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To ask how many of your friends you think are ‘Ride or die’ friends

174 replies

Girlsgirlsgirls123 · 06/01/2024 12:18

I saw a thread a while ago about the idea that most friendships are just ‘situational’ in which you’ll be friends with people out of ease (live in the same area, go to the same school, same job etc). Furthermore, my elderly dad (in the context of someone becoming unwell so moving back to their hometown) said that he found that a lot of the time ‘friends’ tend to evaporate in times of crisis. This got me thinking how many of your friends would you say are ‘ride or die’ friends who would stick by you through thick and thin and wouldn’t just evaporate when things got hard? 

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JMSA · 06/01/2024 12:19

None. I see only my family as being like that.

Piggypiggyoinkoink · 06/01/2024 12:19

Two - and they would be above family

Sillywillywoowoo · 06/01/2024 12:20

I have 2 or maybe 3. 3rd I barely see but do believe she'd be there if I ever needed her.

Octavia64 · 06/01/2024 12:21

None.

I know because bad things happened and they didn't

JayAlfredPrufrock · 06/01/2024 12:22

4

shivermetimbers77 · 06/01/2024 12:22

Probably 4.. three of them are people I have known since school, the other an old flatmate.

betterangels · 06/01/2024 12:23

A couple. Depends though. None of us would get involved in anything criminal to save the other. But otherwise, two.

Alargeoneplease89 · 06/01/2024 12:24

None- even though I would be. From life experience no-one but my DH has stood up to that.

EarringsandLipstick · 06/01/2024 12:24

Octavia64 · 06/01/2024 12:21

None.

I know because bad things happened and they didn't

Same.

TokyoSushi · 06/01/2024 12:25

Just one, but that's enough for me.

theduchessofspork · 06/01/2024 12:25

2 who’d pull out all the stops.

2 more who I wouldn’t expect to do so much but would certainly be there for me

I could do with a wider circle of fun friends and acquaintances but this matters most and I am very lucky

Dacadactyl · 06/01/2024 12:27

DH for sure.

My DSis for most things (unless her DH disagreed and then she'd side with him).

One friend.

TheSeasonalNameChange · 06/01/2024 12:28

Probably a couple, even though we don't see each other much as they live on the other side of the world. I thought I had more but realised with one it was only ever me supporting her and haven't since her since her life started going better.

Pripsen · 06/01/2024 12:29

I’d like to think loads, but maybe I am naive.

anothernamechangeagainsndagain · 06/01/2024 12:29

I - been friends for 34 years, don't live close so don't see each other that often but when we do it's like we've never been apart. I'd jump on a train/plane and rush to help her at the drop of a hat in emergency.

Hatty65 · 06/01/2024 12:29

This is interesting. I'm currently ill with a chronic condition and it's become very clear who my 'friends' are now I'm not much fun and can't do anything!

One. One friend from work has stuck by me, calls regularly, offers to come over or pick me up for coffee if I feel up to it.

My long time best friend sadly died some years ago - she would have always been there. My current friends are, as you say, situational. (and pretty much non existent now)

MummyInTheNecropolis · 06/01/2024 12:31

4 - they were there for me when I went through the worst time of my life, they went above and beyond anything I ever expected and I’d be lost without them.

CornishTiger · 06/01/2024 12:31

The ones who are my closest friends. Absolutely all of them. I’m so lucky.

Dacadactyl · 06/01/2024 12:32

Pripsen · 06/01/2024 12:29

I’d like to think loads, but maybe I am naive.

I think it depends on what people think of as ride or die.

I'm not talking affairs or chronic illness. I'd say I had more friends who'd stand by me through those things than just one.

I'm talking about the CIA being after you or something...who'd be there to help in that sort of situation.

Hadjab · 06/01/2024 12:36

All of them. They proved that when my husband died five years ago. They are still here for me and vice versa.

IAmAnIdiot123 · 06/01/2024 12:36

4 for sure and have proven so over the years, 2 additional who would be there but I wouldn't necessarily go to first if that makes sense.

RampantIvy · 06/01/2024 12:36

I agree that most friends are situational. When I read threads about posters planning weddings and inviting 100 of their closest friends I am very sceptical.

Who really has 100 close friends?

EarringsandLipstick · 06/01/2024 12:37

I'm talking about the CIA being after you or something...who'd be there to help in that sort of situation.

Gosh! I can't say I've ever thought of this situation 😂

I was thinking about significant life events - illness, marriage breakdown, financial or work issues.

I have had no one who I could absolutely turn to, to listen, not to mind helping.

EarringsandLipstick · 06/01/2024 12:38

Hadjab · 06/01/2024 12:36

All of them. They proved that when my husband died five years ago. They are still here for me and vice versa.

That's wonderful to hear. I'm sorry about your DH 💐

Dacadactyl · 06/01/2024 12:39

@EarringsandLipstick I have an overactive imagination lol!

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