To be disappointed partner booked "holiday" ?

[closemydoormow]

So me and partner have 2 holidays booked this year.
Greece in September and a ski holiday in December.
I'm more than happy with this
He has now told me he has booked us 3 nights in Gran Canaria in 4 weeks
I questioned the 3 nights thing and he said they were really cheap flights (under £20 ) so he thought why not
Aibu to be a bit annoyed
It's a long way to go for 3 nights
We land on the Sunday at 10.30 am
We fly back on the Wednesday at 11.30 am

Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?

Jealous

Ah, in that case I'd just go at late afternoon the day before in the taxi and stay at the airport that night.
Coming back, I'd be looking at getting a train possibly.
That's why it's such a cheap deal, the airports are different. I'd just roll with it and think of it as an adventure.

This exactly.

This is what we factor in every holiday we take on top of flights. Flights may be cheap, but the stuff in between can add up quickly as well as the time spent getting there. We’re an hour drive away from three airports, need to get there early to park and pay for the long stay car park, factor that journey from there to the airport, and then everything that involves getting to our gate. By taxi, it’s £80 from our home to the airport. There’s a bus for £25 from Oxford but we would have to get to Oxford which is a 30 min drive without traffic but still would need to leave the car somewhere.

DH and I have different views on what a holiday is to us (mine exploring, him lounging by a pool or swimming, he loves beach holidays, I’m not a fan but research options around to make it fun) so it’s always a discussion. A coastal city break is a happy medium.

So what if you had booked something without telling him, when you were already planning something, would he be pleased about it

Pointless staying at a hotel the night before if you’re only 25 mins drive away from the airport. And wouldnt you have to get a taxi to the hotel anyway? You’re just adding costs on unnecessarily.

It’s only a short flight, it’s fine.

We often do 3 night breaks - and have done both New York and Boston which is a longer flight, and it still seems like a decent break.

I don't see the point in those two hotel stays before and after flight, I've taken a taxi to the airport at 3am before and had a 2 hour taxi journey airport to home. Maybe it's adding in these extra things that's making it feel like a faff?

Not a ‘long flight’ in my book. I’d be bloody delighted.

If they have the finances then why not?! Turn a 3 night break into a 5 night one. They already have a full week off so make the most of the extra nights, go out for a meal - especially on the way back if it's another city 2hrs away. It's part of the adventure.

As long as op doesn't feel she is being controlled (which she has said herself she doesn't), then anything else is just looking for negatives

If you book a reputable airport transfer taxi service 3am will be fine.

I would delighted at this prospect! The best time of year to leave all this cold weather behind. I don't have the money to do this kind of thing (or a DH/ partner to book it either) but if I did I would really be looking forward to it. My parents both used to work for BA and regularly did this kind of thing, A few times they went to Barbados for a weekend.

Not related but..

I used to have a client in London who's husband had children from his first marriage in Sydney. They used to fly to Australia every other weekend for a long weekend. That's extreme and not something I would ever do - but a flight to the canaries for 3 nights sounds totally doable and you'll have fun when you get there.

I’d love that!

Yes 5 nights minimum.

So would I!

And yes I'm very jealous!

It would depend on my work and routine. I like to have a day to recover from travelling so I tend to prefer a week break if flying or travelling far.

@arethereanyleftatall I think you are reading a different thread to me 😂 The thread I’m reading shows more people would like a surprise trip and don’t see this as controlling. A minority are saying it’s controlling and they wouldn’t like it.

I went to Dubai for 3 nights, my friend went to Australia for 6 nights. We are going to Vegas for 4 nights.

You’re being unreasonable.

Would be difficult as there's no time difference between UK and Canaries.

I think it’s lovely. If I didn’t have animals and DC I’d love to do this.

I'd be happy to go to GC in your place, if your DH doesn't mind bunking up with a hairy bloke.

That way you could still go to Leeds and everybody's happy.

No need to thank me. 🙃

"Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?"

No. Providing it was affordable and I had the time and there was nothing that would cause problems eh kids, pets etc then I'd be chuffed.

But you're not so it doesn't really matter if the rest of the world would be overjoyed

Talk to him. Tell him you don't like it and in future should make that sort of decision together.

ltb