DH often suppresses a laugh when I'm being serious

[Anonin]

Hello,

Maybe I'm overtired and touchy, but tonight I blew a fuse because DH suppressed a laugh when I tried to show him some martial arts movements that I learned as a kid, and not for the first time either. We've been married for more than a decade, and I've never been able to show him the movements in full, because the few times I did, he always laughed and then said that he suddenly thought of something funny which had nothing to do with me.

A few years back I was also very angry, because I was talking about something serious and personal, and he was suppressing a laugh all the way through, and, when I got angry, he said it wasn't me, he just thought of something funny. This happens times and again too, only sometimes I just let it go, but sometimes I was extremely vexed, depending on my mood.

I find this so childish. He made me feel ridiculous and regret confiding something I cherish with him. I believe him when he said that he wasn't making fun of me, but I'm furious that he cannot control himself to behave like a normal person would when others are being earnest. Particularly when I was talking passionately, this would be a moment that he often thought of "something funny". DH doesn't have friends, was bullied at school, and his siblings are all the same.

DH helped a lot with the baby, so I can't say he's a bad spouse, but tonight I feel so resentful that I almost wanted to book a plane ticket for me and my baby to my dad's place and leave him alone for a while.

AIBU? What would you do in my position?

Yoga as appropriation. Piss off. 😂 Most people do it for exercise/mobility.

I really think some people are just intent on being offended (almost always white and middle class/educated people lol). Best way to deal with these people is laugh, not to indulge them.

Yea because she is taking the piss and doesn't understand it is quite funny. But maybe she is genuine?
But would you find it funny if it was a genuine spiritual belief?
We go along with people having a personal relationship with God, even have bishops making laws, which is no less ridiculous really.

If you read mn much you prob know I'm anti woke, against crt and twam. I'm centre right and wouldn't want to vote labour.

But you are ignorant of the origins of yoga which is spiritual religious practice not an exercise like hit class. And it is a bit racist to say that. I am very anti snowflake in general. But on this specific cultural practices point I am right.

I think you are perpetuating a stereotype of Asian people passing ancient kung fu mysteries down the bloodline. Most Chinese people I know/have worked with don't do martial arts like a few hundred years ago. They watch Netflix, go on social media etc and do all the same stuff we do.

Imagine if we started an exercise class using the prayer movement of sunni Muslims. It wouldn't happen. But Hindu or Buddhist practices aren't even recognised as such.
I'm an atheist too BTW.

So because people watch Netflix they have no interest in any cultural traditions that aren't americanised mass consumption anymore? OK then.

Quite an assumption there.

She takes it very seriously. Hence the 'straight facedly' comment. She's thinking of giving up her job as a PT and doing it full time. She does overseas yoga retreats and has been spending months out the country every year doing it back to back - many groups each staying 1-2 weeks.

But I've never met any Indian people that actually care about this (and I work for a largish Sikh run company, literally being one of only three white people).

Yoga is actually practised by more Sikhs than Hindus statistically and IME they don't get stressed about this kind of thing. The concept of 'cultural appropriation' is a woke leftist concept from the west. Unless you're actively mocking their religion most cultures don't get hung up on this shit like we do.

So OP said she’s been practicing these moves as passed down through her family and people assumed she was white? Not that it couldn’t happen, but it’s surely less likely.

I feel you OP. DP had this annoying habit of goofing off in the midst of serious conversations. We talked about it, it didn’t change and I’m ashamed to say I got in the habit of walking away or hanging up whenever it happened. He didn’t like that and I reiterated it made me feel less inclined to share things with him and it has now greatly reduced.

I would agree tbf that it's somewhat context related. If OP's husband knows how much it means to her then it could be a bit insensitive to laugh. But nonetheless I think somebody doing kung fu moves or dinging a bowl on their head can be comical at face value and sometimes people read far too much into this.

My partner is half Scottish and whenever we go to family wedding etc there are kilts involved. People always joke about them and whether there's anything underneath/what if the wind picks up etc.

Nobody is ever mightily offended by this grievous mocking of Scottish tradition.

I don't know if it helps, OP, but my husband has a PhD in political economy, I'm very proud of him, but it's never occurred to me to read a word of it. Your thread has actually inspired me to ask him if he'd like me to read it and it turns out he would! (The introductory chapters, he says, not the long technical bit).
I'm with the poster who suggests your husband finds you endearing. There isn't always malice in laughter. DH and I are both very serious people but sometimes we manage to catch the joy in our earnestness and have a laugh at ourselves.

I would laugh if my spouse went all Kung Fu panda in the living room too. Extra laugh for a serious ninja face.
Extra, extra laugh if they got annoyed that I wasn't appreciating their specialness enough by remaining silently captivated by their performance.
It's all too much, too intense.