Husband has put an apple airtag in my car!

[ZeeB68]

Don't know if I Abu or not but my husband has gone abroad for 3 weeks for his brothers wedding and left me at home with the kids, our youngest is only 13 weeks old.
He's been gone since Sunday evening and today as I had just arrived back from doing the school run dropping off my older 2 children I had an tracker alert on my phone that says an airtag tracker has been detected and it showed me every where I had been that morning on the map. I was very confused at first as I didn't know what it was as i didnt know what an apple airtag was up until a few days ago, when my husband bought some to put in his suitcases before travelling, I know it 100% in my car, one because it showed everywhere I'd been that morning, and when I pressed " play sound" I could hear it beeping inside the back of my car! He's obviously hidden in it the day before he travelled when he went to fill my car up with petrol before he left.
I'm just so upset and don't know why. Surely if it was for safety with him being away from home he would have told me before putting it in there?
He doesn't know I know, I'm pretty sure he also doesn't know that my phone would detect it and give me an alert. I haven't said anything to him yet, I don't know what to say.
Aibu to think he is spying on me and tracking me or could it really be he's thinking about safety? But then I just think he would have said something. I'm really upset about it all knowing he's hid a tracker in the back of my car.

Please find it and give it to someone else going someplace interesting! I love the Jamaica idea 😄 but literally anywhere out of the ordinary will do to serve the purpose!

That's dreadful. I'd remove it, put it in a box with a message saying 'you're a dick' and then hide it on the local park. He can find it on his return.

If he really left it there to spy on your movements when you have a 13 week old baby I don’t think sending the AirTag off on a National Express bus is the best plan.

Has he shown other signs of controlling behaviour? Do you have joint control of your finances? Do you have friendships and does he interfere or insist on joining you if you make plans to meet up with friends or family?

I'd post pictures of me and the airtag on social media. Take it for a few trips out, to all the boring crap you do when your at home with the children for three weeks alone.

I think it’s absolutely out of order to put a tracker in your car deliberately

however if he asked on mumsnet (posing as a woman obviously) it’s what he’s be advised to do if he had any concerns (gut feel) about you. It’s widely seen as acceptable.

He left you with a small baby for 3 weeks and put an air tag on your car. Divorce. The only answer is divorce.

Post the air tag to a friend so they can have some fun with it.

Your husband is a scumbag. Why on earth would he think its OK to leave you with the kids and a newborn for weeks?

Divorce this pos

It's unlikely, but not impossible, that it has dropped there by accident.

@ZeeB68 are there any other things that would make you concerned with H's behaviour? Is he controlling at all?

Order some adhesive pads from amazon ansd then stick the tag to the next HGV you see.

OP, I'd divorce him based on your other thread alone.

That is really disturbing what he has done. Put it on a bus or post it somewhere odd

Post it to him.

Unless he has form for possessiveness/stalker like behaviour, could it not just be that having looked into them for the cases, he thought that they could be useful for your family cars, in case of theft? He may not have mentioned it because he simply forgot/didn’t think it was important.

how dare he go abroad for THREE WEEKS leaving you alone with a tiny baby and two other children, and then have the audacity to track you as if you’d have the bloody time to do anything but look after them? no wedding is 3 weeks long, he’s really taking the piss. i’d be having strong words and very likely be off to the solicitors afterwards to arrange the divorce! absolutely disgusting op i’m so sorry that you’ve been lumbered with this selfish man.

With an ‘I think you dropped this.’

I’d divorce him for leaving me for 3 weeks with kids at home

Just a thought - did he put it there in case the car was stolen? My car has a tracker installed for that reason, an AirTag would be cheaper!

my husband has gone abroad for 3 weeks for his brothers wedding

Classic projection. He's monitoring your every move during your three weeks of 'freedom' from him because he's up to no good himself.

Say nothing and keep it.

Upon his return, turn the tables and secrete it in his car and deny you know anything about it.

This! Drive to the service station and attach it to a freight lorry with foreign plates, and let him work out how and why, you're bolting through France and beyond tomorrow. Cross country train would have a similar effect... Sling it into a carriage and be on your way. Just get it as far away from you as possible... And the husband.

If my husband did this (as well as going abroad for 3 weeks when you have 3 kids, one of which is a new baby, to care for) I'd be fuming.

Then I'd be packing his bags and changing my phone (in case he'd hacked that too).

Op if you have family to stay with go and stay with them.

Your husband is an arsehole.

Don't tell him. He may be doing other things too and will cover his tracks if he thinks you are suspicious.
If he's tracking your car he may be listening to your phone/tracking your internet use.
Plus he may be projecting and be up to no good himself.
Keep quiet and use the time to have a look around

This. I reckon he's cheating. But even if he isn't, he's a fucking scumbag .

What is he like in general? Are you sure he’s not just put it in the car in case the car is ever stolen? We have them on our keys and I put one in ds’s pocket when we go skiing (he doesn’t have a phone). Dh and I are on each others “find my friends” too. But I’m not at all worried about him tracking me for nefarious reasons, he’s not controlling or a dick.

Take it out of your car and put it in the house. He’ll know you’ve found it but don’t mention it.

Also report it to the police. Say you don’t know who put it there and your husband is the only person with access to your car. You never know when this might become valuable evidence.

Then decide whether to address it or not when he’s back.