To think my DH is being a big girls blouse about the the washing?

[KarenNotAKaren]

For years my DH Has allegedly been sensitive to wet washing - it makes him sneeze, wheeze and gives him itchy eyes. Apparently. He’s getting worse - when I simply take the washing out the machine he says within 30 seconds “Have you taken the washing out? It’s getting to my eyes already!” 🙄

I actually did an experiment in our last house. We had a kitchen living room open plan thing and when he was watching TV I very quietly unloaded the washing machine (he couldn’t see, TV was on loud too so couldn’t hear either) and left it all by the machine, and left the room. Came back 20 minutes later and he didn’t complain one bit or even clock on that he was in the same room as a pile of wet washing.

He won’t line dry his things because it makes his eyes itchy (🤷‍♀️). I can’t even have a sock drying on the radiator because it makes him sneeze apparently. I’d LOVE a heated airer as we spend an absolute fortune on tumble drying, but he’d make a right song and dance no doubt. Tumble drying is the only way he will dry his clothes. Even if I line dry mine he gets all dramatic if I come too close - “Oh god has that top been line dried - my eyes are itchy!”.

Weve just moved into a new home that has an integral washer/dryer. Well it doesn’t actually fucking dry anything? The ‘dryer’ part is a massive lie, so he wants to buy a separate washing machine AND dryer because apparently “I can’t live in a house with a condenser dryer it get to my eyes nose and lungs”. I sneered at him and he got really annoyed. I’d rather just stick with what we have and line dry things or get a heated airer.

I know I sound unsympathetic but I think he’s being so dramatic - I’ve asked his mum and he didn’t grow up with a tumble dryer, everything was dried on heaters and the washing line. He somehow survived childhood unscathed and his mum said he never had any issues. Yet as an adult all this OTT sneezing and “oh god it’s getting to my lungs that is” is going on - I just think he is being an attention seeker. No asthma. No respiratory issues.

Am I a horrible cow who needs to understand his sensitivities better? Do other people suffer like this just from being in the same room as a freshly washed sock? I’ve never heard of a single person who can’t be around wet washing. Or is he being the drama llama I think he is?

<dons hard hat> so what? I’m a woman and I don’t always want to be praised and complimented by default through the virtue of having a vagina.

I do throw like a girl

I am a girl

Girls and boys are different

It’s linked to the fact that girls are ‘wet’ and pathetic. Clearly this is upsetting you so I will leave you to it. 👍 Maybe it’s a generational thing.

Ok 😳

It’s really not.

Do you not think girls and boys are different?

@Seren8

Where's the critical analyse research 🤔 on chemical senistivity in the regards of correlation of issue of allergies then?

We have a winner!!

BTW I’m not sure why people are claiming he wants to get out of doing housework. He does do housework, I never said he didnt

I have been thinking about this since you said he didn't react to the pretend wet washing.

Had he taken an antihistamine at that time?
What temperature do you wash at? Tumble driers run a lot hotter so might "kill" something in the process.
Have you tried dettol laundry disinfectant at the end of the wash, as it helps remove any lingering bacteria/smells?

It’s a weird one, I thought it was going to lead to him using this to avoid hanging up the washing. It is known that outdoors dried washing can cause hay fever in the summer because the pollen in the air can settle on it…but I’m not sure what his excuse can be about the line dried/radiators! If you have a new build, do you have an extractor I. The utility you could run “to clear the air” after using an airer or a garage you could set the airer in? I think he’s taking it too far and would also leave baskets of laundry about to “test” 😂

This would seriously do my tits in 😐

Oh get over yourself you big fucking Jesse 😂

@KarenNotAKaren I found buying the cheapest detergent helps, (I'm sensitive to the more heavily fragranced ones, they make me itch!) They are still scented but not as heavily as the more expensive ones. I buy unscented fabric softener, surcare isn't that expensive and a little bottle lasts me ages. (Just seen you don't use fabric softener, nevermind!)

Well done OP for standing up to the herd of bores - you made me laugh out loud 😂

I actually did an experiment in our last house. We had a kitchen living room open plan thing and when he was watching TV I very quietly unloaded the washing machine (he couldn’t see, TV was on loud too so couldn’t hear either) and left it all by the machine, and left the room. Came back 20 minutes later and he didn’t complain one bit or even clock on that he was in the same room as a pile of wet washing

He's taking the piss. Not an attractive trait. Presumably he did his washing and managed perfectly well before he met you. Or maybe mummy did it but as you now know, she didn't have a tumble dryer and dried clothes at home snd it didn't bother him. Perhaps he now has a fixation phobia. The whinging would drive me nuts tho

I've started making my own washing detergent from conkers (see Nancy Birtwhistle) not the right time of year to forage for conkers, but worth a try later in the year.. It's one of my dh weekly jobs to make a batch up.

I would say generational. My nan said it, haven’t heard it for years.

Do you struggle with reading comprehension? The phrase is big girl's blouse, the meaning of the phrase is 'you're being feminine'.

If you want to use it that's fine, but it is a sexist phrase.

...not only that, but "you're being feminine...and therefore pathetic and weak".

He’s doing it so he never has to do the laundry.

What a weird thread! Can’t you just tell him to do his own washing if it’s an issue?

I also don’t get the weird sexist phrases and why op is defending it so much?

Yeah surely this is obvious? So weird! Op why do you call yourself Karen ironically but then say sexist stuff? I never get why women do this. It’s bad enough when men do it but come on!

Isn’t it pretty obvious if he is suffering from allergy reactions? Is he actually sneezing /sniffling and his eyes red etc? I don’t think many people can just sneeze whenever the want 🤧

if not, have you thought he may have some phobia or PTSD around wet clothing?

I’d suggest he see a specialist for one of the above!

Is he controlling in other ways op? If not then I think your looking at a phobia triggered by his army trauma.