To have xl bully stay

[Worndownbyit]

My daughter has 2 dogs, one of which is an xl bully she has recently taken on. Personally I don't mind the xl, but I've grown up with animals, my husband hates the dog and has said that he doesn't want the dog coming when she comes to visit with our grandchildren.
I know this is going to cause a row and my daughter is likely to say she won't come down...(she lives at the opposite end of the country)
AIBU to tell her she can't bring the xl when she comes to visit or should my husband just suck it up?

@Fionafaorta you really are quite rude.

metro.co.uk/2023/12/28/mans-testicles-ripped-off-xl-bully-dog-attacked-woman-20033510/amp/

I don't blame your DH one bit.

It certainly wouldn't be coming in my house. Moreover, I wouldn't be visiting a house with a dog from a breed that has a history of killing people. It completely baffles me why people want to share their homes with large and potentially highly dangerous dogs.

You're willfully ignoring my point.

Dogs bite. For many reasons. Illness. Dementia. Stress. Poor training. Being scared...

But the size matters. If a 3kg dog bites for whatever reason it's unlikely to do much harm.

If a 20kg dog does the exact same thing someone could die.

Those are the facts and the reason I would never, ever allow a large breed around my kids. The risk is not worth it.

What is the point?

You can get plenty of small family breedsthe only reason the have any large powerful breed around kids is for status and to look hard.

That’s good to know OP.

I think when you asked should he suck it up, I thought that meant he doesn’t get a say.

I've seriously gone off xl bullies since 2 days ago early morning walk when 2 lunged at me and I fell over quite frightened! The owner got them away pretty quickly and her friend helped me get up and I sat on the wall to catch my breath.

Totally with your husband, as pp said just say no dogs.

Anyone with a dog stronger them deserves their bollocks ripped off to be fair.

I’ve had many dogs over the years and wouldn’t have one in my house. They terrify me.

@Fionafaorta I am not missing your point, I got it loud and clear and chose to ignore it since it’s not based on facts. It’s based on media hype.

Unfortunately, unless she is able to get a friend to look after the dog it's unlikely that she'll be able to visit as most kennels won't board them now. Can there be a compromise? And the dogs get kept in the kitchen? Or can you go and visit her instead?

@kitsuneghost
At least it was only 8 stitches.

What's the circumstances around your daughter taking on the XL, OP?

Obviously there are many coming up for re homing right now.

says it all

Your dh is scared of dogs, he’s the priority Animal feelings don’t trump human feelings
if daughter won’t come because of a dog that’s poor judgment but hey ho

It's media hype that when a dog bites the size of it makes a difference? 🤔

You think the media is lying about a bite from a Chihuahua being worse than a bite from an XL Bully?

I think the OP is a journo and never coming back 🤣

Yeah cause surely a man wouldn't be going in the kitchen.

I think dogs in the home is something where everyone needs to be okay with it or it’s a no go. Even with just visiting and regardless of the breed.

Agree

@Fionafaorta What?! There are killer chihuahuas?! OMG!!!!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Don't worry, my boy will eat them all!!!!!!!!!!! (sarcasm).

The hype ? This is why a ban is needed. People cannot be trusted to think critically or reasonably. A ban is not going to solve everything but it’s a start to taking the power from the hands of people who can’t/don’t understand why these dogs are so dangerous. There’s no point in discussing this topic though because you know the old saying ….

Christ, the hysteria on this thread!!! This dog already lives with a child, I would have absolutely no issue with her coming to my house and bringing the dog. Thousands of dogs are going to be destroyed come the New Year because a small percentage pose a possible risk. Far, far less risk than say, getting in a car, but don’t let that stop the mass panic.

And honestly, this legislation won’t make one bit of difference. The shitty breeders will merely create another, similar non banned type and off we go again. Dog ownership, of ANY breed, needs to be regulated and monitored. But, the government can’t be arsed to do that, so they ban this breed, the breeders make a different breed and the cycle begins again. Dogs are not responsible, people are.
Oh, and if you’ve dumped your XL bully because you can’t be arsed to get an exemption? You are in fact a complete asshole.

You know how people say it’s not the dog, it’s the owner? Well, this is potentially that situation.

*it’s 3 years old
*it hasn’t been spayed
*sounds like it hasn’t been trained if your DD is needing to take it to classes
*the previous owner has given up on it…

This is an incredibly strong breed that has been raised by someone who has potentially been irresponsible (they’ve not spayed it, they’ve not trained it, they’ve surrendered it rather than comply with the new rules).

Ive seen posts by XL owners saying that the dogs really change once they hit maturity, so just because your daughter knew this one as a pup absolutely does not mean it’s the same dog.

In summary, your DH is NBU

@Catslovenip But humans will just breed something else? even more dangerous.
(They already are according to fb).

I don't think that it comes across well that your husband doesn't want it in your house in case it attacks him, rather than the bigger issue of it attacking your grandchild. A dog like that shouldn't be anywhere near kids.