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Moonshine5 · 2023-12-28T10:12:00+00:00

Mumsnet was always a *safe space* to me, a community of women for women and recently I have noticed an influx of husbands on here. Can't women have anything just for themselves?_I_ _t's getting on my nerves!_ (I'm not talking about same sex marriage / partners and I believe in equality). AINBU Men please seek alternative forms 😊 AIBU Men belong here 🙄

PhotoDad · 04/02/2024 15:32

I would like to think that my contributions to threads, and the couple of threads I've started myself, are valuable. However, I tend to stick to a very small area of MN. @Annieawakelate is right that there are lots of places to learn about DIY, but some of the things that I talk about here are pretty niche (e.g. applications to art schools, or the support threads around my DCs' interests and age cohorts).

I have taken to using a gender-neutral name and not mentioning my sex when on other threads, though.

WhateverMate · 04/02/2024 15:47

Annieawakelate · 04/02/2024 15:17

I write with humour and compassion as best can, and not against men per se - I married one. I simply agree - as do 39 per cent of those who voted - with the OP's opening statement. And if discount the male vote who'd be invariably for, then I suspect the result closer to 50/50. Which doesn't warrant the use of caps, bold, and italics, and quoting out of context. All this shouting isn't winning me over. Only Deathbyfluffy answered eloquently. And Piglet John's plumbing advice may be helpful, but lots of dedicated DIY forums.

Only Deathbyfluffy answered eloquently.

So a man then? 🤣🤣🤣

5128gap · 04/02/2024 15:50

TeapotTitties · 04/02/2024 12:12

What might sway me a little is if someone can provide a link to a post where we can all think thank goodness a man was here, we'd never have got there without.

Fascinating way of looking at things.

Can you provide a link where other posters can think thank goodness you were here, we'd never have got there without?

Mumsnet is a massively diverse public forum with an abundance of topics that suit lots of different people, regardless of what they might have between their legs.

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I've been on countless threads where a poster has said something extremely inspired, insightful or just plain hilarious, and thought, I'm so glad you're on here, because you've educated me, given me a new perspective, or simply made me laugh out loud. Never once have I felt this way because the poster announced 'Man here...!'. Partly because I don't subscribe to the view that one individual man can give a 'male perspective', only his own. Partly because I feel a disproportionate amount of my time goes on hearing men talk. In the upper echelons at work, in politics, media, sports, in social groups. So its really great to have a space where I can listen to women for a change.

WhateverMate · 04/02/2024 16:04

I've been on countless threads where a poster has said something extremely inspired, insightful or just plain hilarious, and thought, I'm so glad you're on here, because you've educated me, given me a new perspective, or simply made me laugh out loud.

How do you know some of those posters weren't men?

EBearhug · 04/02/2024 16:57

TeapotTitties · 04/02/2024 14:10

now, what contributions have youmade that have proved enlightening to the mothers present thus justifying your presence here?

I'd love to see the answer to this, although I have a feeling he or she won't be providing it.

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Just think if we had to rate each other's posts, and only those who received over a certain rating after their first X amount of posts or Y of time were allowed to continue as worthy enough...

SoupDragon · 04/02/2024 17:11

Annieawakelate · 04/02/2024 15:17

I write with humour and compassion as best can, and not against men per se - I married one. I simply agree - as do 39 per cent of those who voted - with the OP's opening statement. And if discount the male vote who'd be invariably for, then I suspect the result closer to 50/50. Which doesn't warrant the use of caps, bold, and italics, and quoting out of context. All this shouting isn't winning me over. Only Deathbyfluffy answered eloquently. And Piglet John's plumbing advice may be helpful, but lots of dedicated DIY forums.

you can't just amend the vote with imaginary numbers just so it backs you up.

I'm not seeing a whole lot of humour or compassion - can you give examples to prove this?

SoupDragon · 04/02/2024 17:13

EBearhug · 04/02/2024 16:57

Just think if we had to rate each other's posts, and only those who received over a certain rating after their first X amount of posts or Y of time were allowed to continue as worthy enough...

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Only if I can be "grandfathered" in despite posting a lot of nonsense because I've been here virtually forever.

5128gap · 05/02/2024 08:34

WhateverMate · 04/02/2024 16:04

I've been on countless threads where a poster has said something extremely inspired, insightful or just plain hilarious, and thought, I'm so glad you're on here, because you've educated me, given me a new perspective, or simply made me laugh out loud.

How do you know some of those posters weren't men?

I don't. Which is to an extent, my point. If men want to be on here as any other poster, contributing to discussions as equals, not dominating, keeping their opinions to themselves about things that as men they are not qualified to speak about, rather than this 'as a man, i think youre wrong' business; not pushing MRA agendas; not interrupting discussions where women are talking about issues that effect us, like male violence for example, to inform us about a time a woman behaved badly to them; not heading off with 'from a male perspective' as though they've suddenly been elected spokesperson for their sex; not announcing 'man here' and expecting more attention to their comments because of that; then I'd not be any the wiser.

Coshei · 05/02/2024 10:21

What a depressing thread