Husband has put an apple airtag in my car!

[ZeeB68]

Don't know if I Abu or not but my husband has gone abroad for 3 weeks for his brothers wedding and left me at home with the kids, our youngest is only 13 weeks old.
He's been gone since Sunday evening and today as I had just arrived back from doing the school run dropping off my older 2 children I had an tracker alert on my phone that says an airtag tracker has been detected and it showed me every where I had been that morning on the map. I was very confused at first as I didn't know what it was as i didnt know what an apple airtag was up until a few days ago, when my husband bought some to put in his suitcases before travelling, I know it 100% in my car, one because it showed everywhere I'd been that morning, and when I pressed " play sound" I could hear it beeping inside the back of my car! He's obviously hidden in it the day before he travelled when he went to fill my car up with petrol before he left.
I'm just so upset and don't know why. Surely if it was for safety with him being away from home he would have told me before putting it in there?
He doesn't know I know, I'm pretty sure he also doesn't know that my phone would detect it and give me an alert. I haven't said anything to him yet, I don't know what to say.
Aibu to think he is spying on me and tracking me or could it really be he's thinking about safety? But then I just think he would have said something. I'm really upset about it all knowing he's hid a tracker in the back of my car.

Blimey I wouldn’t be happy about that! Not. At. All. Guess it depends on his motivation/your relationship - is trust an issue? Is he wanting to check up on you? Or is it just a safety thing and he forgot to mention it? I’d ask him..

Makes you wonder if he's tracking you in other ways doesn't it?
I'd leave it as presumably you're not up to mischief in his absence. Plus not to draw attention to the fact you have noticed it just yet while you process what's happening here.
Does he have form for any other kind of abusive behaviour or is this out of the blue?

Wow, that's pretty concerning. How's your relationship overall, OP? Does he have previous for not trusting you?

Don't tell him. Put it in someone else's car. Let your husband work that one out.
I would be raging.

I would put it in bucket of water for 20 minutes and then put it in the recycling. Check for hidden cameras in your home - you can buy a detector from Amazon. Get legal advice.

I would dig it out and drop it by the side of your drive so that it stays there and annoys him for next 3 weeks.
How would I deal with it? You have 4 weeks to think about it and see what he does when he realises his trick isn't working...

I’m guessing you found it somewhere where it can’t have just fallen out of one of his bags? It’s pretty shocking OP. I’d be tempted to take it somewhere unusual and leave it there, like a porn shop or a local undertakers then see what he does…

Is he tracking your phone as well?

I mean my first instinct here would be to send him a screenshot of the "map" and ask WTF but you might get a less slippery answer in person.

I’d have some fun with it, teach him a lesson. Appalling behaviour from him.

How very bizarre. What do you want to do?

Put it on a bus and let him wonder

That's very concerning behaviour. Is he controlling in other ways?

I would put it in another vehicle, bus, taxi or someone else's car.

Makes you wonder if he's tracking you in other ways doesn't it?
I'd leave it as presumably you're not up to mischief in his absence. Plus not to draw attention to the fact you have noticed it just yet while you process what's happening here.

I wouldn't, I'd take it out immediately and amuse myself wondering how he's going to bring up the fact that he was tracking me and has been found out.

When I pressed " play sound" to locate it, I can hear it beeping in the back of my car, I need to check but he's hidden it in the back of the seats or inside the boot, not just something that's happened by accident as we have separate cars!

Find it and then drop it on a bus or something. When he then starts questioning you on where you’ve been you’ll know he did it for nefarious purposes and didn’t just drop it by accident

Why not just ask him? He's probably put one in the car for general reasons when he put one in his own suitcase, and just not bothered to tell you. Doesn't mean to say he's spying on you.

Now I am also wondering about this too!

@ZeeB68 what the hell does he think you are going to get up to with a 13 week old baby??? when are you meant to find the time to even wipe your backside after going to the loo!!

Of course, your first reaction on finding an airtag would be to remove it, because after all, it couldn't possibly be your husband putting it there without telling you, could it?

It is creepy regardless but is this the first time you have used the car since he went? Can't work out why it hasn't notified you of it earlier in the week if he went Sunday.

Take it out, leave it somewhere.

You're right, if it was for safety he would have asked if you were interested in one.

It's not normal to secretly track and trace your partner.
He doesn't trust you for whatever reason.

I would be livid, and looking to get legal advice.

I’d also take the car to a garage and specifically ask them to search for the device and any others.

Oooh I would be furious but then I'd also have a field day with it!