Do men really do this?

[pinkiepie87]

I recently went on a date (we didn't have sex) I really liked him, we got talking about how long we've been single etc

He told me today that he's had sex with a few women recently, he didn't fancy any of them - in fact he found them unattractive. He was drunk but even when drunk didn't fancy them.

I asked him how on earth did he get hard, stay hard to "perform" and finish if he didn't like them? Also he said he gave them foreplay so why would he touch someone's body he didn't like? He said he didn't really like their bodies either...

Anyway he said all men do this for different reasons,

Now I want to give up dating.

AIBU?

A hole is a hole to some men.

You want to give up dating because of that?!

Some do, he's been very honest,

But he's used women for sex.

Which is foul.

No is the simple answer to your question. Decent men (and there are many) don't do this.

I thought it was common knowledge that some men do that.

Well I certainly wouldn't see that charmer again.

I’d be questioning the motivation of a man willing to discuss this with you.

Yep, to some men, women are merely a receptacle to ejaculate into.

He’s let you know he’s a mysoginist before you got in too deep.

Thank your lucky stars, delete and block.

@KeyWorker ’s nailed it. At best he’s just gross, but he’s possibly also negging you / setting up so you’ll always wonder whether he actually likes or fancies you.

No, not all men are like this. As others have said, delete and block.

Not a reason to give up dating, but I'd definitely give up dating him.

I don't understand how they can touch a body they don't like and get hard etc? It seems backwards to me?

i know this is a thing, but I wouldn’t date someone who freely told me that. Why? It’s a vile attitude towards women and tbh I’d be wondering if down the line he’d use that to abuse me ‘’I don’t even fancy you, I told you I can sleep with women I don’t fancy’’ I realise that might be just the way my mind works but he’s shown himself to be unpleasant by even telling you that in the first place.

Are you always this naive? Of course men do this and I would actually go as far as to say most men would sleep with women they don’t find attractive for just sex. It’s not the body they don’t like it’s the face and even then I think men would sleep with women whose bodies they don’t like if it meant getting sex?! Ime this is most men.

As they say round here, men would shag a barbers floor.

If they're up for it, they're up for it. Attraction won't always have to come into it.

What a strange thing to admit !
Im quite liberal in my views of "the past" but even this gives me the ick 🤮

I could not get intimate with someone like that ! Next .....

I’d bet my next months mortgage payment that he uses prostitutes.

I wouldn't even go on a date with someone I didn't fancy.

Yes, a large proportion of men will fuck almost any woman if the opportunity presented itself, even if they're married. I'm not sure how this bit of common knowledge has escaped you up to now.

He told me he didn't like their bodies either, not their boobs/bum, nothing. He said one was really fat but he played with her boobs anyway, why would he do that? Really weird isn't it. I'm a bigger girl so I think he's laying groundwork here...!

My ex used to say to me that if you tell a man to fuck off, that is still engaging with him and he will see it as an invitation to keep trying.

He also said no man at all, ever wants children and they only do it for a compromise to stay withthe woman they want.

He was talking about himself and the men he associates with and calling that "all men".

I think a lot of men are like this and you have to wade through these beasts until you find a man who is a respectable and decent human being.

Why do you care why? He's totally gross, firstly for behaving like that, and secondly for thinking it was appropriate to give you the details.

A lot of straight men have gay sex in prison and go back to being straight when they get out. They don't need to find the other person particularly attractive to do it

I'm a female and, after a dry spell, had
sex with someone I didn't fancy. It wasn't the worst tbh. It was more of a spur of the moment thing. I guess for guys it's still enjoyable? But does seem more common for men to do it (repeatedly). Men are weird.