To think this is madness and not safe?!

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17 year old DD is saying she is going out this evening to meet an 18 year old lad who she's never met before and knows nothing about. We live in the middle of nowhere- apparently he's "getting dropped off" near our house and she's "going for a walk" with him. She's chatted to him over FaceTime and text and they have mutual friends apparently but essentially she knows nothing about him. She plans to just walk around in the dark and cold in a rural area with him (lots of unlit areas). I've told her this is madness and to meet him somewhere lit and safe like a pub / cafe / restaurant for a proper date. She won't listen.

Am I overreacting?!

did it really have you all rolling around laughing?

I’d have a chat with her in a day or two.

She put a man (even putting aside the danger side to fact she’d never him before!) above her baby sister and her mother… that’s not a good sign about her stance on men and relationships. So definitely worth a chat.

@nutster

Yes, we all laughed 😂 admittedly, things are funnier when you've had a few drinks at Christmas I suppose 😂

Yes. I plan to have a chat with her properly about safety as a woman - I mean we've done that sort of chat before, but maybe time to revisit!

yes safety of course

but i meant more in terms of priorities

I think any family would find that hilarious. I know mine would.

Especially if you're nothing like the shameless family/

So glad it went well and that he seems like a nice person. I remember being 17 and dating. It’s so easy to get swept up at that age and by nature teens are more trusting.

I remember walking home on my own at 17 through my quiet home town gone midnight. I’d told my mum I was walking home with a few people who lived on the same estate, but for some reason they decided to stay at the house party and I was tired and wanted to go. I had absolutely no fear at all, despite walking past a bloke standing randomly on his own. I just assumed if he came after me that I could punch him! (Oh the confidence of youth!) I look back now over 20 years later and can’t believe how many unsafe situations I put myself in.
I still haven’t told my mum I did that!

but nothing you just actually is in any way beneficial to your daughter or indeed parenting at all. It’s just someone worrying (but not so much as to actually miss toddler bath time)

oooh sorry! zombie thread!!