To be embarrassed for these women following their OH’s round the golf course

[Flowersandchoc]

I’m a member of a golf club and have noticed in the last year a couple of women have started to walk round the course with their OH’s.

I’ve seen them quite a few times now - they definitely aren’t playing, they just trail round after their husbands.

I could understand if OH had no one to play with or maybe in the summer when the weather was nice but there were 4 men playing in the group & it was bloody freezing yesterday so I can’t see the appeal of walking round for hours not playing. Is it me or is this extremely odd and a bit embarrassing that they don’t have anything better to do ?!?

Are they of an age where they might be retired? Could just be that they want to go for a walk and the fact their husband's playing golf gives them the motivation to get out and do it?

Or they might want to take up golf but want to get a feel for what it's like first.

I mean, I don't think I'd fancy wandering round a golf course after DH, bit I don't think it's madly odd either.

Well it's not something I'd do but why does it matter if they had anything better to do or not? Maybe they were there because they wanted to be.

I mean, I wouldn’t do it but maybe there were circumstances that made it necessary to be there 🤷‍♀️

Sorry I should have said they can’t be any older than 30 - I just think it’s sad that they didn’t have anything better to do at the weekend ! And I’m a golfer!

I don't know what's embarrassing about it- probably a convenient way to spend time together, get outside and get some step counts in.

I wouldn't fancy it myself, but my own husbands hobby involves speed, and wheels, so I couldn't follow him about even if I wanted to.

Bit judgemental OP. Why does it matter?

I think it's weird that you think it's pitiful for a couple to want to spend time together.

Yes I’d feel a bit sorry for them too, but I suppose everyone else will be along in a minute to tell you to mind your own business 😁

I follow my OH around the golf course. I don’t like golf, I don’t play golf…..but I quite like my OH and enjoy chatting to him and watching him do something he loves

and going to the bar after 😁

My dad used to play golf and I just can imagine what he would have said if my mum had wanted to traipse round the golf course with him 😆

I think it's odd.

To be fair to them, I'm in my 30s and I'd prefer to spend time with my husband on weekends than anyone else. He works all week so I'd value the time spent with him rather than socialising. I mean, he doesn't play golf, but if he did I'd be at home or out with the kids, but if I wasn't busy I wouldn't necessarily have to be out socialising.

@LauderSyme but it’s not the couple spending time together - there were 4 men and 2 women following yesterday. The men didn’t interact with the women at all, they were all too busy playing golf / talking to each other. So it just looked to me like the women weren’t letting the Oh’s have their own time for their hobby

Unless they're on a lead, I don't see what the issue is and I can't imagine why you'd care. If there was something else they'd rather be doing, they'd do it.

@Flowersandchoc Maybe they still like being in eachother's vicinity? Or maybe the two women fancied some fresh air and a chat with each other? I think saying that the women are clingy and smothering is a rather large assumption.

DH has a golf buddy whose partner sometimes comes along, he has never said he thinks it strange. They all have a nice chat going round, then have lunch together.

It's prob more embarrassing how judgemental you are.

I agree that it’s really odd!

For all those saying it’s fine, would you all think it was ok if your DH chaperoned your hobbies with your friends ? I would not be impressed if my DH tagged along with me and my friends. It’s healthy to have some time away from your partner every now and then.

Can’t think of among more boring myself. I like my own space so any time I get to myself is a bonus! And I have my own hobbies - no need to be attached at the hip to the other half. Oh and us horse people have a saying about golf courses - waste of a good field 😂

Not so different to going to support your husband's team at football etc surely?

It's none of your business

Probably not more sad or embarrassing than having nothing better to think about?

It's not something I've done, but I've accompanied DH on other activities, just to watch/have a bit of a social with the other wives and something to eat after. I don't really see anything sad and embarrassing about that. Maybe they all like each other.

I love to go golfing with my husband. We take all 3 kids. It's very relaxing to walk/ride the golf cart around the beautiful course and spend time together as a family.

You in the other hand sound miserable and judgemental.

You're insinuating the women demanded that they tag along when you know no such thing. If their partner is happy for them to come along, how is this an issue? They aren't being "chaperoned." 🙄

Maybe they don't live near the golf course and they go on somewhere else together afterwards and it saves a journey?

It's more embarrassing that you're sneering at them for doing something because you don't personally see the appeal, imo.

Maybe they enjoy a nice walk in the bracing air with nice scenery? Maybe they enjoy their husband's' company?