DH moaning that I go to bed early

[ItsDee]

So I usually go to bed at around 8pm most nights as I am just so exhausted with work and the children, I work 3 days per week and children are 6 and 3. I never know when my husband is coming home from work as it varies from 18:00-8, he leaves in the morning before nursery/school drop offs etc so the morning falls on me too. He keeps moaning that he just sits downstairs by himself most nights but I really cant help it I am exhausted, anybody else feel this way?

I don't think going to bed at 8pm every night is normal unless you have a health condition or are getting up at like 4am or something. I don't think it's unreasonable for your husband to be annoyed about that if you never hang out with him, I was going to suggest having a couple of nights a week planned to spend time with him and also going to the Drs BUT it seems from the updates your relationship sounds like a nightmare.
I think you should leave this relationship it sounds really bad for you.

@Lucytheloose True. Although he might just want a couple of hours chatting to his wife rather than work colleagues.

Read the OP's posts.

He is abusive.

Could the title maybe be changed because the OP is receiving the most ridiculous responses completely ignoring her updates.

OP, I have Lupus, and sometimes I go to bed at 8 pm. This is due to fatigue and my condition playing up.

Going to bed so early is a sign there is an issue.

Speak to your GP.

Read the OPs threads.....

FFS!!

i'll ask again @mnhq can we have a warning at the top pe0ple arent reading all the updates

Point out that when he does that sport then YOU are sitting at home on your own!! if he didn't do it then maybe the pair of you could sit together for a while before you are too exhausted and need to sleep. He is being selfish thoughtless and unreasonable!

This is a bigger issue than him moaning about you going to bed early. Sorry but he sounds a right prat and a bully too

No need to be so aggressive!

Sorry I think it's way too early OP. But I'm a night owl who doesn't need to sleep much and I enjoy the adult time I get late at night.
Do you enjoy going to bed that early or do it out of necessity? Because it sounds a bit depressing.

I think your husband is taking the piss though. He definitely needs to help you more.

Apologies I have just read your updates. He sounds abusive. Hope you have someone to talk to IRL x

Your DH sounds a knob - are you going to bed at 8 just to avoid him?

But otherwise - part time parents do tend to do more of the home stuff, and unless your children are bothering you all through the night (in which case you need to sort that) - it isn't normal to go to bed at 8 unless you have to get up at 4 am. 8 hours is generally normal?

Definitely see your GP - if you have low iron it can be massively debilitating, my stepmother had a problem with one of the types of iron (there are lots) and she could barely get out of bed until they sorted it.

If you are unwell it also affects your relationships and your tolerance - although a decent DH would be supportive and helpful. But that's a separate issue. Get your health sorted and then you can make genuine judgements on other things.

Why did you not just push his finger away? Rather OTT response. But he sounds a bit of a jerk.