I started a thread about how much I hate the word Cum and it got deleted

[Tetsuo]

I don't know why.

It was quite an interesting discussion.

I maintain that I hate the word cum and I'm not sure when 'come' to orgasm, to arrive, to reach one's sexual destination got bastardised to the really base and crude word cum, it's redolent of grubby blokes, it's seedy, it's horrible.

Anyhoo, I'm not sure why I was deleted, I think maybe one poster thought I was a seedy bloke that wanted women to discuss that word.

Promise I'm not!

It was an interesting discussion up to the point of deletion.

They are not pronounced the same!

Cm vs cUm.

One is soft, one is hard.

@PurplePansy05 we don’t know how anything was pronounced in Latin and having been to school in two different countries and frequented a lot of Catholic Churches it’s pronounced differently everywhere, to be pedantic. But the pronunciation difference is PART of why it’s wrong to spell it “cum”.

Is a Cwm not a Corrie?

Definitely not the last 5 years. I’m in my mid 30s and we used that term when I was at school/early teens. Which would have been around the millennium.

I have virtually no idea about that, I'm talking about Classics and this pronunciation (non-anglicised) is, well, classic, and universally accepted.

For the record, I've been educated in the UK and in Europe, including Catholic countries and I disagree with you in any event.

Couldn't care less about it since I don't use the word. Some people write 'shud' 'r u ok' etc etc in texts. Can't get worked up about it

I think some posters are confused.

It's not the term, come, to come. That's fine, it's a long used word to mean 'achieve orgasm'.

It's the relatively new spelling cum that irks me.

Come - fine.

Cum - not fine.

They are pronounced in most accents I can think of, in the exact same way and mean the same thing.

They're not!

But my main gripe is regarding the written word. Pronunciation is largely irrelevant in the context of my post. I hate seeing the word cum relating to human orgasm. It is base. It is crude and vulgar. And very unsexy.

@Tetsuo I hate it too. I went overseas for work and the agent sorting out my apartments said it had a “washing machine cum dryer” and it gave me the ick…..but i thought maybe its just me….but i hate it!!

I still can’t work out what you mean. I’d pronounce both the same, no idea if hard or soft. Cum and cm would be the same to my northern brain.

Neither would be pronounced like Coombe Martin which is softer.

I too am Northern @CormorantStrikesBack.

Coombe is obviously pronounced cooowm. Soft.

Cwm or Latin Cum is pronounced cm. Soft.

Cum is pronounced cUm. With a flat hard U.

The pronunciation is exactly the same. All good dictionaries have the phonetic script for both "come" and "cum" as having 2 variants (the same variants) depending which pronunciation of the vowel you use in your own idiolect.

"Cum" came into common usage in the early 70s according to various etymology references (which explains why it was scrawled over desks and walls in my comp in the mid 70s)

That you don't like it @Tetsuo is fine, and up to you. As I said, I've rarely heard it used by anyone over the age of 14 and not in the past twenty years or more. But then, I tend not to frequent the kind of websites (?) etc where you are clearly being triggered by it.

Well it's all over the relationship board on this very website @BlindurErBóklausMaður.

Which is what 'triggered' me.

You can only have hard and soft consonants not vowels, I think the OP means front vowel (a northern "u" like in "but" and "sun") and back vowel (a southern English "u" like the one in "but" and "sun")
Either way, the /u/ in "come" and "cum" is the same.

You are talking bonkers.

Of course you can have hard and soft vowels.

A A A.

Ahh Ahh Ahh.

You mean long and short.
Coombe = long /u:/
Cum= short (either like a northern "sun" or a southern one, but still short)

Vowels aren't hard or soft. Just long and short.

I hate the word cum … it's seedy

😁

@Tetsuo they really are pronounced the same. Maybe you differentiate because you don't like the word?
Regardless, why don't you avoid using it since your opinion on it is so strong?? You don't like the word written down...so don't use it? I can't imagine it crops up unless sexting anyway.

That's a short /a/ and a long /a:/

No.

I don't.

I know the difference between long and short and hard and soft vowels.

I don't think you do though.

yabu because you used anyhoo which is worse than cum.

But how do you pronounce come because I pronounce it cUm. 🤷‍♀️

Cum is only in filthy porn here in American. It’s not an acceptable word. One climaxes and comes.