To think my DH is being a big girls blouse about the the washing?

[KarenNotAKaren]

For years my DH Has allegedly been sensitive to wet washing - it makes him sneeze, wheeze and gives him itchy eyes. Apparently. He’s getting worse - when I simply take the washing out the machine he says within 30 seconds “Have you taken the washing out? It’s getting to my eyes already!” 🙄

I actually did an experiment in our last house. We had a kitchen living room open plan thing and when he was watching TV I very quietly unloaded the washing machine (he couldn’t see, TV was on loud too so couldn’t hear either) and left it all by the machine, and left the room. Came back 20 minutes later and he didn’t complain one bit or even clock on that he was in the same room as a pile of wet washing.

He won’t line dry his things because it makes his eyes itchy (🤷‍♀️). I can’t even have a sock drying on the radiator because it makes him sneeze apparently. I’d LOVE a heated airer as we spend an absolute fortune on tumble drying, but he’d make a right song and dance no doubt. Tumble drying is the only way he will dry his clothes. Even if I line dry mine he gets all dramatic if I come too close - “Oh god has that top been line dried - my eyes are itchy!”.

Weve just moved into a new home that has an integral washer/dryer. Well it doesn’t actually fucking dry anything? The ‘dryer’ part is a massive lie, so he wants to buy a separate washing machine AND dryer because apparently “I can’t live in a house with a condenser dryer it get to my eyes nose and lungs”. I sneered at him and he got really annoyed. I’d rather just stick with what we have and line dry things or get a heated airer.

I know I sound unsympathetic but I think he’s being so dramatic - I’ve asked his mum and he didn’t grow up with a tumble dryer, everything was dried on heaters and the washing line. He somehow survived childhood unscathed and his mum said he never had any issues. Yet as an adult all this OTT sneezing and “oh god it’s getting to my lungs that is” is going on - I just think he is being an attention seeker. No asthma. No respiratory issues.

Am I a horrible cow who needs to understand his sensitivities better? Do other people suffer like this just from being in the same room as a freshly washed sock? I’ve never heard of a single person who can’t be around wet washing. Or is he being the drama llama I think he is?

He walks around the bedroom in the buff ‘air drying’ 🥴

Big girls blouse

I've never read it as a blouse belonging to a big girl.

I've read as girls blouse ie soft, floaty, lacking strength.

Then being like a big idiot, big scaredy cat, you're a big "girls blouse"

He joined the army at 16, then lived with me after he left. So wasn’t domesticated until he was nearly 30! I mostly do the washing

Surely this is just his cast-iron 'excuse' for going nowhere near laundry?

He sometimes sneezes but his eyes don’t look particularly itchy and I have to strain to hear the wheezing. But if I say “You don’t sound wheezy” he gets huffy 🙄

Surely big girls blouse just means you're a big softy as blouses are soft and shirts are not.
Sorry I got sidetracked.

I mean the worst thing that happened to him in the Army wasn’t sock/wet clothes related, it was absolutely awful - his best friend was shot and killed next to him in Iraq and he had to drag his body into their nearby truck. This PTSD has manifested in a lot of ways (poor man goes through an absolute nightmare in a thunder storm) but I’m really not sure how it would relate to washing/allergies.

Oh do bore off with your armchair psychology, we are very kind and approach life with heaps of humour.

TYSM 🙏🏿

Oh give over 🙄

My username has 2 purposes:

1. Irony
2. reclaiming my lovely name that has been stolen by woman haters

Absolutely crying at some of your comments 🤣

Yes I tend to do washing and he irons but ONLY if the clothes have been tumble dried otherwise he resurrects the Victorian maiden act.

He’s bloody brilliant at ironing, he can make a perfectly straight crease in a pair of trousers, it’s quite sexy 😂

I hate to be the one to tell you, but soldiers are put on a charge if they don't keep their uniforms spick and span. Hence the sexy ironing.

Either he's wimping out of laundry or he has issues of some sort. Both need dealing with. Inform him that you're his wife, not his maid, and you're issuing a direct order to sort it out. The GP can only get him help if HE asks for it. Failing that, he's cleaning the family kegs for the foreseeable.

I hope this comes right for you.

To be clear - I don’t mind doing the washing because it’s a damn sight better than doing ironing and cooking (‘his’ jobs). But I CBA with this fannying on of what washing styles are and aren’t acceptable

I have a similar reaction to most types of detergent and softeners. Allergies can and do get worse over time, also humidity from drying indoors is also a problem for me. It can be horrendous at times. I'm incredibly grateful that my DH doesn't think I'm 'a big girls blouse ' when I'm ill. Would you say the same if he also carried epipens because of it?

Experiment the opposite way…

Tumble dry a load of washing and then hang the completely dry stuff on a clothes horse. See if he ‘reacts’ to it when he sees it. If he does, you’ll know if he’s allergic to the thought of it, and if he doesn’t, you’ll know that tumble drying genuinely solves the problem. Which would be really irritating, but at least you’ll know!

😂 you must be very sensitive as that’s hilarious. She’s not meaning it in malice. Lighten up a little.

Put him on keto diet to reset his histamine levels it worked for me

@mrsjoyfulprizeforraffiawork

Ah L.o.l 😂 you have beaten me to it , by your comment on hear...

@AlocasiaPolly

Obviously allergies should be taking seriously and suffers shown understanding,

but the way that @KarenNotAKaren husband comes across in her mumsnet thread op,
he comes across as just Whiny , he doesn't make any effort to do a bit of research explore which are the better more suitable clothes washing detergents out there,
and he can't be arsed to get off his backside make an effort to wash his own clothes or go vist the loca one l or the one that is in town etc,

as he is quite lazy and expects his wife to allways do the clothes washing, cause its traditionally a female task household duties such as this,

Why is he such a ,lazy sexist husband and expects his wife cause she posses a vagina and breasts to allways- be -the- one- the -go to- person in the household to do the freaken clothes washing and proberly all the household cleaning tasks too ,all the time,
he expects to be waited on as if that's what womenfolk are put on planet earth 🌏 for ect

If he is so particular about his allergies 🤧 why does he sit on arse and just Whine, and give instructions out to her in regards of how clothes washing should be like particular about this,
he is no longer in the army way of life,
i can't stand the whiny 🙄 it gets right under my skin too.

He is lucky he is not married to me as i would tell him to do his own clothes washing in future or vist any laundrette in town every time he needed to do this, come rain 🌧 shine even it was force gales winds,
he would have that kind of hazzle to contend with if he was married to someone like me,

tell him he should appreciate that he is not married to someone like myself L.o.l 🤣

Former Army guy stop ✋️ being such a freaking big girls blouse,

Man up for God's sake,

and stop being a wimp a wet soggy lettuce..

My DH is the same but I believe him, it's true ..wet clothes do hold loads of moisture and if your airt drying indoors it will cause the air to be damp. Buy a dehumidifier and you'll see. Our homes are airtight now to prevent heat loss so it's important that open windows etc. line drying can also set hay fever sufferers off as blowing pollen can catch on clothes. Luckily my DH isn't affected by line drying and if I have to dry clothes indoors, I double spin and I put them on an airer with dehumidifier. I don't think your dh is been a wet blouse at all. My DH won't let me light candles, incense and complains about perfume which is annoying but it's true, they're all hormone disruptors too

It seems quite a strange problem

i despise the smell of almost all washing detergents - heavy fragrance that makes my eyes hurt and makes me feel sick. However - that fragrance is easily smelt whilst the washer is going and it is definitely not removed by tumble drying. So I can’t really see how his problem could be fragrance if it’s just specifically wet washing he doesn’t like.

I like this, 😆