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DSD taking home the vodka she brought to 'contribute' to Christmas

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Twigletgirl27 · 26/12/2023 12:15

My DSD is 31 and for context doesn't work, I don't think she ever had in the 13 years I've known her. She has a flat about 20 miles from us.

She comes to us for Christmas every year and her dad asks her to bring a contribution for the day, which is usually the alcohol she drinks. I wouldn't dream of asking for money towards the meal but feel bringing something is the right and thoughtful thing to do (though she needs to be reminded every year).....

She brought vodka and seemed to have a few, mixed with coke, over Christmas Eve and Christmas Day which she made herself. However this morning when packing to go a two thirds full bottle of vodka is with her stuff to take home. So clearly she has been drinking our booze and even this tiny contribution to the day she is taking home.

Her dad says he will speak to her at some point. I know she'd make a scene, shouting and slamming doors (yes, at 31...) so today probably wasn't a good day, but am I being petty and unreasonable expecting her to leave the vodka here? I would have happily drank it!

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Bellyblueboy · 26/12/2023 19:30

mapleriver · 26/12/2023 19:28

@Bellyblueboy Yes but that's some people's reality and they don't deserve to be called worthless for it. I wouldn't have a problem with someone calling it sad she has never been employed, just reading through the first few posts and seeing people call her a waste of space because she's not employed was a bit disgusting to me, she probably has mental health issues if she's not working and I'm sure she'd rather be without them. OP too didn't sound like there was much love into the not working comment.
There are also alot of people who DO work that have a lack of luxuries, holidays, life experiences and security.

I think we agree more than you think.

and I said little luxuries - I wasn’t thinking an audi😂

Housebuyer37 · 26/12/2023 19:33

Neither my parents or PIL have ever asked for a contribution to Christmas, actually MIL gets a bit offended if we do take something! I also got sent home with 2 bottles of red yesterday!

I was in my brothers today and they've sent me home with gin as it won't get drank there.

A contribution is polite but not the end of the world. I'd let it go.

DitheringBlidiot · 26/12/2023 19:34

PurBal · 26/12/2023 13:11

At the point her contribution is a single bottle of vodka I really couldn’t be bothered. Also, who over the age of thirty drinks vodka anyway? I’m a couple of years older and I wouldn’t want it in the house. I’d probably end up chucking it. When we “contribute” to Christmas at our parents we usually take a case of wine/champagne, some nice chocolate and snacks. We’re not asked. If we are asked we’d do cheese, charcuterie, pudding or similar in addition. The fact she seems to have a small income makes it doubly not worth bothering with.

Behave yourself.. a case of wine 😂 you surely must know that's not the norm. Especially not for what seems to be a single person household on a very low income.

Gardeningtime · 26/12/2023 22:14

Also, who over the age of thirty drinks vodka anyway

seriously? You think vodka is only drunk by folks in their 20s? 😂

I’m knocking on 50 and quite like a vodka tonic. But we always have vodka,gin, rum, etc in, along with wine/champagne/prosecco.

first I’ve heard there is an age limit on vodka.,😂

TinselTitts · 26/12/2023 22:22

Gardeningtime · 26/12/2023 22:14

Also, who over the age of thirty drinks vodka anyway

seriously? You think vodka is only drunk by folks in their 20s? 😂

I’m knocking on 50 and quite like a vodka tonic. But we always have vodka,gin, rum, etc in, along with wine/champagne/prosecco.

first I’ve heard there is an age limit on vodka.,😂

There's been plenty bizarre comments on this thread but that was definitely in the top 5 for me, and I don't even like vodka 🤣🤣

When I did bar work, vodka tonic and gin and tonic were by far the most popular drinks and that was only a few years ago.

Plus I hear it's pretty popular in Russia Xmas Wink

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 26/12/2023 22:26

Drinks have an age limit even once you're over 18?
Where am I with my love of tequila at 46?
Does this meet your approval 🤔

Gardeningtime · 26/12/2023 22:26

TinselTitts · 26/12/2023 22:22

There's been plenty bizarre comments on this thread but that was definitely in the top 5 for me, and I don't even like vodka 🤣🤣

When I did bar work, vodka tonic and gin and tonic were by far the most popular drinks and that was only a few years ago.

Plus I hear it's pretty popular in Russia Xmas Wink

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Agree, one of those incredibly bizzare comments. 😂

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 26/12/2023 22:29

Gardeningtime · 26/12/2023 22:26

Agree, one of those incredibly bizzare comments. 😂

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I've been on here around 18 years and yet it still surprises me.
What are we supposed to be drinking does anyone know?

Gardeningtime · 26/12/2023 22:40

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 26/12/2023 22:29

I've been on here around 18 years and yet it still surprises me.
What are we supposed to be drinking does anyone know?

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Wine or champagne it seems, but just at Xmas…😄

TinselTitts · 26/12/2023 22:44

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 26/12/2023 22:29

I've been on here around 18 years and yet it still surprises me.
What are we supposed to be drinking does anyone know?

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A mug of cocoa if you're over 30!

OnTheBoardwalk · 26/12/2023 22:53

Are you skint OP? Are there money issues?

I’d be upset going to my Dad's house having to bring my own drink and from your post not feeling welcome

TroglodytesTroglodytes · 26/12/2023 22:57

I’m well over 30 and have drunk vodka this Christmas. Probably too much as I’m looking forward to dry January. Had no idea that vodka was socially unacceptable at my age!

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 26/12/2023 22:59

TinselTitts · 26/12/2023 22:44

A mug of cocoa if you're over 30!

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Oh right.
Yeah, fuck that!

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 26/12/2023 23:09

Gardeningtime · 26/12/2023 22:40

Wine or champagne it seems, but just at Xmas…😄

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A teeny wee sherry?
Is that acceptable for ancient um 46yr olds?

TinselTitts · 26/12/2023 23:12

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 26/12/2023 23:09

A teeny wee sherry?
Is that acceptable for ancient um 46yr olds?

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Just a small one to take the chill out of those ancient bones 🤣

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 26/12/2023 23:18

Ah yes, just a teeny one or I'll be a binge drinker aswell as ancient.

Kisskiss · 27/12/2023 01:12

DuplicateUserName · 26/12/2023 13:08

Have you missed the fact she's unemployed?

All these posts from people who are privileged enough to not have to think about taking 2/3 of a bottle of vodka home to possibly see in the new year 🙄

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Actually, I have been unemployed for a stint and previously was a skint foreign student too. And no, I didn’t bring back half consumed gifts I’d brought my hosts , even then.
also, alcohol is not a necessity, so no, you don’t NEED a bottle of vodka to see in new years actually

LinnieM · 27/12/2023 05:22

Can’t say I’m surprised that the OP hasn’t been back…

vodkaredbullgirl · 27/12/2023 07:57

I'm in my 50s and prefer vodka, hence the username 😂.

TerrysChocolateOrange · 27/12/2023 14:08

@LinnieM

Probably wandered off to play with his or hers X Box or what ever else Santa brought them, or they have an essay due in as soon as they get back to school. 🙄🤐😁

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