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To think this is a bizarre overreaction over a chip shop?

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MiamiWindMachine · 07/01/2024 12:40

A long-term friend came to stay with me this weekend. She has never been the most adaptable of people, but this weekend I have honestly become worried about her failure to cope with the most minor of setbacks.

I went to meet her at my local station on Friday night. We were going out later, so we decided to drop off her bags, have something quick to eat and then go. She said, “Ooh, can we go to that nice chip shop we went to last time?” I said, “Oh no, we can’t - it closed unfortunately”.

I can only describe her reaction as utter bewilderment. She looked at me in complete confusion and said, “Closed? What do you mean, it closed?” It was like she’d never heard the word before. I just said, “Yes, it closed down a couple of months ago”. She’s still giving me the bewildered look. “But… it was REALLY nice!” I said, “Yes, it’s a shame… shall we get a Subway or something?”.

She was still looking at me like I’d just told her her house had burned down. She started this weird muttering. “Closed, closed… it CAN’T be closed; it can’t have just closed. Are you sure it’s closed? Maybe it was just shut when you went past”. I was getting pretty fed up by now, but as the (very much closed) chip shop is right by the station, I took her across the road to show her. She just peered through the window in disbelief, as if she could somehow make the chips appear through sheer force of will. She started saying maybe it wasn’t permanent, maybe they’d just gone on holiday… how that would have helped us that night, I’ve no idea.

I’d had enough now - I just wanted to go to grab some food. I said to her, “Look. The shelves are empty. The fridges are empty. The windows are covered in dust. There are piles of junk mail in the doorway. It has CLOSED DOWN!!”

I eventually somehow got her to McDonalds, but she was still prattling under her breath about how she can’t believe it’s closed, it was REALLY nice, she was really looking forward to those chips… it was unhinged. The people who owned the bloody shop probably made less fuss than this about it closing.

I know it probably sounds funny, but I am honestly wondering if something is really wrong. This just isn’t a normal reaction to something so minor. As I said, she’s never been particularly adaptable - for example, if a train was cancelled, she’d spend more time complaining about it happening than she would looking at alternatives - but I’ve never known her go so overboard before, and all over something so inconsequential. She was fine for the rest of the weekend, but should I have had a word?

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Buffypaws · 07/01/2024 12:57

Meh I get where she’s coming from. She’d been thinking about those chips for ages.

Otalask · 07/01/2024 12:59

She overreacted to a chippy closing. You overreacted to this by starting a thread on Mumsnet with a massive and frankly tedious opening post slagging her off. I overreacted by responding. And no one has got any chips.

Rokuandice · 07/01/2024 13:01

Sorry to hijack but..This could almost be me..I have just returned home (London) after visiting friends in Staffordshire. Literally as soon as I got off the train, I wanted scallops from a particular chip shop there. It was closed for the whole 5 days I was there and reopened the day after I left. My mouth is still watering at the thought of them and my so called friends have sent me photos of scallops they have bought since I left 🤣 (barstools!). Why oh why does no one sell potato scallops down south?

Mothership4two · 07/01/2024 13:02

If she was a dog you would call her food orientated.

I had a friend like this, she would become fixated on something. As a group we once went to a Chinese restaurant and were having a chat about getting a few set meals as that would work out cheaper and she burst into tears because the starter she had set her heart on wouldn't be included. We were gobsmacked and said well we'll just ask the waiter to sway as we were sure they would be happy to do so (they were) and she was as happy as a sunbeam. The mood difference was quite remarkable. The rest of us were quite taken aback. Another time at the school chocolate tombola stall she got upset (near to tears) because she hadn't won the box of chocolates she wanted after buying a lot of tickets. Her daughter ended up giving her one of her prizes! I thought her reaction was OTT and funny because she could probably have just bought the chocolates for a lot less than she shelled out.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 07/01/2024 13:05

Yes, your friend was strange.

But I loved your post, it was very well written and brightened up my day.

Are you a writer?

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CucumberBagel · 07/01/2024 13:11

She sounds autistic. You sound not very nice or tolerant.

Onlinetherapist · 07/01/2024 13:11

Not to be unkind and I mean this genuinely ..Reminds me of when my kids were toddlers. That’s the kind of thing I was dealing with back then..

MK19590 · 07/01/2024 13:11

I had to laugh at that! I understand her disappointment but you're right that's an overreaction and surely there are other places she can get chips from

whynotwhatknot · 07/01/2024 13:11

i was upset when a chip shop closed in my dh village wher ehe grew up bloody great fish and chips

i ddnt go and stand outside staring at it though

PastorCarrBonarra · 07/01/2024 13:12

She might’ve been looking forward to the chips all day.

Although yes, she seems to lack resilience.

My ex-PiLs had a great bagel place near them and when my ex husband and I visited for a few days at New Year, Easter etc I used to look forward to going there almost as much as I looked forward to seeing ex-PiLs (who were lovely btw!) I wouldn’t have reacted like your friend had it gone bust, though.

Calmdown14 · 07/01/2024 13:17

Perhaps it was more about the fact you had a nice time there than the chips. She had built up in her head that you would go there and have the same lovely experience.

So the disappointment was more about the lack of that nice time than the food??

KnowsWhatAGiraffeIs · 07/01/2024 13:17

Are you a writer OP?

CombatLingerie · 07/01/2024 13:17

@Goodlard 😂Nice one!

DecafOatMilkCappucino · 07/01/2024 13:18

I wondered about autism also.

This type of thing would have driven me mad when I was younger. People acting weird or overreacting really freaked me out and I needed to know why they did that. Now I'm older I just shrug and repeat the mantra ' not my monkeys, not my circus' and move on. Life is better now 😁

eandz13 · 07/01/2024 13:19

Could she not have just been being intentionally over theatrical about it for a laugh? She might not have meant for you to take it so seriously.

Psychonabike · 07/01/2024 13:19

Another vote for female undiagnosed autism.

I guess she had The Plan set up in her mind all day while travelling and the unexpected change was unsettling and momentarily intolerable. Travelling can be stressful and draining enough, so she might not have had the spoons to engage her usual social masking.

JamSandle · 07/01/2024 13:19

Did she have a crush on someone that worked there?

Leafytrees · 07/01/2024 13:21

I just want to say you post has given me the laugh I needed today. Thank you!

MiamiWindMachine · 07/01/2024 13:23

Psychonabike · 07/01/2024 13:19

Another vote for female undiagnosed autism.

I guess she had The Plan set up in her mind all day while travelling and the unexpected change was unsettling and momentarily intolerable. Travelling can be stressful and draining enough, so she might not have had the spoons to engage her usual social masking.

I also wondered about this, TBH. As I say, I realise it sounds funny, but I did also genuinely wonder if there was something more behind it, which is why I’m thinking I should have asked if she was okay or if there was anything else going on.

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MiamiWindMachine · 07/01/2024 13:23

KnowsWhatAGiraffeIs · 07/01/2024 13:17

Are you a writer OP?

Guilty 😊

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Gymmum82 · 07/01/2024 13:23

Is there no other chippys where you live? Tbh I’d be pretty raging if I wanted a chippy and got subbed with maccys or subway

zigzag716746zigzag · 07/01/2024 13:24

Rokuandice · 07/01/2024 13:01

Sorry to hijack but..This could almost be me..I have just returned home (London) after visiting friends in Staffordshire. Literally as soon as I got off the train, I wanted scallops from a particular chip shop there. It was closed for the whole 5 days I was there and reopened the day after I left. My mouth is still watering at the thought of them and my so called friends have sent me photos of scallops they have bought since I left 🤣 (barstools!). Why oh why does no one sell potato scallops down south?

OP maybe it was a scenario more like @Rokuandice where the overreaction was a bit of a joke and she expected you to lean into the joke with her, like Roku’s friends did my so called friends have sent me photos of scallops they have bought since I left 🤣 (barstools!)

MiamiWindMachine · 07/01/2024 13:24

Rokuandice · 07/01/2024 13:01

Sorry to hijack but..This could almost be me..I have just returned home (London) after visiting friends in Staffordshire. Literally as soon as I got off the train, I wanted scallops from a particular chip shop there. It was closed for the whole 5 days I was there and reopened the day after I left. My mouth is still watering at the thought of them and my so called friends have sent me photos of scallops they have bought since I left 🤣 (barstools!). Why oh why does no one sell potato scallops down south?

Totally with you on the scallops! I’ve lived in London for years now and have found a grand total of two chip shops that sell them.

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betterangels · 07/01/2024 13:24

It sounds annoying, but you can't really bring it up. What would you say?

Perhaps she is ND, which would explain it. It was built up in her head.

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