To take time off work to care for DH with gastro

[Fanningme]

I'm due to do a shift tomorrow at work . DH has started with some kind of D & V - It seems pretty bad. I don't think I could go to work knowing DH is at home vomiting with no adult to take care of him - I'd be constantly worrying. My teenager will be in but will probably be asleep mosr of the morning. DH is saying he wants me to stay home to take care of him.

Assuming he's still vomiting tomorrow morning is it reasonable for me to miss work to care for him as I am not ill. Would it be on an unpaid compasdionate leave basis? Sorry - I've never been in this position before.

Empty his vomit bucket and mop his brow? Good lord, this thread has made ME feel sick

Maybe you could offer to wipe his backside for hiim?

Either, this is a wind-up, or you're both unhealthily co-dependent.

Do you mop his fevered brow when he has the dreaded Man Flu?!

Ha ha op. Well done. You had a lot of people going there.

LOL.

I've currently got the same illness. I'm still having to do school runs. I'm off work yes but no ones here to "mop my brow". Ffs 😂😂

Are you getting confused with ibuprofen?

This is a windup, surely?

He can get his own paracetamol. He won't need his brow mopping, it's not the 1800's and he isn't dying of dysentery.

And why does he need a vomit bucket? Why can't be just throw up in the toilet?

Good Lord. Jug of water ( or bottle) box of paracetamol next to the bed. Bucket beside bed. He can empty it himself, in between vomiting. I’m sure a grown adult can look after himself for a day 🙄

Oh come off it, like another poster said he's not a 2 year old! Are you sure it isn't because YOU want some time off from work?

Honestly no that's a ridiculous thing to not go to work for 🤦‍♀️.

Around 1.5 million people die every year globally from diarrhoea causing infections every year

Not many of them are fully grown able adults with (unless there's a spectacular drip feed) no co-morbidities, living in the developed world with quality healthcare, cheap medicines (for d&v) and clean water.

I'd be on a disciplinary if I took that sort of time off OP. Your usually healthy adult dp/dh is not a 'dependent' in the legal sense of pp quoting the rules: they are a fully functioning, independent adult with a bad tummy.

How on earth do you think those of us who live alone manage OP? I'm sure your DH will be fine, and I know from my own experience (I did have a DH once) that I would prefer to be left alone anyway. Even when I was still at high school my DM worked and I was mostly at home alone.

Go get him some ondeatron and electrolytes and he will be fine. Some crackers and broth will sort him out if he needs food. The d&v that’s going around is quite nasty but luckily doesn’t last too long; he will likely won’t be puking tomorrow although may be nauseous for few days. You’ll likely catch it too- will he stay home to look after you?

You'll need time off yourself if he has Noro, it spreads like wildfire
I'm sure he'll manage

As long as you are sure that it is D & V then I'd leave him to sort himself out especially if you know where he's caught it from.
But do be aware that it isn't something more sinister. About 12 years ago DH was suffering with what we thought was a D & V episode - after a few days I got him a doctors' appointment - cutting a long story short - he had sepsis which resulted in 10 days in hospital and a few months off work.

Is your husband 5?

No.
Paracetomol is for pain, not D&V.
Too, the advice is:
“Contact your doctor immediately if you get a combination of these symptoms. You may need to avoid or limit paracetamol. You may have a severe infection as this may increase you risk of metabolic acidosis. Signs of metabolic acidosis include:

• deep, rapid, difficult breathing
• feeling sick (nausea)
• being sick (vomiting)
• loss of appetite”

There's no way I'd take a day off to look after DH in this scenario. I assume my employer would refuse it too.

Absolutely not! How do you think people who live alone manage with d&v?

Can't be throw up into the loo?

And I'm surprised he needs someone to mop his brow.

Seriously?!

Surely this is a piss take? I've had D&V and had to look after my 2 children under the age of 5 before because I've had no one else to help me and I've survived! He will be fine!

If I was your manager I would be (unprofessionally) telling the story for years about the time a staff member took carers leave to wipe the brow of her grown ass husband because he had some gastro! 😂

My DH definitely wouldn't want me hanging around to see and hear him in that state - give the man some dignity and leave him to it!

Thanks all. I'll check the lay of the land tomorrow. I was pretty worried about him at one point, but all a bit calmer up there now. I very rarely ever take time off/am ill myself btw, so am definitely not trying to get out of going to work, just didn't want to leave him if the vomiting showed no sign of letting up by tomorrow.