I started a thread about how much I hate the word Cum and it got deleted

[Tetsuo]

I don't know why.

It was quite an interesting discussion.

I maintain that I hate the word cum and I'm not sure when 'come' to orgasm, to arrive, to reach one's sexual destination got bastardised to the really base and crude word cum, it's redolent of grubby blokes, it's seedy, it's horrible.

Anyhoo, I'm not sure why I was deleted, I think maybe one poster thought I was a seedy bloke that wanted women to discuss that word.

Promise I'm not!

It was an interesting discussion up to the point of deletion.

As this is a TAAT I expect it will also be deleted.

I used to live in a small village called 'Sutton cum Lound'

There's a few names like this in the U.K. it's a valid word

This will probably go too

I don't like the word either too

It's vulger

I agree, I think it's grim

It is a valid word. It’s Latin for “with”. “Come” is the correct word for orgasm. Constantly quibble with my younger friends about this though.

But that means ‘with’ I think. Not arrive.

Sorry but I’ve always read it as cum and seen it as that too.

That's a different word with a different meaning. It isn't a substitution for the verb to come meaning to come to a climax in sex.

I agree with you, OP. It's all that you say. It's the language of pornography. I don't quite understand why people are so ready to pick up and use this language so unthinkingly.

I don't like any words with the U sound. My least favorite is utterly. Absolutely no idea why 😕. Probably a whole different thread though.

Hello @Tetsuo Mumsnetters tend to be a suspicious bunch. They thought your thread called 'Cum' about cum was likely trolling and reported the hell out of it. The title probably didn't help tbh - maybe a more gentle introduction to the subject within is less likely to scare the horses. While your thread didn't inherently break TGs, we didn't think it was likely to go well for the above reasons.

Please don't make us write the word again.

Thanks @BeckyAMumsnet.

I hear ya!

Hopefully a daytime discussion will be less reportable.

I didn't see the original thread.

When I was in high school, we were having a new school built on the field at the back of our old building. The Y7 boys all loved to ask how the school was 'cumming' along. As you can imagine, when a teacher responded that it's 'coming together quickly' or something similar there was a huge raft of laughter from the boys and massive eye rolls from the girls (and usually confused of unimpressed expressions from teachers). Urgh. 🤢

YANBU. It's a disgusting word. It sounds dirty and is as far from sexy as it gets!

(Didn't the version used in place names come 🙄from Latin? That's different, but to be honest, I feel it's been tainted by association with the modern porny version.)

It did. As I said above it means “with” so it’s probably evolved from conglomerations of tiny villages.

The three letter one is really recent. I’m very immature and will happily laugh at “come” but I just feel a bit sick at “cum”.

I hate it as well. It’s the language of porn.

Obviously the Latin 'cum' means with, so any historical name-place that uses cum is to denote a togetherness.

My Welsh husband also said 'don't forget about cwm', which is a confluence of hills, the heads of the valleys, also a togetherness!

I hate it as well !

I know that in the 90s it was definitely 'come' when talking about orgasm.

I think it's recently that it's switched. I hate it when I see it on the relationship board. It's become a word about male ejaculate (which seems to be the goal now) rather than mutual pleasure.

I use cum as an abbreviation of cumulative

Yes, but that's from the Latin, cum, cumulative, together, with, gather, to bring.

There's a place near or in Cambridgeshire called "Shingay Cum Wendy". I also hate the word. It's grotty.

<<clutches pearls and faints>>

Don't move to Chorlton Cum Hardy then OP!