Being told what to order from takeaway..

[Beanz2022]

friend invited me round for drinks and food, she said we could get indian takeaway..(context, her and her husband are veggies) she text me one hour before and said would it be OK if you didn't order a meat dish as we don't allow meat in the house.. so I ended up having a vegetable curry which, I really hated.. she had whatever she wanted and thoroughly enjoyed it.. why invite me round if you know I eat meat and won't allow me to order what I want.

Ugh, 'kind food only'. My god that is so cringe and twee.

Well they'd run out of 'no corpses' please see.

The problem is that many pleasant vegetarian options have been replaced by foul 'vegan' things involving fake meat made from fungi that has no business being in a human meal.

"The friend should have at least said we can change to a pizza or something else. Ergo, friend was a bad host."

The friend asked if it was ok, the OP said it was fine, so how is friend supposed to know?

Keep telling yourself that.
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"I don't think a Muslim would ban other people from eating pork, and definitely not from drinking alcohol though, or a Hindu ban someone from eating beef."

My strictly religious friends would be absolutely mortified if someone brought unclean / offensive items into their home. It would be unspeakably rude so to do imo. If you are Jewish and keep a kosher kitchen, you already have two sets of plates, cutlery, etc. as you cannot use the same things for meat / chicken and dairy. A China plate, if someone put a pork on it, would have to be thrown away as it could never be considered kosher again.

Most "Indian" restaurants are in fact Bangladeshi or Pakistani @Squeezita

I cook genuine Indian food at home using recipes written by Indians and they bear no resemblance to what we can get at an Indian restaurant.

@TheCorrupter people don't really bring meat to a vegetarian's house, do they?

DD is vegetarian and niece is vegan. I wouldn't dream of bringing meat to either house. However, neither gets upset if people order takeaways with meat in, or orders a meat dish in a restaurant when eating out with them.

Yes people regularly try to bring meat to my house. I have to repeatedly tell some offenders.
And ordering a meat takeaway to my house I would consider 'bringing meat in'. The fact that the delivery guy puts it over the threshold is merely semantics.

Is it just takeaways then @TheCorrupter?
If I thought ordering a takeaway with meat in would upset my host I wouldn't do it.

It sounds like you need better friends.

In the circumstances I would have said "OK- what's good? How about you order for me?"

Get over yourself, another poster who is either incapable of reading the original post or condemning someone who doesn’t follow their own narrative.
Where did the poster mention or insinuate that they insist on meat at every meal? Cut people some slack will you?
OP next time they want Indian food, suggest you go out to eat. That way you get exactly the meal you want.
Your money, your choice, and no passive aggressive opinions/pressure put on you.

If you met me tomorrow in a social event, you would not have a clue that I am vegetarian. I will happily sit next to you in any social setting and pass no comment or judgement on what you eat. I will order and eat what suits me and, quite frankly, don’t give a shit what anyone else has. I’ve grown up sitting next to people eating meat and am not phased by it. Same goes for wearing animal products.

However, we are religious and do not have meat in our house in any circumstances. If you ordered a take away, the food would need to be in the house, our cutlery would be used to serve it and plates to eat it on.

This is one of the times I am so grateful MN is some parallel universe as not a single person I know considers it rude to have respect for another persons wishes when in their home. I agree OP should have had more notice but the way posters have spoken about this couple is horrible to read

Unlike OP’s friend, we pay when we host so I would not be in the situation of expecting someone else to pay for food that is a compromise. I do understand the OPs disappointment - I rarely eat out so the few times I do, I want specific things and don’t want to waste money on a second preference BUT I would suck it up because company was more important or tell the host I will come a bit later because the arrangement does not suit me.

I’m an almost lifelong vegetarian, and I don’t bang on about it. So, when I’m out and about, it wouldn’t be obvious.
If anyone comes to my house for a take away, I wouldn’t dream of telling them what to eat. However, I do think that this obsession about having meat with every meal over someone’s company quite weird too.
I would draw the line at someone wanting to bring something like a hog roast to my house TBH, and if I was cooking, the menu would be veggie. If someone though having meat was more important than my friendship we wouldn’t be friends.

I don’t need to “keep telling myself” that, because I’m right.

Especially in this day and age. Most people I thought are educated about health and climate and are trying to reduce their meat intake. But clearly not! Vast swathes of the population still need their ‘meat and two veg’ it seems. Or maybe just ‘meat’…

The irony of this made me laugh. India is the country where curry originates. The country which has the highest proportion of vegetarians in the world. Yet here in the UK, it’s ’meat that makes a curry’.

The thing is, I do think that vegan and vegetarian diets are largely healthier and better for the environment. So from that perspective, a vegan is superior to me. I am fine with that!

"....why invite me round if you know I eat meat and won't allow me to order what I want..." Perhaps they like you.

I think YABU, there are loads of options which are non meat from an Indian restaurant. Veggie curry is only one, there are always paneer options or just loads of starters and sides etc.

I do find ordering a portion just for yourself in a takeaway order weird. Surely it’s great to order with others so you can try different things!

If it’s an issue for you, you will know in future and just go out.

Thanks to this thread, I'm having an Indian takeaway for dinner.

I hope you get what YOU want to eat and now what someone else wants you to have 😂
(I am just kidding. There are some right weirdos on this thread!)

You'd have to pry Chicken Tikka Masala out of my cold, dead hands! 😂

People of the "I'll eat what I like" persuasion. Would that also apply if your friend had an allergy? Would you happily watch them keel over as you tucked into your satay chicken? If a host avoids certain foods for whatever reason and asks you not to bring/eat those foods when visiting it's their decision.