To take time off work to care for DH with gastro

[Fanningme]

I'm due to do a shift tomorrow at work . DH has started with some kind of D & V - It seems pretty bad. I don't think I could go to work knowing DH is at home vomiting with no adult to take care of him - I'd be constantly worrying. My teenager will be in but will probably be asleep mosr of the morning. DH is saying he wants me to stay home to take care of him.

Assuming he's still vomiting tomorrow morning is it reasonable for me to miss work to care for him as I am not ill. Would it be on an unpaid compasdionate leave basis? Sorry - I've never been in this position before.

YABU he’s a grown adult and quite capable of looking after himself

Mop his brow,
FFS

Generally I’d agree that taking time off to look after someone with D&V is excessive, but I got campylobacter poisoning once and was so Ill that I was blue-lighted to hospital, unconscious, and ended up on a drip for three days. If it is that bad, stay home.

(I never eat oysters now.)

It's not though.... it's to mop his brow, empty his bucket and give him meds! He can do all three himself.

I work for a really understanding and generous employer, but staying home to 'care for' an non-dependent adult with a tummy bug would not be grounds for compassionate leave/carer's leave here.

How do you think single people cope when they have a tummy bug? They either empty their own 'vomit bucket' or they go into the bathroom to be sick there. Your DH can do the same.

Yes, it's utterly miserable having a D&V bug, but provided he can walk as far as the bathroom to use the loo and get a glass of water, he doesn't need you there.

@kisstheblarney generally that is my attitude too.

How bad is it? Can he walk? I’ve had a vomiting bug twice which has left me unable to stand or walk. Crawling through my own vomit to try and reach my phone to ring my DH downstairs to come and help me one time. The other more recent when it came on suddenly and I passed out on the tube and had to be carried off and laid on platform floor and then vomited everywhere and all I could do was lie on the floor shaking and vomiting.
But with both of those it was over pretty quickly. Like 3 or 4 hours. I mean I didn’t feel great after, but I could stand and shuffle about and get myself what I needed. When I was vomiting I was completely incapacitated. If that bad then yes I can see why he would need someone. If able to stand and walk then no, shit as it is, he can and should manage.

Will @Fanningme divorce the man like she posted a few months ago?
Is she off work on compassionate leave, wiping his arse and cradling his puke bowl?
We’ll never know.

I have Crohn's disease.
In 2022, my son took time off to take care of me. I couldn't get out of bed unless I were crawling to the toilet.
He then had to drive me to the hospital.
Unless your husband is as bad as that, I wouldn't expect you to take time off to care for him.

Sorry op, but he's a grown man. He really needs to get a grip and fetch his own sick bucket!

@facepalmdaily He's probably over it by now ...