To take time off work to care for DH with gastro

[Fanningme]

I'm due to do a shift tomorrow at work . DH has started with some kind of D & V - It seems pretty bad. I don't think I could go to work knowing DH is at home vomiting with no adult to take care of him - I'd be constantly worrying. My teenager will be in but will probably be asleep mosr of the morning. DH is saying he wants me to stay home to take care of him.

Assuming he's still vomiting tomorrow morning is it reasonable for me to miss work to care for him as I am not ill. Would it be on an unpaid compasdionate leave basis? Sorry - I've never been in this position before.

Are you serious? I'd be bloody pissed off if one of my staff didn't come in to look after a grown man (assumably with no disability) with the shits? For real??

My father would have expected my mother to look after him in this situation. He was needy and controlling. Do not start this ridiculous behaviour Op. Go to work.

Risk doesn’t matter if your family member is 1 of the unlucky ones. To you that is 1 of 1.

A friend of mine lost her teenage son who ate bad rice. It wasn’t just “D&V” that could be slept off.

I would trust OP’s judgement here and she writes like he is seriously unwell. No one would do a post to MN if it were run of the mill stomach bug.

I think it's a reverse.
Are you a manager who's been asked by a staff member?
Personally I'd be out the door as quick as I can..I do have emetophobia though

Use a pedal bin liner in the bucket, vomit, tie handles, remove and put in larger black bin bag to bin later. Line bucket again. No need to be rinsing out a bin each time. We actually use a plastic bin for this reason as the pedal bin liners fit.

Game changer.

It is according to the U.K.gov webpage.
As an employee you’re allowed time off to deal with an emergency involving a dependant. A dependant could be a spouse, partner, child, grandchild, parent, or someone who depends on you for care.

😂

I don’t normally do this, but I did search your username to try and understand the context for this. There was just one short thread from you last October saying that you wanted to separate from him. I do wonder if there is more context to this request and whether he is trying to force you to stay off work.

Bless

New to Mumsnet are you?

No and you do know this but nice try

He is an adult and unless he has mobility or physical health issues then absolutely not! Paracetamol can be left by the bed with water, bucket by bed and he can sleep/ get on with it!! You are not his mother!!

This has to be a wind up!

How utterly bizarre.

So funny!!

I may be newish, but I do know that paracetamol is very bad advice when you have D&V. Why is it being recommended by so many?

If you genuinely feel an able bodied otherwise healthy adult is unwell enough with an acute illness that they require another adult present constantly to care for them I would consider whether or not they need hospital admission and seriously consider seeking medical help tonight.

Thats no reason to stay off work! I don’t think an employer would be at all impressed.

Honestly you get tales on here of men refusing to take a day off work to care of their (sometimes also sick) babies and toddlers when their wife is more unwell than he sounds. And half the posters say the wives are unreasonable to want that.

Leave your husband water, paracetamol and maybe snacks if you feel kind. He’s an adult - what more could he need? Being able to rest quietly when you’re ill is quite a luxury in itself.

This is hilarious @Fanningme . No you cannot take compassionate leave because your DH has a sick bug. He can empty his own sick bucket, or better yet vomit into the toilet instead. Leave him water and paracetamol on the bedside table and go to work.

Paracetamol available in case it turns into a headache or similar not for the d and v itself

Eh? Says who??

Don't be ridiculous 🙄 he's a grown man and can cope with a bout of d & v surely! Give him a jug of water and leave him in bed, he'll be fine.

I’d be really unimpressed by this if I was your boss, and it would be cut down as an unauthorised absence.

Can't he do it down the toilet ffs?

Wow sounds like a man child.