Husband GOT UP

[BlackWhiteWhatNow]

I WFH in a highly creative role. I find it impossible to work during holidays / weekends when people are hanging around the house randomly chatting to me when I'm attempting to concentrate (locking self in bedroom seems to be no barrier to kids/husband banging on door and requesting snacks etc. Sometimes they text me to ask stupid questions like where is the milk etc).

Husband reliably sleeps in when he doesn't need to get up for something, he works in construction and is off this week.

I creep downstairs this morning for a couple of hours of peace / work and husband immediately pops up, yawning, asking for cup of tea. AIBU to demand of him why the hell he hasn't stayed in the bloody bedroom? He has NOTHING ON today. He is currently sitting there, slurping tea, breathing very loudly, preventing me from concentrating.

Go on then, flame me (it's his house too, etc etc, blah blah) but jeez I've had to put up with so many people in my face and space this week I might kill him

No I don't have an office

Yes the bedroom is cold and it doesn't have tea or coffee making facilities

I think Christmas might have broken me.

I don't know what you do for a living OP, but I find it mindboggling that so many posters on here seem so sneery about the fact that any kind of creative work does require peace and quiet, and that it's impossible if you have a house full of noisy demanding people. I hope you get some respite soon when the schools etc go back.

Did he get up again today @BlackWhiteWhatNow ?

LTB if so 😁

Sounds annoying. Why couldn't he make his own tea? For all my husbands faults he always makes a cuppa first thing for everyone, I don't but I make coffee out of the machine (sorry not relevant I know)

Does he also always make one even though someone else is doing it right at that moment?

I find it mind-boggling that anyone can think it is reasonable for anyone to expect the peace and quiet needed to do such work while sat in the kitchen of a shared dwelling during the Christmas holidays and then call people pointing that out "sneery". But that's clearly just me I guess.

OP needs to find a better place to work and to stop blaming her husband for her not doing so to date.

No..that would be weird

well, that's what you think the OP's DH should be doing. She was making tea when he asked.

It's usually a good idea to read all of the OP's posts.

You need a space to work in

you cleared the fact up about the tea you were making one so he asked for one which is fair enough .I think people thought you were working and he came down demanding you make him a cup of tea

there have been post after post about partners working from home and the overwhelming response is normally to take themselves off to the bedroom or go to the office
and it’s the kids home so unreasonable to keep them quiet

get yourself organised and setup in the bedroom and if need be a notice on the door

I thought she was sitting down working, no need to be a cow

@Justia no he has learned his lesson thankfully

@BlackWhiteWhatNow In your shoes, I would be using flash cards whenever annoyed :)

Eg. Look at the clock, Use the toaster, I am working.

Or not try and do high concentration work in a kitchen.

Sometimes the kitchen table is the only one large enough to spread out your stuff on - especially if you are working in a creative area.

I used to put together language activities for people who had suffered strokes and head injuries - they were of all sorts of abilities/ capabilities, and I needed at least some tasks that could be made more challenging/ more accessible for a group of 12 all involved in the same sort of task, but with widely differing skills.

I had stuff all over the place.

Sorry I think you are totally unreasonable. It is husband and children’s home. you should sort out a proper workspace -hire one if you have to. You have no travelling or office wear expenses to come out of your salary. If your job is so important and you are so grouchy that you can’t cope with minimal interruptions from people you love I’d hate to sit next to you in an office.

HE DID IT AGAIN

I think: I'll get up early for a little bit of alone time since i've been toiling for the extended family for the last week and they are all going to stay in bed since they all stayed up so very late last night and I didn't get any alone time then because I was serving all their needs like the hostess that I am

and yes, I get up, stick kettle on, just enough water for me (I got so much flack for this part at Christmas), pour water into cup, sit down at laptop and I hear

COUGH COUGH THUD THUD husband has awoken and he is now in the kitchen saying, 'didn't you make me any tea?' NO You WERE ASLEEP

He has nothing to do today, WHAT IS HE PLANNING? He sleeps in reliably when I have to get the kids up and out ffs

Jesus the farting, the dishwasher faffing, he has put the RADIO ON

I hope the police don't see this thread because he might be dead soon

And before you ask, YES I DID MENTION IT LAST TIME and I implied that in the holidays I would encourage him to sleep in like he does at inconvenient times of his own choosing

GAH

Go back to bed with your tea.

Have you tried being The Husband? Because mine can work on his laptop all day without the kids asking him anything!

Can your husband not make tea?