My dad is dating someone my age

[Illbebythesea]

New girlfriend & I are both early 30s, & we both have young children. DF is in his mid 50s. I know it is none of my business but it’s really knocked me for six and made me feel a bit… ew. Not much I can do anyway but… AIBU to feel this way? (My mother and all previous girlfriends have been much closer to his age or older.)

All those posters saying it’s fine. So as a woman of say 56, you would seriously date a man in his early 30s, say 33, the same age as your own son?
Seriously? You would bring your boyfriend to your sons house and introduce him to your son and grandchildren. You would expect your son to be over the moon whilst you sat there all touchy freely.
Good Lord no. I would not expect my son to be happy with that and I would feel very sorry for my sons friends if they were put in this situation.
Having a child at 56 isn’t great. Old, crap sperm. You can’t argue with biology.

@dottypotter

'Perfect way to lose your father.'

You are being over-dramatic...

The OP does not have to approve of every choice that her father makes.

I know someone who married a woman younger than his own children (he was 64). They’ve had 3 children, he can’t afford to retire and will need to work for at least the next 10 years, well into his 80’s, to support them. His wife is in her mid 30’s now.

They were all fine about it. I got on very well with both my SD - the older one sadly died not long after her father, but I'm close to the younger one and her children. My DS was very close to DH and thinks of him as his father.

She's in her 30s for goodness sake, not 18!

Some of the responses here are interesting. There was a thread on here recently from a 40 ish year old lady who had met a 60 ish year old man as was wondering if it would work. The resounding answer was no. The age gap was too big and they were at different points in their lives.

There are plenty of relationships that have an age gap and work well, I don't think that's what op is saying.

For me, the upsetting part is that my dad does indeed seem to be a seedy and misogynistic male. Women over 45 are not good enough for him and the idea of dating someone his own age receives a turned up nose and a yuk sound because he is indeed a child. When I was 18 I was told off for dating a 28 year old, of course his gf prior to this one was 24.

You might see them together and feel differently. It's not wrong in and of itself.

I also think my dad is being done over by a romance scam but he won't be told.

Ha ha yes this.