linked to looks like a birds nest! My guess is she genuinely thought it had got completely wrecked as happens with little kids with long hair and she was just tidying it back up

Most schools have a rule with no hair down past shoulders because of nits and at age 5 its all the time that they get then cause they are playing so close. Even if you say its never been a problem...most parents break a rule from the rule book every day just because they've not bothered to read it.
Whats the point in asking us? Ask the teacher and uou would get an actual real answer.

Daft but true…as a little one, when I tipped my head forward to eat, my bunches used to trail in my custard and gravy. Dinner staff would tie them together or plait my hair out of the way!

Crusty bunches are not a good look! 😆

My DD1s school has the girls wear the hair tied unless is above the shoulder.

On the other hand DD2s nursery is lovely and usually when I send her in one style she comes out at home time looking better than when she got in. She has long hair and asks for different styles. I compliment nursery staff as it is a lovely gesture and my little one loved it. Also there are several people who do this for hair.

possibly she had her hair loose?

My daughter goes in every day with beautiful French plait. I am highly skilled at this. At least three times a week she comes home with a different style .
My daughter has very different hair from everyone else and I sometimes think the teachers ( who are all mums) love a play . Sometimes I think she just gets untidy so they put it in a pony.
My daughter just loves it! She has special hair .
We are not in the UK btw, so teachers here feel free to love their kids and that means fixing their hair . It's their job to keep their babies tidy .

I'd be thinking I'd sent them in with a hairstyle that was impractical or didn't last the day, and resolving to do better, long before wondering why someone else had re-done it! It's nice that someone found the time to do it for her.

I think the main question here is ....

Is your dd bothered by someone else redoing her hair for her?

If she isn't bothered, I wouldn't give it a second thought, it could be for any/all of the reasons above.

If she is bothered, then maybe time to have a conversation with someone

how many schools have you asked about this to determine ‘most’ do? Because of the 30 or so primaries I have direct contact with for work, I don’t know any that do. But I know indirectly some do. It’s almost like it’s not a universal rule

I'm curious now as I had totally assumed this rule was standard everywhere. I can't imagine sending DD in with her hair down for school. It just seems wrong!

Looked at the websites of 6 primaries nearest to me that I could think of then 4 more from across the country I've been involved with. 4 of those 10 stated explicitly hair must be tied back. I'm really surprised it wasn't all of them.

@@sofasofa42 What special hair does your Dd have? I’m curious

Her small plait and rest of hair down style didn’t get touched today 🤷🏻‍♀️Must be the bunches

Have you asked the TA?

I've been in 3 primary schools just today and all of them had girls with long hair down. It's really not a universal rule.

I meant the phrasing of the post rather than the idea itself.

Their bunches always fall out and look scruffy after a couple of hours running around. DS has long hair and loves hair clips etc - he would often come home with different ones to the ones he went in wearing XD

Try doing some different styles at the weekend and see how long they last.

I didn’t ask the TA, they’d probably think I was an over the top nutcase 😅

I would ask just out of curiosity. Can you not just ask if there was a problem with DDs hair the other day as you don’t want to do it like that again if there is.

Probably it was falling out or came undone so they did it and plaits were easier for the assistant or maybe it was a little bonding thing and both enjoyed it?

May be she did not know how to do the original hairstyle so went for easy plaits.

As a Y2 teacher, I actually did this myself last week and not for the first time! A girl in my class came in with plaits (dutch ones I think?) At break time one had lost the tie holding it at the end and half her hair was flying wild and loose. I called her over after break and asked if she wanted me to fix it, she said yes (was oblivious previously as busy playing) I plaited it as best I could but as a mum of 3 boys I'm really rubbish with girl hair so did a basic low plait and the poor love went home with completely unmatched hair 🤣

Mine came out of school yesterday and said “the teacher cut my hair today “
normally I would go crazy but, I’m digesting the info and she said it was just a trim as she had blue tack .
Thing is they have no right to do this
Who does that?

Maybe it looked like some of it had fallen out of the bunches? But if so, surely the TA would try and recreate what they thought was the original hairstyle - bunches - not do a totally new hairstyle

Some people (like me) are absolutely crap at doing anything beyond a very basic plait, ponytail and bunches. Also as a TA you are usually listening to readers/supervising a maths worksheet/mounting paintings/dealing with a squabble/minor accident/finding lost shoes/items of uniform/making sure everyone has been to the loo and washed their hands before lunch etc - sometimes lots of these things simultaneously. There’s often not enough time to recreate anything that takes more than a minute to sort out.

As a teacher the only time I’d undo a hair style is if a child was complaining of a sore head and the bobbles looked too tight.

I'm upper school and still get requests a few times a week to help tie up/plait hair. Sometimes they’ve fiddled with it and it come undone, sometimes they’ve taken it out then changed their mind and other times it’s messy/loose after being outside. I don’t mind helping them and they’re always really pleased I’ve helped them, although they probably could have done a better job themselves as I’m rubbish at it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Girls especially like adults in school doing their hair and you can guarantee if one person has it done someone else will deliberately take their hair bobbles out so they can have a teacher/TA do it for them too.

I used to teach nursery/reception and we would re-do hairstyles if they had gotten significantly messed up (to keep our charges looking somewhat tidy), if the hair was in the child's face in a problematic way (likely to get in food or craft projects or being chewed on for example), if they had a bow or hair tye that was in danger of falling out, or if the child was complaining/trying to fix it. At that age children are pretty tough on hairdos, especially in hat & coat weather or on active days in PE, and they aren't ready to re-do/tidy their own hair the way an older one would. Sometimes we'd recreate the original style but not always if we didn't know how or expected it was just going to come undone again in an hour.

If the hairstyle itself was unsuitable or not ideal for some reason (nothing you described sounds like it, but who knows) I would politely mention it to the parent at pickup or drop off or gently tell the student. If nothing was said I would assume it was one of the situations above and the teacher was being helpful.