Man on school run

[Frisps]

I see a man every morning on the school run and he stares at me. Like a really intense look and what I can only describe as an ‘evil’ sort of angry glare look on his face. I’ve no idea why. Never spoke to him, never had any issue. He doesn’t know me or anyone I know on the school run. His children are in a different year group to mine so there is no issues there. I just always see him every morning. The first few times he did it I just smiled but now I keep trying to avoid eye contact when I go past him but I can tell he’s still doing it as I feel his eyes on me as I go past. I did think I was being paranoid but I’m definitely not. the last couple of days he’s also walked past my car when I’ve been parked and I’ve been sat in it minding my own business. I’ve looked out my windscreen and then as he’s passed my window I’ve felt his eyes on me so looked and he’s staring at me like that whilst looking into my car window at me as he passes. I’m starting to feel quite annoyed and intimidated by this. What would you do?

Yep I have resting bitch face.. it's a struggle 😬

Still doesn't explain why his eyes are on OP whenever she sees him, even from her car.

Even if he had a resting smiley face, doing that would be weird.

OK a mum at pick up wears a dry robe.. is this a thing?? She isn't wet..

I would definitely report it to the school or to the police this will safe guard you being able to go do the school run peacefully.
They should be able to give you advise on what to do but he sounds very dodgy and needs being spoken to because it's making you feel this way and it's intimidation.

I noticed a man staring at me at the tram stop the other day. I did not get good vibes from the look. He then sat down on a bench at the stop and said something to me, but too quietly for me to hear. I bent towards him and asked him to repeat it. He said "Sit on my lap" and patted his knees. I put on my teacher voice and told him that no, I would not. He jumped up and ran off. Seemed to perhaps have a learning disability.

I wouldn't ignore my gut instinct. All these people saying OP is imagining it ... what if you're wrong?
OP, could you ask a friend to walk behind you/with you and check this man out/see if he looks at you differently when you are not alone?

I'd report it before something serious happens and everyone's comments should be that regardless how your dressed parked ect its not necessary for someone to do this to another person. All these mothers that have had this hasnt ended well from what I've seen on the news and I dont want to scare you more but I feel for you and want the best outcome of it. The school won't get involved but I'm sure the police will do if its been going on that long and with the bad things that could happen if he's watching you would be best to safe guard yourself

Once I'd have felt intimidated by this but now I'm old I give fewer fucks and would say something. Big smile and "Hello, do I know you?" Head tilt. Hopefully he'll say No, and next time you can smile at him and he'll look away. I wonder if he'd give you the evils if you were with a friend? Maybe try that first and see if he either ignores you or stares at you both.

Put very dark sunglasses on as soon as you park. Genuine suggestion. It will stop the eye contact.

I'd say what the fuck are you looking at 🤣 but I'm quite rough

When people do things like this my mother always asks them ‘can I help you?’ in a loud voice. She’s small but formidable. If they are a wrong’un it scares them off, if they are staring for a legitimate reason they usually apologise and explain.

Did you do something like buy a house he wanted? Is it a race thing?

Ah there was a childminder that did this to me at the DCs school. In the end I made a point it looking very obviously in the other direction when I saw her and no eye contact at all . I then caught her doing it to someone else. You’ve got to wonder what goes on in these peoples heads.

You situation is worse though because he’s a man. I’m wondering if you could take a photo/video of him doing this and maybe speak to the headteacher. He shouldn’t be intimidating other parents.

I don't think you're being paranoid. It sounds like he's trying to intimidate or maybe there's mental health stuff going on. I'd ignore it or look back at him and ask is there a problem??

Things like this can be real.

He probably likes you stop with the victim attitude its not cool

Maybe you remind him of someone.
I personally would not do anything. He sounds unapproachable.

I can't believe the answers and responses. Irregardless of whether this man is or is not staring (and I have no reason or evidence to doubt the OP) it is making her feel uncomfortable. If it was me I would glare back and make them feel uncomfotable unless I thought he posed a threat then I would call 111 and ask for advice from police.
Hope you are ok OP. X

@Frisps Ask another parent. Say 'who's the weird dude who's always giving me daggers?!'

They'll probably say 'oh that's angry Andy/ racist Dave/ hit by lightning and it stuck Larry'. Worst case they'll say 'thats my husband and he hates you because I said you tried it on with me to distract him from the fact I'm having an affair with the sports teacher'. Don't approach him though, nothing to be gained from it.

Some men do have angry faces but they're usually angry men. There's a difference between resting *** face and angry face. There's a mum who lives on our road who's like it with us, literally no idea why but I also don't care I get the impression it's because hates her own life and doesn't like smiling, so I leave her to it.

Well maybe he thinks he might know you from somewhere or maybe that’s just his resting bitch face. He probably thinks well why does this woman keep staring at me!

I say trust your instincts. If you do confront him I'd do so friendly & casually - with back up to witness. It's not paranoia if you sense something 'off' this strongly. Perhaps he fancies you...or is just an odd character. Personally, I'd park elsewhere to avoid avoid avoid.

There is a campaign on London Underground about staring and how unacceptable it is.

Talk to the school or call 111 to raise your concern.

I would have to speak to him because I would drive myself insane questioning myself if I’ve inadvertently done something to offend him or his family

Yes. Good idea. She can observe him too and see if he does it to anyone else.

My gut instinct would say act like you have not seen him, and don't try talking to him. It would give him an excuse to talk to you. Always trust your gut instincts.

My husband is always raging on the school run with the people that stand and block the path, do you do that?🤣