To be embarrassed for these women following their OH’s round the golf course

[Flowersandchoc]

I’m a member of a golf club and have noticed in the last year a couple of women have started to walk round the course with their OH’s.

I’ve seen them quite a few times now - they definitely aren’t playing, they just trail round after their husbands.

I could understand if OH had no one to play with or maybe in the summer when the weather was nice but there were 4 men playing in the group & it was bloody freezing yesterday so I can’t see the appeal of walking round for hours not playing. Is it me or is this extremely odd and a bit embarrassing that they don’t have anything better to do ?!?

I’m sure their partners could tell them if they didn’t want them there? Assuming they’re normal people with jobs on top of what can be a time consuming hobby, maybe this is the only nice time they get to spend together. I’ve spent the day sat on a bank watching my oh fish. He’s spent the day with me while I’m doing house calls at work, driving me round and waiting in the car so we could spend time together between calls. I went out with him today while he shopped round home bargains and b&m for cheap cereal bars etc for his work lunches. We like being out the house and spending time together. Having a stroll round a golf course would be riveting compared to what we have to do to spend time together

I've been with my dad a few times, I enjoyed the walk and chat. The course he goes to is huge and the grounds are really lovely, I got quite a few steps in!

None of us have the first idea what the motivation was for any of the people involved in this situation!

I don't think it's odd at all - my DH isn't a golfer but my brother is and when I visit him I frequently accompany him on a round. Great opportunity to have a really good catch up and get some exercise at the same time. Don't understand why it's any stranger than going for a walk together.

I'm now realising from this thread that me walking after my 80 year old father probably made some of the nosey people up there think he had a really shit choice of trophy wife 🤣🤣

My DH plays rugby and I go along to watch him. I thought that was quite a normal thing to do...

I’m saying it’s fine because I, OP, or anyone here knows what’s going on but the people involved. It is none of OP’s business and they are making snap judgements for no reason.

If they (the women) can be odd for being with the men for not golfing, OP can be odd for watching them and judging based on nothing. Surely, OP has better things to do at the golf course.

It is a bit strange but as long as they're happy 🤷‍♂️

I'm more embarrassed for you that you thought this was worthy of a thread.

Women doing their own thing - SHOCKER!

I think it's odd - he's with his mates, talking to them, why would you want to trail around after them?

Could well be there for the 19th hole.

So from this snapshot provided by the OP, you know do you, that the blokes just want to be there with just their mates, and these Bloody Women have insisted that they tag along as well, just to trail along after them?

Using hyperbolic language to try and prove your point just makes you look like a nob tbh. He’s not being chaperoned, spending time with your oh during a hobby is not unhealthy, being invited or deciding to do something together is not tagging along, and how on earth do you know how much time they spend together or apart? You don’t even know these people. If you see me with my oh doing hobbies then it’s because he works away and we only see each other twice a month. We’ll likely have all 3 kids with us too

I guess for the women it's a walk and a chat in nice surroundings. And because they've seen the game played out they won't have to listen to their husbands boring on about it later in the day.

I ride and my husband sometimes comes along to watch or just get some fresh air. I certainly don't feel "chaperoned" by him, my friends like him and find him good company, and he enjoys watching me do something I love. We still spend plenty of time apart doing our own thing, but I really don't think it's that odd for people to occasionally tag along with their partner to a hobby or activity.

I think it's far more odd that you watched them long enough and hard enough to know their ages and that they didn't interact with each other at all the entire time. Don't you have anything better to do than rubberneck at strangers and make assumptions about their marriages based on absolutely nothing?

It's not something I'd do. I'd be bored and would rather go on my own walk with the dogs and a friend.

My dad has walked with my mum and her friends whilst they play golf as he wasn't able to play himself following an operation but was advised to get some gentle exercise to help recovery.

Guess there are a few different reasons why people might go along but not phat themselves.

This 🤣

Not something I'd have any interest in doing, but each to their own. Also, I don't think it matters what age they were.

My wife was guilty of “following “ me a few times last year.

She had just started lessons and wanted to learn the course and the rules of the game before being brave enough as a woman in her 40s who had never played, to go out with a group of more experienced women from the club.

She also went out and played just me and her a couple of times to build her confidence. Wandering onto a golf course at a club which is inhabited by people who have played for years when you are new to it can be quite intimidating.

Your post probably proves why 🙄

Says a lot about you that your first reaction is that they are embarrassing desperate tag-alongs

The normal reaction is ‘couple spending time together, women are having a nice chat and walk, probably off to the pub afterwards’

Does it make you feel better to think you are a not like other girls golfer gal?

don’t you have anything better to do? 😂

I've been known to go round the golf course with my BF.

He does his golf thing, I walk, take photos and sometimes sketch, and then we go for lunch in the club house.

Now I know there's probably some twat with a cats bum face watching us and thinking I'm clingy and needy, I'll probably do it more 🤣

Golfing has been recommended on here before as a place to meet a man, so perhaps they are fending off potential competition 😁

I think its bloody weird too

Some people like to watch but not play.
Personally it sounds like a nightmare but to each their own...
Maybe it was a networking thing 🙄 😅

The food in our local golf courses used to be really good (I haven't been in years). So perhaps it's the bit afterwards that they really go for. As for something better to do, not everyone wants hobbies. If you haven't got very young children housework is a doddle. Nothing sad about having spare time, it's something that we should strive for.