Does this group of friend disrespect me or am I being sensible?

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Does this group of friend disrespects me or am I being sensible?

We, a group of friends are planning to go to a 2 day festival. We are around 15 people. It takes 2 hours to drive, we will stay in 2 apartments and will come back together when it's finished. We are making all plans and everything in a group chat. We will be going there in 5 different cars.

One of the participants asked: are we all going to follow each other driving there in a line?

I replied: these lines are sometimes a distraction when we have to make sure we are close to each other. I think it's better if we all go and meet at the destination.

I was not satisfied with the way they responded to me.

A girl replied: whoever orders the take-off is Commander and Co-Pilot, the remaining crew follow the trio.

Another boy said: what do you mean to be distracted? We motivate each other along the way. I'm from #teamfollowinline!

I don't know. I think it was a little abrupt. They could speak in a more friendly way. Because I already have bad experience with this group. Sometimes I find them a little childish. I'm thinking about giving up going.

What do you think about that?

Have you ever heard the phrase 'i think you might be over thinking this a bit'? There are far bigger things in life to take offence to.

I've travelled in convoy but I can understand the OPs reservations. It's fine if you have skilled and/or sensible drivers but you can have an element of competition creeping in where people try to go up the convoy order, or become dependent on the cars ahead so make dangerous manoeuvres to keep up with them.

As long as everyone is using a sat nav there is no reason to make dangerous manoeuvres to keep up. People who are competitive when driving are not safe drivers.
When accepting a lift you have to do so judging how safe the driver will be. If you do not trust them, do not accept the lift.

• I see some people here telling me since I am not the driver I have no say about it. I dont agree with that.

I didn't read it as meaning that. I think it was literally giving advice about how to do this driving method safely.... having one car defined as the leaders and the other cars following? I don't think that comment is saying anything about people's opinions at all?

Their response is weird.
I agree with you following in convoy is a big risk. Trying to keep up with others, moving in and out of traffic. Everyone should just agree a meeting point at a certain time and get on with it.

They're not envious of you op.

Lol don't get it. We always have a family line going on holidays. So what if someone gets in between it doesn't matter etc. if your that easily distracted maybe you shouldn't drive

When I passed my driving test and excitedly talked to my instructor on the way home about going to look at a potential new car, he told me whatever I do don't follow my dad (who was taking me) home if I bought the car. He said if you're concentrating on following the car ahead, you have less concentration for what's going on in your direct vicinity (lights changing to amber, pedestrians stepping out).
So I would never follow another car.
I might say 'satnav says 1hr 20 so I'll see you for coffee at X services' or 'I'll be about 15 mins behind so if you break down look for me and wave!'

I'm perfectly able to follow a car safely and have on a number of occasions!

Satnav didn't always exist 🙄!

Map reading when alone is not exactly safe.

Personally, I agree with you OP, travelling in convoy never works, but I don't think they were "disrespecting" you.

Some of them were best friends in my childhood but then for some reason some became very envious of me and started mistreating and rejecting me. I dont hang out with them so often, trying to make new friends.

So why on earth would you go away together in a big party like this ???
It makes no sense AT ALL.

Believe me, they are not "envious" of you.