Assistant changed Dds hairstyle

[Todolististoolong]

Not angry or upset 😂just curious.
Today I sent my 5 year old into school with her hair in two high bunches, with the rest of her hair down. She’s not had it like this before and saw a girl on the tv at the weekend with similar hair to hers put in this style and asked for it. It actually looked v cute. DD’s fair is getting longer now, past her shoulders and thick and wavy/curly.
When I picked her up from school, she had two low plaits in, I didn’t notice for ages and until she was in the car and only then as it was different to how I do it and then I remembered her hair in the morning.
I asked Dd why her hair had changed and she said the assistant called her over after lunch when she was playing with her friend and took her hair out and put two plaits in 🤷🏻‍♀️
My first thought was nits maybe, but we always get informed by the teacher that day, plus an email goes out.
Did she just not like the style 😅

The only thing I can think of is that it was in her face while eating or drawing etc...

Omg this is so true and made me lol

Our house overlooks the primary school field and playground. When my DS was in about Y1, he came home and told me he had done 'nothing' at school when I had literally watched him and the rest of his class taking turns to sit in an actual fire engine and look at the hoses all afternoon 🙄

I guarantee you that nobody who works in a school would have the time or energy to re-style a child's hair just because they weren't keen on it. There would have been a reason.

Also, while every parent will earnestly say 'I know my DC, they wouldn't lie about something like this', I can absolutely 100% guarantee you that five-year-olds will often tell you any old bollocks, whether deliberately, or because they've wildly misunderstood what happened, or because they don't have the right vocabulary to explain something clearly.

I’d have to ask the next morning when dropping off, just out of curiosity! Also just In case something had happened or like you said nits, or uniform policy that had slipped me by.

Weird though! As an ex-TA I’d never have restyled a child’s hair unless their ponytail had fallen out, or they’d asked me to help them.

My dd has waist length hair and her teacher was always restyling her hair. Complex French braids etc. The teacher said she liked doing it and missed doing her teen dd hair.

My dd was also, and still is a bit of a scruff. Sensory issues means she hate haircuts and brushing.

I imagine she had stopped looking like a child model by that point and instead looked like she’d been dragged through a hedge backwards.

I can't quite imagine a half down style with 2 bunches - not that looks like it's on purpose, anyway - and I wonder if she thought it had half fallen out so re did it?

Teachers must be so much more maternal nowadays, I can only remember mine shouting all the time 🤣

Going back to the 80's for me - one kid used to get pinned to the floor when he had a meltdown (obvs SEN but in those days they were just "disruptive" kids.) No way would our child hating teachers have been touching our hair!

I've done it because of: sand, grass or paint filled hair; their request; it's irritating them; the bands are pulling; lice; for PE/swimming; it's got really messy and previous parental complaints around messy appearance.

There will be a reason and not one related to personal taste. Kids are not reliable narrators.

😂😂😂

She would say they were still up, even if they were hanging loose and bits of hair flying everywhere. This happens to my niece all the time, hairs an absolute mess halfway through the nursery day so one of the teachers kindly fix her hair for her.

Exactly what I was going to say.

Ooh I used to love this style Op.

Generally I had a pony tail.

A half pony tail for special occasions.

2 half pony tails as we called it & I thought all my Christmases had arrived!!!😂

So many people saying hair has to be up in primary school. I have worked in many primary schools in Scotland and have never ever heard of this. Where is this being enforced?

My girls come home often with a different hairstyle to what they went in with! I think the TA’s like to play hairdressers with them and my girls enjoy it 🤣

You're joking with this post I hope.

I work in a nursery, we often do hair if it’s in their eyes and they can’t see properly or they ask us to do it.

This is reminding me of that before and after first day at school pic that did the rounds a while back. Maybe the TA was trying to avoid you receiving something like this at the end of her busy day at school…..

When my daughter was in Reception at 4, I can remember atleast a few times when my daughter came with a different hairstyle (usually much better than what I did in the morning 🙃) and I noticed for 2 of her friends too. I believe it was because these little girls love to mess each other hair in a playful way 😁 , so one or the other teacher helps them. One time it was so stylish that I was impressed, the teacher did it in a high ponytail and then made the hair into 4 french plaits coming out of one ponytail for my daughter, same with her 2 friends.

My son goes to school with his hair in a pony tail.
One day last week he came home with his hair in a platt.
One of the teaching assistants decided to platt his hair.
He had swimming that day and his hair also smelled like shampoo that wasn't our usual shampoo.
I didn't care that a TA decided to wash his hair and then platt it afterwards.
The TAs quite often brush / tidy his hair after lunch time.

In Kent for me. Seems a very sensible rule I assumed was universal! Stops it getting pulled or caught on things or falling over the faces when trying to work and impedes the spread of nits. I'm genuinely surprised this isn't a standard rule everywhere.

@DappledThings

I have never heard the like in primary or secondary.

I think a five year olds interpretation of bunches falling out would be that one of the bobbles literally fell out of the hair. Whereas, from an adult point of view, if they're so close to falling out they're generally serving no purpose other than to make the wearer look scruffier than if they just didn't have them in at all, we'd say they'd fallen out. I suspect the latter happened so the TA dealt with it. Plaits generally stay neater for longer than bunches.

I’m a TA in reception and I can guarantee she’s either taken one/both out or they’ve fallen out on their own. A girl came in this morning with 2 plaits and the second she got in the door she took her hair out. No reason just wanted it out. I love playing hairdressers with the girls (I wear the Islamic headscarf so I’m always the stylist!) I get at least 2 a day asking me for plaits or a bun.