Ex husbands childcare offer

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What would you do if this was your ex partners offer of childcare for the following year?
I should add he has them every Sunday 7.30 - 4.30. The asterisk next to days marks them as a Sunday.
How would you respond?

Picture too blurry to read.

Can't read it and no idea what you're actually asking.

I can't read it properly.

Is this in addition to actual parenting?

Sorry, I can't edit the original post. This is the picture that should be in it, hopefully clear this time.

So he's only offering to have his children 1 day a week is that right?

@Whataretheodds This is what he thinks is acceptable in addition to 7.30-4.30 each Sun.
I just want to know if I'm being unreasonable in thinking he's taking the piss.
If its a factor, he pays 200 a month maintenance for 2 kids. Aged 11 and 15. 15 has special needs.

@jeaux90 He only has them between 7.30 and 4.30 on a Sunday as standard.

It's should be EOW at least as long as there are no safeguarding issues etc

I've seen 50/50 week on week off work well. But that's amicable situations.

So he has no overnights and is going to have them from 11.30 - 18.00 for 3 weeks of school holidays?

Why those times. It seems a bit shit.

Where are the other months? Does he work away or something or have I misread the picture? X

You asked what the response should be and it depends on what is right for your kids and you of course but I'd be saying no, EOW minimum

Have you gone through CMS? Because if they’re with you 7 nights a week you should be eligible for a lot more. Clearly what he’s proposing is inadequate. Why no overnights?

Plus shared school holidays

This is his choice not mine. Though the kids don't want to stay overnight as he's never bothered to make them feel like his place is theirs too. I'm happy for them to come home if it's what makes them more comfortable, so am not asking him to have them overnight.

If he has them consecutive days why aren’t they staying overnight?

Yeah it's bonkers they aren't staying overnight

Why does it always start at 11:30? Is that a good thing for your kids or does your ex just not like getting up early? Is there a reason he can’t do overnight care ever?
Do you work or are you a full time carer? If you work or would like to work I’m guessing the 11:30 starts are pretty useless.
Good thing on the child maintenance front is that it’s calculated on overnights so he’ll still owe you the full amount.

So to clarify....He has them:

Every Sunday
Hes offered 3 full weeks of having them in 2024
And 50/50 over christmas

It's a bit shit in that he should have them more than 1 day a week. Wheres his offer during the 6 weeks holidays?

It shouldn’t be known as “childcare”. He’s not a relative doing you a favour, he’s their father. It looks like a shit arrangement.

This is what he has suggested by way of sharing the holidays. I'm unsure if he's being deliberately dickish or just completely oblivious to how this doesn't leave me able to work.
He did say his gf could pick them up at 9am on the days he's suggested.

This is a way to ensure that you NEVER have any decent free time to yourself

never have a date, what a controlling and piss poor parent he is.

If this is in addition to the existing very Sunday, why are SOME Sundays on the list? Because on that basis, I read this as him only wanting them on THESE days. Or is it because he wants to slightly change the timing on those Sundays?

Excluding Sundays, he's got 18 days over the year. So in total that's roughly 52 days (Sundays) plus 18 so a total of 70 days out of 365. So roughly 20% of the time but, if I'm understanding correctly, NO overnights?

why does he pay so little maintenance? Is he paying according tot he CMS calculator because wouldn't they have him down as not having his children at all?

So what can I do?
I can't force him to have them, so I'm kind of screwed

so the GF wrote that list out?

No, but you can force him to pay more if you go through CMS?