To take time off work to care for DH with gastro

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I'm due to do a shift tomorrow at work . DH has started with some kind of D & V - It seems pretty bad. I don't think I could go to work knowing DH is at home vomiting with no adult to take care of him - I'd be constantly worrying. My teenager will be in but will probably be asleep mosr of the morning. DH is saying he wants me to stay home to take care of him.

Assuming he's still vomiting tomorrow morning is it reasonable for me to miss work to care for him as I am not ill. Would it be on an unpaid compasdionate leave basis? Sorry - I've never been in this position before.

I’m sorry but you are being unreasonable. He’s an adult, he will spend the day in bed hopefully sleeping this bug off. Go to work like most adults would do.

what help are you going to be? holding his sick bowl? Wiping his arse?

im sure he will manage.

Sorry this can't be serious. I'm not buying it.

Please tell me this was a joke.

It must be a joke

Sorry but no you can’t call in sick for this. Leave him water, paracetamol and the TV remote. He will be fine

Stop molly cuddling him! Also stop coming up with excuses not to go into work. Unless it's an appendicitis he'll be fine.

He’s a grown man & will be fine.

Would he consider this if it was the other way round?

For goodness sake, he’s not a baby. Go to work.

Behave yourself 😂

Glass of water by his bed with paracetamol.
Empty basin.
Towel. Wipes.

I’d be surprised if you qualify for any special type of leave for this. You wouldnt in my work place. You could ask for a days annual leave, or unpaid leave, but whether it’s granted will presumably depend on your manager. I wouldn’t be impressed if I were your manager tbh - unless there is something else going on here, I’m assuming your DH is a grown adult man who should be well able to look after himself in these circumstances…

Why can’t he vomit in the toilet like a normal adult ?

'Hi boss, sorry but I won't be in today - husband is ill and needs me to mop his brow. Cheers'

Are you frightened to say no to his request?
Apologies if I have misread the situation

Hes not only unreasonable, hes unbelievably pathetic.
He can wash out his sick bucket on one of his many trips to the toilet like everyone else 🤣. He be grand.

Unless there's a huge drip feed you're definitely joking.

Clear a path to the bathroom.

Put a packet of wet wipes and paracetamol by the bed alone with a jug of water.

Leave the dressing gown of doom on the edge of the bed in case he needs to mope later on.

You do not need to be there.

@Floralnomad - in fairness when I last had food poisoning, the vomiting came on very violently and suddenly, a sick bucket was required.

I don't like anyone with 10 metres of me if I'm shitting and vomiting. If you've been that close to him, you're going to get it yourself! Assuming this isn't a joke, he does not need your supervision. He's a fucking adult.

This can't be real.

Why can't he vomit into the toilet like a normal person?

"Mop his brow?!

If he has the shits he will need a bucket

YABU

Taking time off for a relative who is not a child needs to be restricted to the life threatening ones eg heart attack, stroke, loss of limb, serious accident.

Although I was pretty annoyed at DH who went to work the day I had surgery for a miscarriage. I had to drive myself there. He did pick me up though and drive me and my car home.

As a back up it’s reasonable , but an adult should be able to then empty it into the loo and rinse it .

Just stick him in the bath to be on the safe side

Hah last time my husband had D&V I moved out with DC as fast as I could!

We stayed at my mums for a couple of days.

Not going to risk getting it!!