To be embarrassed for these women following their OH’s round the golf course

[Flowersandchoc]

I’m a member of a golf club and have noticed in the last year a couple of women have started to walk round the course with their OH’s.

I’ve seen them quite a few times now - they definitely aren’t playing, they just trail round after their husbands.

I could understand if OH had no one to play with or maybe in the summer when the weather was nice but there were 4 men playing in the group & it was bloody freezing yesterday so I can’t see the appeal of walking round for hours not playing. Is it me or is this extremely odd and a bit embarrassing that they don’t have anything better to do ?!?

It sounds like they do have lives. And OP is a bit jealous of their lives...

It's a very weird thing to do. I expect they share an email address too.

OP I find it completely mad and my DP is a golfer. I wouldn’t dream of walking the course with him. It’s his time to play and chill or play with his mates or another member. He would think I had lost the plot completely if I suggested following him around. I also can’t think of anything more boring. Am quite partial though to meeting him in the clubhouse after a game though in the summer when we can sit out and have a few drinks

@Flowersandchoc

Sorry I should have said they can’t be any older than 30 - I just think it’s sad that they didn’t have anything better to do at the weekend ! And I’m a golfer!

Why sad? Maybe they want to be there?!
Each to their own. I'd find being a golfer boring and can think of better things to do on a weekend, but I wouldn't judge you for golfing.
Mind your own.

It sounded ridiculous.
Then I considered how often I had trailed after a SO while she shopped.

Sure I don't personally see the attraction but why would it be embarrassing? Is there issues you need to resolve?

Probably just wanted their company. Beats staring at the four walls at home twiddling your thumbs doesn't it?🤷🏻

Does it though? I couldn’t think of anything more tedious than watching my OH whack a little ball around for 3.5 hours. I have interests of my own to follow.
Or maybe I’m just boring, who knows.

I think it's weird. But then I'm very weird myself so can't judge others.

@Vettrianofan
Why would they need to sit at home? couples can have their own interests, you don't need to be joined at the hip.

Contrary to popular belief on MN some couples actually like spending time together and sharing eachothers pastimes/hobbies?

What a horrible thread! Like many of the posters on here I occasionally go around the golf course with my husband. He was a bit nervous and didn't know anyone when he started out so wanted the moral support and I enjoyed the excuse for a nice walk and some fresh air.

How sad you find that embarrassing.

That's very judgemental. My in laws golf regularly. They usually have their own playing groups but when mil had a back injury and couldn't play sometimes she joined fil and they got to chat and it was good light exercise for her. The players also went for drinks and meals after playing so I imagine some women could be hanging around for that too.

I'm sure you enjoy doing things other people would find boring. That wouldn't make me embarrassed for you.

For me, playing or watching golf would be a ruthless waste of my time, but I'm not embarrassed for the people who do enjoy it. Why would I be?

Not everyone is the same as you and me. Just because we wouldn't want to watch our husbands playing golf, I don't see why we should feel embarrassed for women who do.

My husband used to play football many years ago and I used to enjoy watching him play and socialising with other players and their wives and girlfriends after the match. I wonder if anyone was embarrassed for me... 😆

I don't find it weird? In fact, I personally wouldn't think a thing about it. What they want to do is their own business and none of mine.

I sometimes walk round the golf course with my husband. It's most often when we're on holiday and he's playing alone on a new course, but even then he sometimes joins up with someone who's also playing alone. I very occasionally walk round the local golf course with him too, but only in nice weather.
My reasons are pretty simple, and none of them are because we're joined at the hip or I can't let him out of my sight. As a pp pointed out, it's nice and soft and non muddy underfoot, some courses, especially at the coast, have spectacular views which is extremely uplifting. It gets my daily step count up to around 15/20,000 with no feelings of it being a chore. I suppose I could go for a walk independently while he plays golf, but the course has the above benefits, and also the biggest is that I'm not going meet any dogs. Totally dog free golf course walks are bliss for that reason alone.

We don't share either a mobile phone or an email address. Our children are grown up so don't have to worry about them. He has other hobbies he does entirely on his own. Jazz concerts and rugby matches which leave me cold.
Anyway, the pitches always look muddy and they probably wouldn't let me stroll round them anyway. I'd probably get in the way. Jazz is just bloody annoying. I also have my own couple of hobbies which involve mostly sitting down indoors, and I also work. So it's nice and healthy to get out for a good long trek in the fresh air if I have the chance. Why would I walk round the muddy fields on my own when I have a better option?

I would do this if it was a nice day and I had no plans. Opportunity to spend time together. I'm early 30s.

Same way when I'm working in the home office, my partner will sometimes come and sit with me even though he has no work to do.

Everything isn't misogyny!

Can't think of anything more boring, but if they want to do it good for them, it seems quite sweet?

My Dad’s a golfer, he’d go mad if my Mum tried following him and his friends around the golf course! That’s his social time for himself.

I wouldn’t like it either, personally, if DP wanted to come with me to one of my hobbies just to watch and I can’t imagine anything worse than sitting and watching one of his boring D&D meetings!

Living in each other’s pockets isn’t healthy. My grandfather died five years ago and my grandmother has really struggled because they did everything together. There’s a ton of stuff she just doesn’t know how to do and she hadn’t cultivated any of her own friendships.

Just because on one occasion someone decides to spend the afternoon accompanying their partner to their sporting activity of choice doesn't necessarily mean they spend their lives trailing around after them and have no life of their own.

I'm baffled that people are so happy and quick to judge others based on a snapshot which on its own, tells you precisely nothing.

I don't find it "embarrassing" - why would I?- it's up to them what they do on their time off.

Personally, I cant think of anything more tedious or dull but that's me and we are all different. But I certainly wouldnt call it "embarrassing" any more than the men I see trailing round after women who are shopping

You don’t need to be embarrassed for anyone who does different things to you – it’s not a good look.

Yep, it’s odd. Get your own hobby!

My dad was a golfer, my mum wasn't. She would quite often go with him if he was playing with someone who they both knew and socialised with, along with the other wife/partner and walk round with them as the men played. Golf courses are nice, scenic places. Then after the game was finished they would have lunch or even just coffee in the bar.

This. My DH plays golf and I'm very happy he's out of the house for a few hours. I wouldn't dream of walking the course with him, I'd rather walk the dog.