To take time off work to care for DH with gastro

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I'm due to do a shift tomorrow at work . DH has started with some kind of D & V - It seems pretty bad. I don't think I could go to work knowing DH is at home vomiting with no adult to take care of him - I'd be constantly worrying. My teenager will be in but will probably be asleep mosr of the morning. DH is saying he wants me to stay home to take care of him.

Assuming he's still vomiting tomorrow morning is it reasonable for me to miss work to care for him as I am not ill. Would it be on an unpaid compasdionate leave basis? Sorry - I've never been in this position before.

You’ll probably have it yourself by tomorrow anyway. Especially if you’ve been wiping his arse and emptying his sick bucket today

I had D&V this time last year and stayed off work by myself. I wouldn’t have even thought to ask my DH to stay home 🤣 DH left me a big glass of water before he went to work and I had a bowl by me. It was horrible but I don’t see what another person can do about it, you just have to wait it out.

What exactly does he want you to do??

Not sure you’re serious, but if you are, this is completely and utterly ridiculous.

1,000 a year in the USA due to Norovirus alone. It’s all ok, until your family member becomes a statistic. I just don’t think a genuine poster would have been concerned enough to ask the question if it were the usual stomach bug we all have had and know well by adulthood. Mocking her concern could have serious life changing consequences.

He doesn't need someone to take care of him. But D&V (unless it's food poisoning) is usually v contagious and if I were your colleague I would not want you anywhere near me.

If I had D&V I’d rather be left to my own devices dealing with it then someone wiping my brow and wiping my arse

More die crossing the road. Is she supposed to hold his hand everytime. Just to be sure you know?
Gobsmacked

I've read some daft things on here over the years, and this is right up there. I'm not sure this can even be real. What grown man needs his wife to stay home from work to empty his vomit bucket and fetch his paracetamol all day long? Unless he has lost the use of his legs that is.

@BabaBarrio - you need to tell the NHS about the Panadol leaflet you just quoted from - https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/diarrhoea-and-vomiting/
You also need to learn more about how statistics work and people on the internet.

DH is saying he wants me to stay home to take care of him.

Is he now? And would he do the same for you if you had D&V and said you wanted him to stay home?

(Answers on a postcard please...)

By tomorrow he’ll be pretty well empty anyway. It’s the first few hours that are the worst.

Hope you get the level of care you so eagerly espouse.

I need more info from the people asking why he needs a sick bucket. Don't other people usually have literal simultaneous d&v? Am I doing it wrong?!

I was shockingly ill with gastro caused by campylobacter over Xmas, in bed for a week but still managed to get myself to bathroom and cope while DH worked & sorted kids.
I really think he'd have been in trouble taking time off to look after me as would I if it was the other way round.

@Blessedbethefruitz - we also have a plague bucket for these situations so you are not alone!

That’s ridiculous , leave a second bucket if you think he’s going to fill the first

Having had Crohn’s for 20 years and other chronic illness including a stroke I’ve never expected my husband to take a day off work to mop my brow

Err wtaf?!!
Hes an adult. We take care of ourselves by this stage with minor illnesses like colds/flu/d &v... in fact, many adults would both take of themselves AND look after children whilst ill. Only have to look at the many threads on mumsnet to know that!
Why would you “worry”? That he will be rendered so weak he forgets where the painkillers are and vomits so much his bucket overflows and floods the bedroom?
I think you are blatantly trying for a justified day off work!

"Mop his brow" 😬

No, of course you wouldn't get compassionate leave for this. Compassionate leave is for cases such as bereavements, or severe illnesses or emergencies.

😂

He should not be taking so much paracetamol that he requires you to take a day off work to keep him supplied. Maybe that's why he's ill?

Sorry, are you saying that you dispose of vomit into black bin bags with the normal household waste? Please don't do this, vomit is classed as biohazardous waste. If it can't go down the toilet it needs to go into a clinical waste/biohazard bag and be disposed of as clinical waste, not as normal household waste.

He's a grown up! Tell him to stay in bed for the day, give him a bottle of water and tell him to wipe his own bum!

Wow. Immediately after vomiting, if he didn’t make it to the toilet, he jumps up (you always feel a bit better straight after) pours vomit down toilet, rinses bucket and pours that down toilet, gets some disinfectant, swirls it around bucket and pours that down toilet, leave bucket to drain dry and grab alternate bucket for next round. Brush teeth, shower if you feel like it, and eat as much as you can - sip water, have a lolly and a cracker or toast, satsuma. I would seriously judge the pair of you if you were in my team and stayed home to look after your adult husband. Stock up on sickbed foods. Make him a cup of tea and toast if he’s up for it before you leave.

The U.K. is a 3rd world country with the state of its health service. The excess deaths is at a 50yr high. Thousands of people die every month in the U.K. just due to ambulance and A&E delays. Amazing you are confident that they are dedicating extra time keeping their web pages up to date in the midst of this crisis.