Assistant changed Dds hairstyle

[Todolististoolong]

Not angry or upset 😂just curious.
Today I sent my 5 year old into school with her hair in two high bunches, with the rest of her hair down. She’s not had it like this before and saw a girl on the tv at the weekend with similar hair to hers put in this style and asked for it. It actually looked v cute. DD’s fair is getting longer now, past her shoulders and thick and wavy/curly.
When I picked her up from school, she had two low plaits in, I didn’t notice for ages and until she was in the car and only then as it was different to how I do it and then I remembered her hair in the morning.
I asked Dd why her hair had changed and she said the assistant called her over after lunch when she was playing with her friend and took her hair out and put two plaits in 🤷🏻‍♀️
My first thought was nits maybe, but we always get informed by the teacher that day, plus an email goes out.
Did she just not like the style 😅

Im a primary school teacher. I often redo hair if it’s coming out but I wouldn’t touch it otherwise.

My dd’s primary school was hair tied up for boys and girls whose hair was below shoulder length.

however, it also could have fallen or have been falling out.

@TulipTuesday I'm a TA and some of the girls come in with brushes and hair ties ready for me to French braid their hair. I love it ad my DD won't let me near her gorgeous long hair!

I am a TA and if a girls hair falls out I will tie it back again for them to prevent it falling over their face- usually in a simple ponytail as I can't be arsed with anything else.

Some staff just love doing hair though and will take the opportunity to do fancy plaits etc. if the child wants it.

Weird and creepy.

Ahw this reminds me of my DD's nursery times - at 3 years old she looked very sweet with blond longish hair and every time she went in she would come back with the most intricate hairdos. The nursery teacher just loved sitting with her and doing her hair (and DD obviously loved the attention).

She's 9 now with short pixie hair - often died red - and only ever wears shirts to school: total tomboy. What a difference a few years can make😂

She's 5

I would re-do falling out ponytails, plaits and bunches as necessary. Fine , clean hair seems to be particularly good at escaping from bobbles, clips and ribbons. Even thicker hair can end up in a state after outside play, windy weather and the type of hair accessories used. Personally I’d go for whatever was most likely to stay in a containment situation, nothing fancy as I’m useless at anything beyond basic bunches, ponytails and a plait.

One of the staff used to do my DD hair in a french plat. I'm useless at doing them so never bothered me. She was in a SN school and it was part of her personal development sessions working on their appearance and independence etc. She also had her nails painted. She used to love getting home showing off her hair.

Get some boundaries- that's creepy

At our school loose hair always has to be tied back

Always happens to my daughters, they both play hard and often take their jumpers on and off and it makes half the hair come out so the dinner ladies or assistants or whoever else will fix it for them.

How was hair gate today 😁

DD1 used to come out of school looking as neat and tidy as when she went in, not a hair out of place.

DD2 used to come out with one plait or bunch in and the other out, one sock down, jumper on backwards, someone else’s coat on, unexplained paint across her skirt, mud somewhere.

DD1 is now queen of the messy bun and DD2 always completely polished in her appearance.

First world problems

Your DD probably asked for it to be done and she called her over when she was free. It’s unlikely anyone is casting judgement.

It's really not.

Loads of girls (and some of boys) deliberately pull hair out so teacher or TA can do fancy braids at punch.

I think it's sweet and caring

Could she have thought it had fallen out? I've redone hairstyles plenty of times in Year One when they've fallen out, if it was something fancy and I couldn't manage I'd do a ponytail or braid.
It seems like an odd thing to do if her hair was still in place.

My guess is the teacher thought the hair was coming undone with some of it up and some of it down. Or it actually was coming out but your daughter didnt see it yet. Or perhaps the teacher just likes doing the hair in which case its a bit weird.

Never heard about hair needing to be tied up in primary school!! Thanks goodness my kids' primary didn't have that rule. My kids hated having their hair done up or generally done in any way for most of nursery and primary.

@Todolististoolong do school have a policy that it has to be tidied up? Usually to stop nots spreading? From what you describe, it wasn't all tied up.. Maybe they changed it for that reason

I'm a TA and a few times I've seen hairbands gradually slide out of pig tails as the day goes on. So sometimes, before we get to the point where the hair band has slid off completely and will never be seen again, I ask the child if they'd like me to re-tie their hair for them. I can't do any fancy styles so pony tails or plaits have to suffice 😂
I always think it's better to save the hairband, cos once they've slid off you'll never see them again and as a parent I know how annoying it is to lose them Plus young kids having long hair down all day is sooo impractical - it gets majorly knotty plus it's a hazard in terms of getting caught on stuff. That's maybe what the TA was thinking.

Maybe it looked like some of it had fallen out of the bunches? But if so, surely the TA would try and recreate what they thought was the original hairstyle - bunches - not do a totally new hairstyle.

Everything here makes me so happy

My 4yo often finishes the day with her hair looking a mess. I wish someone would re-do it. At Nursery she used to come out looking immaculate as they had a lady there who was amazing at hair. all the children loved getting their beautiful plaits done and would sit there totally still for her to do it. I have no idea how she did it!