To be embarrassed for these women following their OH’s round the golf course

[Flowersandchoc]

I’m a member of a golf club and have noticed in the last year a couple of women have started to walk round the course with their OH’s.

I’ve seen them quite a few times now - they definitely aren’t playing, they just trail round after their husbands.

I could understand if OH had no one to play with or maybe in the summer when the weather was nice but there were 4 men playing in the group & it was bloody freezing yesterday so I can’t see the appeal of walking round for hours not playing. Is it me or is this extremely odd and a bit embarrassing that they don’t have anything better to do ?!?

They sound very feeble. Couples can be quite pathetic having to do everything together

Were they caddying? I think golf is a bit stop-and-start and I would prefer a brisker/warmer walk but maybe the two women were having a nice natter?

OP I know what you mean, it is a bit sad.

My OH is a golfer.

I couldn't think of anything worse than standing around for 4+ hours watching him play golf especially in this weather.

I love spending time with him but absolutely not while he plays golf. Its bad enough when he tells me about it afterwards.

I love going for walks, but golfing isnt the same. Its very stop start with a lot of standing around.

I agree thats its very odd, but each to their own I suppose.

This will blow your mind OP…sometimes my husband ASKS ME if I want to come, and sometimes I actually do go!!!???! Wild.

Better to do? Spending an afternoon walking outside with a friend and their life partners? Sounds ok to me.

I once walked around a golf course with a past boyfriend and a mixed sex group of his friends because I’d joined a weekend away they’d organised, at his invitation, and this was the activity one day. Was invited to play but never tried it so didn’t want to do so in front of people I didn’t know well. It was pleasant for a change, but wouldn’t fancy it in cold weather.

DH has accompanied friends to golf on the odd occasion before. He similarly never had the opportunity to learn but knew he’d enjoy the company.

Are you interested in one of the men that are with the women? Because I've never known another person be so offended that a woman is spending time with their spouse. Mind your own fucking business and concentrate on your own golf

A bit weird and sad imo. Surely the women could take themselves somewhere else for a walk and meet back at the clubhouse.
Bit like teen girls watching their bf play football or rugby religiously and giggling at the sidelines

A round of golf takes what, 3 hours? How do you know what they do with the rest of their year?

What's it got to do with you? Honestly, what a bizarre thing to concern yourself with. Maybe it's the only time they get to see their husbands out of normal routine, maybe they just like walking, who knows, and frankly, who cares!!!

Maybe you need more hobbies if judging people doing something perfectly normal is how you spend your free time. I'm embarrassed for you.

You sound jealous.

I do find it strange when people can’t bare to be away from their OH’s.

I’d also feel quite sorry for the other 2 fellas who probably was looking forward to a day of golf and the 2 wives turned up, would do my head in.

It may not apply to the people seen by the OP as their relationship might not be 'until death do us part', but any couple who do everything together leads to a very lonely widow or widower when one of them dies first.

Their choice though.

are you sure they weren’t on caddy duties?

That’s awful! Hope you got their reg plates and reported those utter twats

I firmly believe that all women have the right to go for a walk without being hassled and objectified. I also believe I should be able to live my life without having to endure boring middle aged men droning on about golf

When I was first dating XH he used to get up at stupid o'clock every weekend morning to play golf.

I was besotted enough to go with him for quite a few months. I'd walk round the first 9 holes, then slope off to the clubhouse to doze on a sofa until he'd finished, whereupon we would have a very nice breakfast.

However I stopped going altogether when I got barked at for 'standing there, making a shadow'.

I occasionally go with my dp and it would look at points that I had come along for the walk but I am just starting and only play about 4 holes using his clubs. I never really thought that I would be getting judged on anything but my poor golfing ability.

Why embarrassing? I assume nobody was holding a gun to their heads and making them go so they were mostly there by choice.

I haven't walked round the golf course with DH, but horses for courses I would say.

Some couples seem to be attached at the hip and for absolutely everything together.

TBH I’m more inclined to think it’s a red flag from him rather than her.

I remember a school mum maybe a few years ago used to always do pick up and drop off with her DH, they’d even do things like go into a party together to collect him even though it is literally a case of knocking on someone’s door. We went for school mum drinks one night and they got a babysitter, he walked to the dog round the town while she drank for an hour with us!

Turns out she was a victim of DV and this was his of controlling her. She managed to get out and told a few of us all about it.

He then, after the split, started showing up on his pick up days with a new GF, and the same thing, she was always there. And so was the next one, then the next one.

It beggars belief really these men bag women (victims) in the first place - Christ know how he even attracted them, he was overweight and had a face like a dropped pie

Baffled by these comments. Of course it has nothing to do with OP. But it’s still unbelievably bonkers. I would judge women who do this mercilessly. They really need to get lives.

I think it’s more bonkers that OP is watching them every week, posted on here about them and thinks they’re the odd ones.

Do you really???

I can’t see the point of whacking tiny balls into tiny holes.

I can see the point of going for a chatty walk with my husband and some friends.

The point of golf is not golf, it’s just a wander in the countryside really. Let’s face it, golf is not exactly a real sport.

So you are a golfer OP? What a boring and pointless hobby! Haven't you got anything better to do? You need to get a life. I am cringing with embarrassment for you.

Of course I'm not though, because what you enjoy and how you choose to spend your time is entirely your business. Just because playing golf doesn't appeal to me, it doesn't mean I have to feel embarrassed for people who do enjoy it.

Why are you so bothered about how other people spend their time? You seem quite bitter and angry with these women who are doing nothing but spend time with their husbands. Do you fancy one of their husbands? Are you jealous?