Does this group of friend disrespect me or am I being sensible?

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Does this group of friend disrespects me or am I being sensible?

We, a group of friends are planning to go to a 2 day festival. We are around 15 people. It takes 2 hours to drive, we will stay in 2 apartments and will come back together when it's finished. We are making all plans and everything in a group chat. We will be going there in 5 different cars.

One of the participants asked: are we all going to follow each other driving there in a line?

I replied: these lines are sometimes a distraction when we have to make sure we are close to each other. I think it's better if we all go and meet at the destination.

I was not satisfied with the way they responded to me.

A girl replied: whoever orders the take-off is Commander and Co-Pilot, the remaining crew follow the trio.

Another boy said: what do you mean to be distracted? We motivate each other along the way. I'm from #teamfollowinline!

I don't know. I think it was a little abrupt. They could speak in a more friendly way. Because I already have bad experience with this group. Sometimes I find them a little childish. I'm thinking about giving up going.

What do you think about that?

Why is it that you feel your way is the best way and that, as they don’t agree, they’re disrespecting you?

You're definitely being over sensitive. They're entitled to their opinion on how the group should travel.

If I were you I would stay home. These people don’t sound your kind of people.

I don't read anything offensive, rude or disrespectful in what they've written so I think your perception is off here.

They sound weird. Stick your sat nav on and make your own way there. No need to go old school following each other

Did they say it in English or in whatever your first language is? Might there be a translation issue?

It just reads to me as if they're having a laugh. Not at anybody's expense, either.

I wouldn't want to go in convoy either, I think it's dangerous all trying to keep together. It's only a short drive anyway why not meet up when you get there. It's not like you will be stopping enroute

You sound a little uptight… I say this as someone that doesn’t really like the wagon train method as a rule. (But it can be part of the fun if done right).

Which part of their response was disrespectful?

I think they are just having a bit of a joke, not necessarily at anyone's expense.

Five cars trying to follow each other is a ridiculous idea TBH. But on the group chat I would've just replied with 'Nah I can make my own way there'. I don't think it needed your explanation about being distracting.

Those two options are odd, in neither scenario are you in the wrong

I don’t really feel anything is wrong with what they said.

It's not about disrespect, you all answered differently.

And surely the answer should be based on what the drivers want to do, which is also going to be based on if anyone will be delayed due to work commitments, or the driver going a longer way to pick someone up. But ultimately it's driver decision.

I wouldn’t want to drive in convoy either…but I don’t think their replies were disrespectful in the slightest.

Someone made a suggestion that you disagreed with. Other people disagreed with you. No one is in the wrong 🤷‍♀️

I am with you in that you should all just meet there.
Making sure you are driving in a line makes no sense. You are meeting at a particular destination... you are not a group of bikers on a ride out.

I do think considering not going is a bit OTT. Are you one of the drivers? If not, it does not really matter what the people driving decide.

I don't think they were any more abrupt than you were

Nothing wrong with any of those messages.

They are allowed to disagree with you.

Are you driving? If you are I'd ignore and make my own way there. If not stay out of it.

But no it doesn't read offensive it's just different opinions

They sound funny

I get what you're mean about groups of cars trying to follow and stick together being a distraction. A driver should be focusing on the road and not whether anyone is getting separated from the group. In the old days before Sat Nav, I've ridden in convoy across several countries, but there's no need for that now.

That’s just bantz. Take a chill pill.

As in humorous
I like it

It's fun driving in convoy! Used to do this all the time on my holidays as a small child. Still love it now although it rarely happens! It really isn't dangerous!!! 😂😂 Your friends sound fun, you sound uptight tbh and unable to hear another point of view without taking offence.

I agree with you about not following, I hate it and find myself concentrating on the car I'm following, it never feels safe and I'm a good driver, been driving accident free for 30+ years.
It sounds like you've been, in their opinion, the H&S police and now they're taking the micky out of you.
I wouldn't take offence but I'd just go on my own at my own pace.

Your message is the most off out of the 3 of them.

Yes, you're being oversensitive.

But I think you're right to reconsider going - if you can't handle people politely expressing different preferences then a 2 day trip with a large group is probably not the right fit for you.