Argh, look at this awful text from a date!

[londonisnotme]

AIBU to think it's just bloody awful?

'Hi L! How are you? Sorry I haven't replied , busy few days in the office. Listen, I really enjoyed our time together but I think your caring roles are a different world to mine. It just doesn't seem right for me to, and I thought you needed to know. You ARE beautiful (yes you are!) , but I can't get past this. I needed you to know so you knew why sometimes it won't work , but I'm sure there's a very nice guy out there just for you 😌'

I go from thinking it's cringe, to patronising. To maybe making for of me?!

For context, went on a few dates. Kissed and asked to have sex. I did. I wanted to. Wasn't very good but we move

He's then text this. Whilst I'm on a date with someone else Saturday night

I still haven't deleted the text so me and a few friends can have a laugh.

Thank you Wintersun.. I did not mean to sound judgemental or self righteous if thats what you mean and of course you dont have to be spiritual or have any beliefs at all but as a woman who respects herself, I'm just trying to make OP realise her sexual health and self respect/love above all else is so important. If you dont respect yourself, how could you expect anyone else to respect you - its common knowledge is it not?

For the most part you too disagree with casual sex and for bloody good reasons too! In a world where mental health is a real thing, casual sex only creates hurt as you rightly said - i've seen it too many times with diff people and OP is no exception.

I stand firmly by my words and the truth often does offend and i'm ok with that because nothing beats the truth, as painful as it is for some people.

Me being spiritual and having faith does not make me less likely to sleep around, its nothing to do with faith.. you either have basic morals, principals and values or you dont its really that simple.

Waving her fanny around on 'dating' sites is just asking for guys like the one who txt her that msg and he wont be the last one either if she carries on putting it about which it sounds like she is..

I think deep down OP posted this thread because she is feeling shit because she got bashed and dashed!! Wouldnt have mattered what the txt read she still would have been in her feelings about being dumped. Anyone would! Problem is she put herself in that mess then cried on MN about a rejection text.

Its a no from me and will always be.

EACH. TO. THEIR. OWN.
No one asked you to agree. Find peace

Comedy gold.

The OP didn't ask for opinions about sex and the thread doesn't require a treatise on morality or a lecture that is a curious mixture of piety and unsavoury relish. I find it distasteful and dislike women repeating the ugly slurs deployed against women, regardless of whether the women repeating it are attacking or defending them.

Waving her fanny around on 'dating' sites is just asking for guys like the one who txt her that msg and he wont be the last one either if she carries on putting it about which it sounds like she is.

Well. How the puritanical mask has slipped.

Do put your misogyny away before someone trips over it.

🙏Go Peacefully

Ah mumsnet at its finest.

OP: “hey I think this bloke‘s text is a bit ick”

Responses: “you’re just bitter he didn’t want you, and btw you’re going to get AIDS or an outbreak of boils in your nether regions if you don’t get some self-respect”

It’s so lovely to see women supporting each other against the patriarchy 👍

😂Truth offend much?

Your definition of truth is as questionable as your epidemiology.

But as the great Sir Terry Pratchett used to say, “the company of those seeking the truth is infinitely preferable to those who think they’ve found it” 🙂

Waving her fanny around on 'dating' sites is just asking for guys like the one who txt her that msg and he wont be the last one either if she carries on putting it about which it sounds like she is.

What a vile piece of misogyny.

I didn’t see the op mention marriage in any of her posts. She isn’t interested in him.

All will be revealed one day. You'll see

I will wave you off heavenwards on the day of judgment and take my chances with the sinners left to burn on earth, cheers all the same.

Dear date
Yes I am a caring person. Thank you for taking the time to explain your not capable of meeting my level. It's understandable not everyone has this in their nature. Good luck with your search. Someone out there will find you beautiful too.

I love this post and unsurprisingly completely agree

I like the “f boys” and “beauty boys”
it felt like I was reading a pitch for a new Netflix mini series - a dystopian post apocalyptic sexed up concept of the sharks and the jets.

Didn’t quote the post I loved and cannot edit so absolutely fucking meaningless 🫣😂

but I'm sure there's a very nice guy out there just for you 😌'

He's then text this. Whilst I'm on a date with someone else Saturday night

I’d have been tempted to respond:
“Yeah, I’m on a date with him right now!” 😂

Start minding your own business and leave others with their own beliefs.

Can tell you must be bored at this point

yawwwwn

🤣🤣🤣🤣.
i particularly enjoyed the sideways stray into a transphobic rant about unicorns and glitter horns. The brief foray into vaginal PH was most entertaining too.
i agree with a pp one of the most amusing yet disturbing posts on mumsnet 24 so far.
👏🏻🤮😭

All i'm saying is the casual sex culture needs scrapping.

I think you’re on a hiding to nothing there. Casual sex ‘culture’ isn’t going anywhere.

I know what I know and sex is SACRED - it is not even debatable at this point.

I mean it really is debatable because an awful lot of us are atheists and don’t believe anything is sacred.

it does not give me the right to alter my forehead and surgically add a brightly coloured glittery horn to my forehead because i woke up feeling like a unicorn does it?

I’m pretty sure everyone has the right to attach a glittery horn to their head. No-one is going to stop you doing that- there’s probably an unscrupulous surgeon somewhere who’ll do you a permanent one. (I’m as GC as they come btw, but recognise that we can’t actually stop people adapting their own bodies if they want to).

Technically I agree with you Mumof3 that casual sex is shit- not much fun, not worth the risk if something goes wrong. Much better with someone you trust and love.

But why care about what other people do? And I don't condone slut shaming tbh, even if I don't want to partake in casual sex

As will you. I'm sorry but I've watched this post go on and on... and no one attacked your beliefs or views until you started using absolutely disgusting language! And claiming your way of living is "the best one"
I have friends (you probably don't have that many) with completly different beliefs and religions to myself... we love and respect each others differences... we ask with an open mind to understand..we don't have to agree.. but I would never! Call another women out on her decisions. Your use of language I'd foul! Your empathy for others is non existent.

And if you feel your preaching for the kind of people who "deserve" there place in heaven.... I'd rather burn in hell.

No one asked you about your sex life... especially the original poster.

I really do hope you can reflect on your own behaviour towards others.