Mum wouldn't let my newborn put on Christmas outfit

[sleepsuitbag]

I'm got my mum helping with the newborn and u bought a Christmas outfit. I wanted to put him in it last night for cuddles etc. she said no. At 11.30 today (going to relatives m for 2pm) I suggested again - again no.

AIBU in thinking I can dress my child in whatever I want, whatever I want and she needs to back down. She said he might dirty it - well stop changing nappy straight away as baby isn't finish pooing.

people in need should not be dissuaded from seeking help.
a woman whom i know of, alone with a small baby told a friend she felt she could not cope.
that person contacted her midwife for advice.
the midwife came to the mother and stayed with her until the ambulance that she had summoned arrived.
they took mother and baby to general hosp where she was admitted and a person sat with her all day and night.
she had been told to bring her mobile and hand in the charger.
the next day she was taken by ambulance to a mother and baby unit in the countryside, where she learned how to look after her baby, and received counselling and group therapy.

she stayed for a couple of months, grew in confidence.
it saved her life. and baby's.

@alexdgr8
But that is a case for immediate help. The act of telling her friend, whilst she was alone with a baby, that she could no longer cope is a signal that immediate help is needed.
This poster isn’t caring for her child; her mum is. She isn’t alone. She isn’t about to kill herself or her child. She has been diagnosed PND, which means her GP will be managing her care. A&E won’t do anything.

I'm wondering this too. The way OP is replying to posters trying to help is familiar. If it is, she's had a name change.

What does that scenario have to do with the OP?

Op you’ve had some kind replies but I’ll add mine- I hope you recover soon (and you will, although it may not feel like it now)

I think it’s unwise to keep posting AIBU threads; certainly getting into online arguments will make you feel worse.

if you want to keep posting, I’d advise prefacing threads with some context and a brief explanation of your situation and PND diagnosis.
MN can be amazingly supportive- try a different section (mental health or pregnancy and birth boards) and open up if you want advice.

I don’t think the comments demonising your mum are particularly helpful.

Your mum is undoubtedly worried and trying to support you- even if she’s not doing everything right or is a bit clumsy in her approach. She probably thinks it’s best to “take over” so you can rest.

An honest conversation with your mum would help. Opening up is difficult so you could involve your midwife when she visits to air your worries/concerns.
What you want matters- you matter.

Be kind to yourself- you will recover with time and support

wise words.