To find it unfair that my DH doesn’t seem to want me to work?

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Slightly complex situation here.

I work full time as a teacher. To cut a long story short, it isn’t really working for me- long hours, tough conditions and three small children that I hardly ever see. I’m hoping to leave at Easter. Having gone from doing everything round the house as a SAHM for a few years, my DH has found it hard that now he has to pick up his share of pick ups etc. DH is happy at the thought of me quitting my job.

We’ve got a holiday cottage that I’d like to run instead of teaching. I think I can make it work around the children a bit more, and I’ll be able to do most of the pick ups and drop offs. All fine.

However, there’s a part time job that I’ve seen advertised and that I’d really like to try doing. Its museum work. It’s 28 hours but over a rota of 7 days. My DH really doesn’t think I should go to the interview (which is next week) as he thinks it won’t make our lives easier and that I should just stick to cleaning and running the holiday cottage.

I can’t help feeling that he just wants things to be easier for him, and for me to revert back to doing all the pick ups and drop offs. He doesn’t earn loads so the part time wage that I could bring in might help us financially. He just says I change my mind a lot, and that I’m frustrating.

Presumably she was a teacher before she had kids. She was only a SAHM for a “few years” and then she went back to teaching FT.

Right.

OP doesn't want to be a SAHM. I'm not sure why pp seemed to think that is what she was asking about, that was my confusion.

I don’t know either. It’s perfectly reasonable not to want to be a SAHM, or to want to spend your cleaning a holiday let for that matter.

Apols totally misread it (tiredness as a working Mum with crazy LOs!) @SouthLondonMum22

I always wanted to work and be a Mum but it's hard to juggle. Obviously if the idea of being a SAHM makes you unhappy, then I'm sure there is a compromise between you and DH where things can work for you both. There's no harm going to the interview, it's not set in stone that you have to work there.

I miss my kids when I work and feel like I'm often distracted when they're home with work, as I'm sure you did teaching - so I get it, hence me saying I'd love to be a SAHM now, a pipe dream at best.

Is there anything that could be 20 hours or so, less days or half days over a week, money for you, time for kids - a happy medium? Or volunteering maybe?

We all have to compromise in life whether it's financial or whatever, hope you find the perfect balance OP.

Apols again for misreading! X