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To think this is a bizarre overreaction over a chip shop?

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MiamiWindMachine · 07/01/2024 12:40

A long-term friend came to stay with me this weekend. She has never been the most adaptable of people, but this weekend I have honestly become worried about her failure to cope with the most minor of setbacks.

I went to meet her at my local station on Friday night. We were going out later, so we decided to drop off her bags, have something quick to eat and then go. She said, “Ooh, can we go to that nice chip shop we went to last time?” I said, “Oh no, we can’t - it closed unfortunately”.

I can only describe her reaction as utter bewilderment. She looked at me in complete confusion and said, “Closed? What do you mean, it closed?” It was like she’d never heard the word before. I just said, “Yes, it closed down a couple of months ago”. She’s still giving me the bewildered look. “But… it was REALLY nice!” I said, “Yes, it’s a shame… shall we get a Subway or something?”.

She was still looking at me like I’d just told her her house had burned down. She started this weird muttering. “Closed, closed… it CAN’T be closed; it can’t have just closed. Are you sure it’s closed? Maybe it was just shut when you went past”. I was getting pretty fed up by now, but as the (very much closed) chip shop is right by the station, I took her across the road to show her. She just peered through the window in disbelief, as if she could somehow make the chips appear through sheer force of will. She started saying maybe it wasn’t permanent, maybe they’d just gone on holiday… how that would have helped us that night, I’ve no idea.

I’d had enough now - I just wanted to go to grab some food. I said to her, “Look. The shelves are empty. The fridges are empty. The windows are covered in dust. There are piles of junk mail in the doorway. It has CLOSED DOWN!!”

I eventually somehow got her to McDonalds, but she was still prattling under her breath about how she can’t believe it’s closed, it was REALLY nice, she was really looking forward to those chips… it was unhinged. The people who owned the bloody shop probably made less fuss than this about it closing.

I know it probably sounds funny, but I am honestly wondering if something is really wrong. This just isn’t a normal reaction to something so minor. As I said, she’s never been particularly adaptable - for example, if a train was cancelled, she’d spend more time complaining about it happening than she would looking at alternatives - but I’ve never known her go so overboard before, and all over something so inconsequential. She was fine for the rest of the weekend, but should I have had a word?

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PoinsettiaLives · 07/01/2024 12:41

Maybe she has a crush on the fish and chip man?

theduchessofspork · 07/01/2024 12:42

If she was fine for the rest of the weekend I wouldn’t worry about it.

It’s not v healthy but it sounds like she’s always been like this.

Also I guess she really likes chips..

Silverbirchtwo · 07/01/2024 12:43

She wasn't having a long distance affair with the chip shop owner was she?

Cosywintertime · 07/01/2024 12:43

Sounds like she really really wanted chips.

SoftandQuiet · 07/01/2024 12:45

Maybe she’s been time travelling and bought a cod and chips there only yesterday.

Not19foreverpullyourselftogether · 07/01/2024 12:45

I get like this about chips when my period is due 😅

eandz13 · 07/01/2024 12:46

I reacted similarly when I discovered Mr Chips in Cork had closed. Miserable I was!

HangingOver · 07/01/2024 12:46

This is extremely weird

Aquamarine1029 · 07/01/2024 12:46

I would have left her at the chip shop and said I'm sure she's right, the owners will be back from holiday any minute.

Salesarefullofcutpricesprouts · 07/01/2024 12:46

Sounds like it was The Last Straw...

nottaotter · 07/01/2024 12:47

😂Your post was so funny it made me laugh! But on a serious note it does sound like a weird over reaction. Im not sure if mentioning it would help or not, maybe wait until next time you meet up and see how she seems.

I do find that some people have a complete inability to get there head round some simple things, either like your friend or how others choose to do stuff.

I remember one friend just could not believe that another never had hot drinks, she had to bring it up every single time we were out together, for literally years.
Yes its a bit unusual but after the first time you heard it majority of people would never mention again.

SequoiaTree · 07/01/2024 12:48

Maybe she has a condition where she finds it hard to adapt to things not being as she expected.

blackpanth · 07/01/2024 12:48

Very strange

TheFoz · 07/01/2024 12:49

It is disappointing when you’ve been looking forward to something. There’s probably other stuff going on under the surface.

wellhello24 · 07/01/2024 12:50

She may have just been really really really looking forward to a bag of their chips! 😆

Seriously some people just struggle with change. Or maybe she’s got a lot going onand isn’t coping too well or is stressed 🤷🏼‍♀️

PossumintheHouse · 07/01/2024 12:52

To be fair, I was utterly bereft when our local Chinese closed down…

But I wasn’t that bad. 😂 Girl had a real hankering for chips.

Cartoonpeople · 07/01/2024 12:53

You sound more annoyed than concerned? The phrase 'having a word' brings images of a manager pulling up an employee on being late, not being worried about an old dear friend. I have had this with friends of mine in the past, so no judgement, but I would question whether you have reached the end of your tether with this particular friend.

Do you value her friendship still? Do you really enjoy spending time together? I think we can fall into a trap with old friends where we keep being friends even when its time has passed. If you do bring it up with her, I'd try and make sure you're in a space to do it calmly and empathetically, or it might come out wrong and make things worse. Try and think about what will illicit the response you are hoping for. It might be that something has happened in her past or is going on right now that you aren't aware of.

JMSA · 07/01/2024 12:53

Wow, she had some real food disappointment going on there Grin
I get it, but wouldn't carry on like that.

PossumintheHouse · 07/01/2024 12:53

And tell your chipless friend there is always hope… my Chinese reopened 18 months later.

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/01/2024 12:54

My mum can’t cope with change: she has dementia.

Goodlard · 07/01/2024 12:54

She's heard the guy that worked down there swear he was Elvis?

WhereverIlaymycatthatsmyhome · 07/01/2024 12:54

You say you have known her for years so is this totally new behaviour? If so, I would be concerned and might dig a little deeper.

If she has always been a bit eccentric then just let it go.

HiCandles · 07/01/2024 12:55

It was a massive overreaction. But I think the time for questioning her was at the time and it'll be really weird if you do it now. Maybe if she does something similar again, use that opportunity to check all is ok with her.

Grimchmas · 07/01/2024 12:56

Hmm had she been drinking on the train?

kiwiaddict · 07/01/2024 12:56

Sounds like female undiagnosed autism

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