Mother priorities her dogs over everything.

[Angrymum198]

I feel really upset tonight and I don’t know if I am exaggerating. My mum has two rescue dogs that she absolutely dotes on. They rule her life. She can’t be out the house more than a couple of hours, she has to be at home at 3pm as that when they eat.
she doesn’t welcome anyone into her house as it upsets the dogs.
Tonight I went round her house with my three young children and husband and her dog was barking and growling at my one year old. I tried to calmly remove him from the living room and my mum went mad.
I then stormed out and left. I feel that she puts their welfare before any of her grandchildren. She has 6 other grandchildren that don’t feel welcome at her house because of these dogs.

Thats just YOUR opinion. Just because someone gas a different view from you doesn't make them 'bizarre'. So many posters on here seem to think that their world view is the only correct world view. Its not. If you read my post you'll see I suggest respect and compromise are the best ways forward, not insulting people by calling them bizarre and insisting that they have their priorities wrong 🤷🏼‍♀️.

Why would you hate all dogs? That sounds very unusual and rather closed-minded tbh. And to say that dogs are 'taking over' the country? I think you DO sound angry and very dismisdive of the feelings of people who love their companion/working animals.

Same as you with the same number of dog owning years!!

I agree with you. It's batshit. Can't leave the dog for an hour? That's an owner-made problem. No need to live like that unless you've a dog with major health issues or inherited a dog with major separation anxiety/behaviour problems.

A well reared, adjusted, healthy dog can be left for more than an hour fgs! But if you want to live your life as a martyr that's up to you!

My DM does. She used to be a sensible sane woman but now a few years living alone, she's going batshit and she's not senile yet. The dog is the absolute priority now it can snarl and snap at her teenage DC but gets a cuddle for it's efforts 😅 she says she can't go anywhere or leave it with anyone that it doesn't like which apparently is nearly everyone! Not many people visit her because her dog is a spoiled little shit. She wonders why people don't visit. It's tedious.

😂 My DM is the same but her poor pickle baby is her dog. She talks to it more than she talks to us when we visit and won't visit us because it's too long to leave the dog! Luckily my DC are old enough to laugh at her ever increasing looniness!

Very well said 👏

We have 9 dogs. We compete with them and they're our pets so we certainly understand and love dogs.

Too many people have dogs but don't have a clue how to look after them properly. However they think they're the best owners in the world and they put themselves and their dogs above other people (and their animals). Hence all the dog attacks on people, pets and livestock.

I would wager that the shit owners outnumber the responsible decent ones nowadays. Ones that actually understand dogs and how their brains work.

@Crazycrazylady I call my cat my baby. Joke with the kids about him being their little brother and replacing them with cats when they leave but they firmly know they are far more loved and important to me than the cat, and I do bloody love him.

Having been quite badly bitten by a relatives dog when I was a very young child, I trust no dog, don't want any near me. They turn my stomach.

As far as the feelings of owners and their companions, I have no concern for them. I keep away from them.

Hmm-you sound nice and full of the Christmas spirit, compassion & all that-not. Sorry to hear you were bitten by a dog-not all dogs are nasty, any more than all people are nasty. But some are, clearly.

I can understand why you’re hurt. Your mother is prioritising her poorly trained dogs over the safety of her grandchildren and her relationship with her own children- that’s going to be tough for anyone.

You need to start saying no to any of you doing jobs in their house- if she won’t control her dogs it isn’t safe.

Iv always thought the same.
Why do people think everyone should love and accept their dogs just because they do ..barmy

Gosh there are some crazy dog owners on here.

It's a very sad situation. I think your DM has chosen to prioritise her dogs over her relationship with her children and grandchildren and will probably regret it when the dogs are gone and she doesn't see her family.

I agree..some of these are nut jobs

Thé whole dog thing in Britain now is just weird. Every other household seems to have at least one dog, lots have more than one and as far as I can tell ( live on a major dog walking lane) many of the same household dogs don’t even like each other, let alone other household’s dogs. At least half don’t seem to pay much attention to what the human half of the relationship says or suggests the dog does.

Dog rules house seems to be the norm, I can’t / won’t visit a very good friend since her dog bit me ( and no, I was just sitting quietly in the guest chair, not in the Holy Dog chair). I wasn’t even looking at it.

I think they are the first wave of the Alien invasion, they are softening lots of people up so that when they take over completely, their devotees will just be saying ‘ he’s really friendly’ ‘ he’s only playing’ , as they don their harness to go to work (walkies).

Snuffly panty barky things , thé neighbour's cat calls them.

Very odd. Maybe seek help for that.

I also hate them. Alot. More so their awful owners!!!

That is just bizarre. It is irrational to hate someone on the basis they have a dog, and nothing else.

YANBU. It’s insanity to put her grandchildren at risk for her dog. It’s also unfair of your mother to not put the dog in another room, rather than risk it biting someone.
i would not go there again. I love dogs and I have kids, but to protect both in this scenario your mother was being ridiculous.

It's not the fact they own a dog. Most don't class themselves as owners, but parents- that grinds my gears. They act entitled like their pets are equal to humans and can do no wrong. It baffles me. Their houses when you visit are full of hairs, you leave covered, it's not nice. Blasting 20 pics of "aww look at Bruno in his santa hat" 🙄🙄🙄 no ta. Bore off

All the parents I know blast 100+photos of their kid all the time. Birthdays, start of term photos (in front of their front door), xmas photos (in front of a pile of presents) etc. I don't like kids, so it is insufferable.
My house might be full of dog hair, but it is also full of my hair. Who gives a shit?

You don't clearly. If you're happy living in a smelly home etc good for you. Animals are boring 😴 people who pander to them are even worse. Dog mums 🤣 have a word. It's a pet you own.

I get sent sooooooo many boring pics of peoples kids so I send back pics of my dog. You bore me, I bore you right back!

It is hurtful when "close" family uses pets or allows their pets behaviour to be a wall to exclude seeing family whether intentionally or not. Family is supposed to be life long, and you can't expect them to ping back with a healthy relationship after 15-20 years when the pet has died (if there's not a rolling chain of them).

It's generally not a healthy situation for the pets involved anyway.

In my case it's been about cats, and the current generation of cats is treated very differently to the generations of cats I grew up with and they are not happier and healthier for being babied than treated as cats. The house is an unpleasant cat toilet because they're barely allowed out. DM won't leave them for a few hours to manage meeting away from the house. Phone calls are terminated because it's the cats' dinner time/ bedtime etc. There's no real interest in my life or the DCs'

I notice with the unfortunately high number of inept dog owners that I encounter when out, that they have no concept of acceptable boundaries around other humans or reading human behaviour, so it's not actually surprising that they're fucking useless at managing the needs and behaviour of a different species and oblivious to the stress (and sometimes harm) that their untrained, feral animals inflict on the rest of society.

@BogRollBOGOF My dogs have all been very well trained, I just happen to prefer them to kids, people in general etc etc

Unless you and @BogRollBOGOF know one another, she wasn’t talking about you.

Sounds like these dogs will isolate your mum which is a real shame for her too.

I think you should have asked her to contain the dog one way or another rather than decide that for yourself. I wouldn’t appreciate someone moving my old boy but I also feel for you here. It must be upsetting to feel you & your children are not a priority.