Am I boring…which would you prefer?

[Dermotissuchafidget]

This Saturday…friends birthday lunch..lots of girls only, beautiful place by the beach, lovely food, drinks, entertainment, quite fancy and you need to get dressed up..2-3 hours long.

My original plan for Saturday (before she planned it)

Drive to a beautiful nature place with trees, stream, picnic tables..take Dd, 5 and Ddog, with Dh, pack a picnic, Dd to wear wellies and take a net in the stream
walk for a couple of hours

Which would you prefer?

For context, I’m 45

@foxfoxohmyfox

whats so bad about getting dressed up?
surely it’s nice sometimes?

They both sound great. I'd do the birthday lunch as harder to organise, and do the nature walk on sunday or in the morning.

The beach lunch on Saturday and walk on Sunday would be my perfect weekend

And to think almost everyone on this thread is allowed to vote 😂

@LuckySantangelo35 nothing at all. Personally, I just cannot be bothered these days !

Is anyone else getting nostalgic for Marie Claire's 'man of the month'?

Describe your perfect weekend...

'a meal out with friends on Saturday which knowing my friends might become a night out, a country walk and pub lunch on Sunday, crackling fires, Sunday papers' BLAH BLAH BLAH SHUT THE FUCK UP COLIN

What an oddly written op 😂 I would do both. Friends birthday on Saturday, nature walk Sunday.

Both?

They are both my idea of a good time…
I’d do one on Saturday one on Sunday and have a birthday weekend 🥳

I’m really confused why would your friend want, what sounds like “your family day out” for her birthday?

I’d love the second option with my family and the first option with my friends.

🤣🤣🤣
almost everyone has said the same thing I really should learn to RTFT!!!

I'd choose friend's birthday because the welly walk can be done another day, the birthday celebration can't.

I'd rather do the picnic.

If it's a friend's birthday lunch then I'd do that on the Saturday as birthdays are only once a year. Why can't you do the walk and picnic on Sunday or the following week?

Depends both are nice and fun, I am confused do u mean take your family to celebrate a friends bday ? If yes that’s odd, why can’t you go?
or are you saying miss friends bday and go out with family ?

If you'd rather potter about with your husband and child than see your friends for a birthday party (which sounds like a nice party) , that is your prerogative.

But you can't complain in a few years time when your child is older and doesn't want to potter about with mummy, that you don't have any friends. Or if no one comes to your birthday. Or is there is help if you ever need it in a crisis.

There are a remarkable number of people on here who are outraged to be invited to any sort of social event and treat it as a major imposition so I'm sure lots of people will tell you it's totally outrageous that your friend is even daring to have a birthday party.

If you don't like these friends, it is an invitation, not a summons and you can decide not to go.
It's not that it makes your boring, it's that it makes you very isolated and you may regret that at some point in the future.

no, it was perfectly clear! And obvious that you must be somewhere not UK.

Honestly I do worry about people not be able to read a simple OP any more.

I think both sound lovely. I would go to girls day on sat and plan the picnic for another day.
If it was me, it would depend on how frazzled I was feeling this week. Frazzled = don't want to bother dressing up and going out. But I would make myself go and enjoy it in the end.

Some of my best days/evenings have been those where I really didn't want to or couldn't be arsed to go but ended up having the best time. I would make an effort to go on Saturday, and then have a nice chilled family walk and picnic on Sunday. Sounds like it could be a perfect weekend.

Dog walk and stream splashing for me, OP. And it is below freezing here!

@MojoMoon Ffs. I like my friends, this is my issue, hence the post, that I probably am weird and don’t particularly like getting dressed up these days, drinking much, meeting new people or dancing…😂

I'd enjoy both but I'd prefer the second, but I'd do the first as it's my friend's birthday and do the second on a different day.

As above. I'd have a lovely day with my girlfriends on Saturday and a beautiful Sunday with my family doing the picnic and stream thing. Then I'd remark what an amazing weekend I had and feel very content with my lot

I'd enjoy both but prefer the second because it's a bit different and I love the beach, even in winter. You can go on a walk any day.

But don't see why it has to be an either or situation anyway, just do the dog walk Sunday?

Agree with @MojoMoon there's nothing wrong with enjoying "boring" things or being more introverted (both apply to me) but a) it's healthy to go slightly out of your comfort zone occasionally and b) agreed, there are thousands of posts on here about people who are very introverted and almost wear it like a badge of pride....but then a large overlap of "why don't I have any friends" "child has moved out/Dp has died/left me and I've realised they were my whole world" "I'm lonely" posts.

I don't understand why so many posters don't seem to understand. OP has been invited to a fancy lunch to celebrate her friends birthday. She doesn't particularly want to go because she'd rather go for a picnic walk on the beach with her Husband and child. OP wants to know if this makes her boring. Simple....unless I'm the one who's misunderstood, in which case I apologise! 😆

I don't think finding joy in simple things like a walk with your family makes you boring. The girls lunch sounds lovely to me, but if it's not your idea of fun then that's OK. I would absolutely prioritise the friends birthday though, even if the choice of activity didn't particularly appeal to me, because you can go on a walk with your DH and DC anytime.

I'd prefer fancy lunch and drinks. No to dancing though.

The nature walk/wellies with DH and DC sounds more like a standard family Sunday activity, not really a birthday treat.

Made me laugh. People are terrible for this on MN. School holidays are the worst some people cannot accept that anywhere else (doesnt even have to be abroad, term dates within the uk and NI vary a lot!) might not have exactly the same term dates as they do and posts get completely derailed - AIBU to be upset the teacher hit my child in school today? Becomes 1000 posts of "you are clearly lying because it's half term!,

But in this case its a reading comprehension issue rather than lack of imagination/focussing on irrelevancies - OP only said it was a place BY the beach i.e a beachfront restaurant not that they were all jumping in the sea - do posters really think every seaside resort doesn't have central heating and shuts down completely over winter? Indoors by the beach is as warm as indoors in the city!